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# If one is owed money but the borrower refuses to pay, then the lender doesn't need to forgive him. <ref> Rambam Hilchot Teshuvah 2:9. </ref> | # If one is owed money but the borrower refuses to pay, then the lender doesn't need to forgive him. <ref> Rambam Hilchot Teshuvah 2:9. </ref> | ||
# If a person said Lashon Hara about his fellow and it didn't cause any harm there is no need to ask forgiveness from that person, but still must get forgiveness from Hashem. <ref> Chofetz Chaim Hilchot Lashon Hara 4:12. </ref> | # If a person said Lashon Hara about his fellow and it didn't cause any harm there is no need to ask forgiveness from that person, but still must get forgiveness from Hashem. <ref> Chofetz Chaim Hilchot Lashon Hara 4:12. </ref> | ||
# If a person said Lashon Hara (evil speech) about his fellow and his fellow doesn't know about it some say that one should just ask forgiveness from his fellow in a general way and not spell out that he said Lashon Hara against him, however, others say that one specify that one did speak Lashon Hara about him. <ref> Shalmei Moad (pg 56) and Moadim u'Zmanim 1:54 quote Rav Yisrael Salanter who says that if one spoke Lashon Hara about one's fellow and he doesn't know about it that one should just ask forgiveness in a general way, while the Chafetz Chaim 4:12 argues that one must specify that one spoke Lashon Hara. However, if specifying what the Lashon Hara was will embarrass the victim, he writes in Mishnah Berurah 606:3 that the speaker doesn't need to elaborate about what he said. Yalkut Yosef 606:16 rules like Rav Yisrael Salanter </ref> | # If a person said Lashon Hara (evil speech) about his fellow that caused harm and his fellow doesn't know about it some say that one should just ask forgiveness from his fellow in a general way and not spell out that he said Lashon Hara against him, however, others say that one specify that one did speak Lashon Hara about him. <ref> Shalmei Moad (pg 56) and Moadim u'Zmanim 1:54 quote Rav Yisrael Salanter who says that if one spoke Lashon Hara about one's fellow and he doesn't know about it that one should just ask forgiveness in a general way, while the Chafetz Chaim 4:12 argues that one must specify that one spoke Lashon Hara. This is how he is quoted in the book A Lesson a Day page 28 as well. However, if specifying what the Lashon Hara was will embarrass the victim, he writes in Mishnah Berurah 606:3 that the speaker doesn't need to elaborate about what he said. Yalkut Yosef 606:16 rules like Rav Yisrael Salanter </ref> | ||
# Preferably the asking of forgiveness should be done in person unless there is a better chance of having the person accept your grant if done through a messenger. <ref> Mishnah Berurah 606:2 </ref> | # Preferably the asking of forgiveness should be done in person unless there is a better chance of having the person accept your grant if done through a messenger. <ref> Mishnah Berurah 606:2 </ref> | ||
# If you are sure that the person that you offended has forgiven you some poskim nevertheless require that you go and humble yourself before them and ask for forgiveness while and other poskim say that you have achieved the desired result and there is no need to go ask specifically. <ref> Devar Yehoshua 5:20 says that's enough while Moadim U'zmanim 1:55 quotes poskim that you still need to ask. see also Pele Yoetz on Teshuvah and Hirhurei Teshuvah, pg. 123. </ref> | # If you are sure that the person that you offended has forgiven you some poskim nevertheless require that you go and humble yourself before them and ask for forgiveness while and other poskim say that you have achieved the desired result and there is no need to go ask specifically. <ref> Devar Yehoshua 5:20 says that's enough while Moadim U'zmanim 1:55 quotes poskim that you still need to ask. see also Pele Yoetz on Teshuvah and Hirhurei Teshuvah, pg. 123. </ref> | ||
