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#According to Ashkenazim, some permit one man to seclude with 3 or more women unless in profession he deals with women.<ref>Rama E.H. 22:5</ref> Others forbid.<Ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:14</ref> | #According to Ashkenazim, some permit one man to seclude with 3 or more women unless in profession he deals with women.<ref>Rama E.H. 22:5</ref> Others forbid.<Ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:14</ref> | ||
## Those who are lenient about this allow one man with three women even at night in extenuating circumstances.<ref>Igrot Moshe 4:65:20</ref> | |||
#According to Sephardim, one man may not be secluded with multiple women.<ref>Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Ishut EH Siman 22:10. According to Yam Shel Shlomo (Kiddushin Siman 20) and Sh"t Maharsham 3:152, one man with two women is a biblical prohibition. Sh"t Chavot Yair 73 holds it is only rabbinically forbidden. See also Sh"t HaRashba 1:587.</ref> | #According to Sephardim, one man may not be secluded with multiple women.<ref>Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Ishut EH Siman 22:10. According to Yam Shel Shlomo (Kiddushin Siman 20) and Sh"t Maharsham 3:152, one man with two women is a biblical prohibition. Sh"t Chavot Yair 73 holds it is only rabbinically forbidden. See also Sh"t HaRashba 1:587.</ref> | ||
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##What is considered a close relationship such that there is no leniency of having one's husband in the city? Some say that even a professional acquaintance is considered a close relationship, while others limit it to a step-sibling or a relative.<ref>Aruch Hashulchan EH 22:6 held that a professional acquaintance is considered libo gas ba but the Tzitz Eliezer 40:12:2 disagreed and quotes the Chida in Shaar Yosef 3 who is lenient. </ref> | ##What is considered a close relationship such that there is no leniency of having one's husband in the city? Some say that even a professional acquaintance is considered a close relationship, while others limit it to a step-sibling or a relative.<ref>Aruch Hashulchan EH 22:6 held that a professional acquaintance is considered libo gas ba but the Tzitz Eliezer 40:12:2 disagreed and quotes the Chida in Shaar Yosef 3 who is lenient. </ref> | ||
#Some poskim hold that this only applies if the husband can come at any moment but not if a person knows that their husband isn't coming home until a certain time since he's at work or is involved with a specific task.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:6 is strict if the man has a job and can't come home in the middle of the day that it isn't considered baala b'ir even though technically he is in the same city as her. However, if he works for himself and can come home whenever he wants then the leniency of being in the city does permit her in yichud.</ref> Others are lenient.<ref>Yalkut Yosef EH 22:7 is lenient even if the husband is on the other side of town or he doesn't know in where his wife currently is.</ref> | #Some poskim hold that this only applies if the husband can come at any moment but not if a person knows that their husband isn't coming home until a certain time since he's at work or is involved with a specific task.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:6 is strict if the man has a job and can't come home in the middle of the day that it isn't considered baala b'ir even though technically he is in the same city as her. However, if he works for himself and can come home whenever he wants then the leniency of being in the city does permit her in yichud.</ref> Others are lenient.<ref>Yalkut Yosef EH 22:7 is lenient even if the husband is on the other side of town or he doesn't know in where his wife currently is.</ref> | ||
#Some poskim hold that this leniency does not apply if she's not at her own home.<ref>Chachmat Adam 126:6</ref> Others are lenient in extenuating circumstances.<ref>Igrot Moshe 4:65:21</ref> | |||
====Wife Protecting Husband==== | ====Wife Protecting Husband==== | ||
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===Different rooms=== | ===Different rooms=== | ||
#Many authorities hold that one man may not be in the same house as a woman even if they are in different rooms.<ref>Sh"t Igrot Moshe 4:65:19. [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/762691/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Does_Closing_the_Door_Help_Save_Yichud_Problems Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz] explains that even though Rav Moshe is strict there are some are opinions who are lenient but does not give a final ruling. See also Salmat Chaim 151, Chazon Ish 34:1-2, Shaar HaTziyun 239:27, Chachmat Adam 126:7, Divrei Malkiel 4:22, Tzitz Eliezer 6:40 (chap 7:10). </ref> However, Sephardim hold that technically there is no yichud if they aren't in the same room. They must be vigilant to make sure that they don't come to forbidden yichud by using the shared area at the same time.<ref>Gan Naul 6:3</ref> | #Many authorities hold that one man may not be in the same house as a woman even if they are in different rooms.<ref>Sh"t Igrot Moshe 4:65:19. Otzar Haposkim 22:28:5 quotes a dispute between the poskim within Rashi if locking the door between the room where the man is and where the woman is avoids yichud. Tzitz Eliezer and Divrei Malkiel hold that it is permitted even for Rashi and Ashkenazim. [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/762691/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Does_Closing_the_Door_Help_Save_Yichud_Problems Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz] explains that even though Rav Moshe is strict there are some are opinions who are lenient but does not give a final ruling. See also Salmat Chaim 151, Chazon Ish 34:1-2, Shaar HaTziyun 239:27, Chachmat Adam 126:7, Divrei Malkiel 4:22, Tzitz Eliezer 6:40 (chap 7:10). </ref> However, Sephardim hold that technically there is no yichud if they aren't in the same room. They must be vigilant to make sure that they don't come to forbidden yichud by using the shared area at the same time.<ref>Gan Naul 6:3. Otzar Haposkim 22:28:4 quotes this understanding of Rambam and Shulchan aruch from Chelkat Yakov and Binat Adam, but Chazon Ish wasn't sure.</ref> | ||
#If a woman locks herself in a room and the man in on the outside room for Ashkenazim that is considered yichud.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:19</ref> However, for Sephardim it isn't considered yichud.<ref>Gan Naul 6:3</ref> | #If a woman locks herself in a room and the man in on the outside room for Ashkenazim that is considered yichud.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:19</ref> However, for Sephardim it isn't considered yichud.<ref>Gan Naul 6:3</ref> | ||
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#The minhag is to permit a man to teach children if he's married even if his wife isn't in the same city.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:13 writes that the minhag is to follow Rabbi Akiva Eiger who is lenient on this. This is unlike Chelkat Mechokek 22:21 who writes that a man may not teach children unless his wife is in the town, otherwise there is a concern that he will become close to the mothers who drop off and pick up their children and sin with them.</ref> | #The minhag is to permit a man to teach children if he's married even if his wife isn't in the same city.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:13 writes that the minhag is to follow Rabbi Akiva Eiger who is lenient on this. This is unlike Chelkat Mechokek 22:21 who writes that a man may not teach children unless his wife is in the town, otherwise there is a concern that he will become close to the mothers who drop off and pick up their children and sin with them.</ref> | ||
#A woman can be a teacher for boys if her husband is in the town all the time (so that no issue of yichud arises).<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:18</ref> | #A woman can be a teacher for young boys if her husband is in the town all the time (so that no issue of yichud arises).<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:18. Igrot Moshe rules like Chelkat Mechokek unlike Taz who requires that her husband is in the same house.</ref> | ||
==Men secluding with other men== | ==Men secluding with other men== | ||
