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# Some Ashkenazim have the minhag to bring candles to the chupa. Sephardim don’t have this minhag.<ref>One reason (Nesuin Khalacha 6:2 quoted from the Mateh Moshe) for the minhag of carrying candles to the chupah is because ner in gematria is 250 and two times that for the two candles is 500, which is the sum of the limbs of a man (248) and woman (252). Also, 500 is the gematria of pru urevu. Alternatively, the Tashbetz Katan 467 writes that the candles are to signify the fact that the chupa is reminiscent of matan torah at which there were awesome lights and sounds. Yalkut Yosef (Sovah Semachot 1:6:3) cites a Tosfot Sanhedrin 32b s.v. kol who, based on Yirmiyahu 25:10, infers that there was a very old custom to light candles at a wedding. | # Some Ashkenazim have the minhag to bring candles to the chupa. Sephardim don’t have this minhag.<ref>One reason (Nesuin Khalacha 6:2 quoted from the Mateh Moshe) for the minhag of carrying candles to the chupah is because ner in gematria is 250 and two times that for the two candles is 500, which is the sum of the limbs of a man (248) and woman (252). Also, 500 is the gematria of pru urevu. Alternatively, the Tashbetz Katan 467 writes that the candles are to signify the fact that the chupa is reminiscent of matan torah at which there were awesome lights and sounds. Yalkut Yosef (Sovah Semachot 1:6:3) cites a Tosfot Sanhedrin 32b s.v. kol who, based on Yirmiyahu 25:10, infers that there was a very old custom to light candles at a wedding. | ||
* Yalkut Yosef writes that Sephardim don’t have such a minhag albeit there is no concern for chukat hagoyim.</ref> | * Yalkut Yosef writes that Sephardim don’t have such a minhag albeit there is no concern for chukat hagoyim.</ref> | ||
==Yichud Room== | |||
# The Sephardic minhag is not to have a yichud room. Accordingly, the bride doesn’t need to cover her hair until they arrive home together that night.<ref>Rav Ovadia Yosef in Yabia Omer 5:8 establishes the minhag of Sephardim for centuries was not to have yichud immediately after the chupah, but only later that night when the couple went home. He explains that reciting the sheva brachot in advance of the yichud is not an issue either because the brachot are birchot shevach and don’t need to be made right before the mitzvah, or because the primary method of Nesuin is the chupah even though it isn’t private. In defending the minhag he emphasizes that being more strict by having a yichud room is in fact disgracing the previous generations and shouldn’t be done. He also adds that the minhag of having the couple enter the yichud room immediately after the chupah before an entire audience is inappropriate since it is known why a couple has yichud. See there and in Yalkut Yosef (Sovah Semachot 1:12) at great length for more reasons and details. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/media/Syrian_Sephardic_Wedding_Guide.pdf Rabbi Mansour] writes that the Syrian minhag is to have a room for the couple to eat and exchange gifts, however, the room is not locked and there are no witnesses so that it isn’t actual yichud.</ref> | |||
==Chupat Niddah== | |||
# see [[Chupat Niddah]] | |||
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