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# Some Sephardim have the practice for the Chatan to put on a Tallit during the Kiddushin and then place it over the Chatan and Kallah during the Sheva Brachot.<ref>Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim year 1, n. 12), Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:6:10), Nitei Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1, 18:10)</ref> | # Some Sephardim have the practice for the Chatan to put on a Tallit during the Kiddushin and then place it over the Chatan and Kallah during the Sheva Brachot.<ref>Ben Ish Chai (Shoftim year 1, n. 12), Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:6:10), Nitei Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1, 18:10)</ref> | ||
===Position of the Chattan, Kallah, and Mesader Kiddushin=== | ===Position of the Chattan, Kallah, and Mesader Kiddushin=== | ||
# Among Ashkenazim, there is a Minhag for couple's backs facing the audience, while others have them facing Mizrach or specifically to the audience.<ref>HaRav Hershel Schachter, shalita, (Kiddushin 5777 Shiur #58) quotes the Yekkish Minhag to stand with the couple's backs facing the audience as a means of avoiding being considered Mekadesh beShuk. He notes how the Poskim, however, don't take this into consideration. For example, the Kenesset HeGedolah (Hagahot Beit Yosef Even HaEzer 61:4) lists a Minhag for each of the four directions but concludes that nowadays we are not concerned. In [http://www.otzar.org/wotzar/book.aspx?64100&pageid=P0265 Nefesh HaRav (pg. 257)], Rav Schachter writes that Rav Soloveitchik, was makpid that they should face Mizrach. He also said in shiur that Rav Hutner started a Minhag that the Chattan should face the audience and not the rabbi, so people should realize the Chattan is performing the marriage and the Mesader Kiddushin is just a spectator, unlike how a priest officiates at a Christian wedding. However, in [http://www.otzar.org/wotzar/book.aspx?64101&pageid=6410100274 MiPninei HaRav (pg. 274)], he depicts how, at two different weddings in the same hall, within a month of each other, Rav Soloveitchik would have the couple stand facing Mizrach, while Rav Moshe Feinstein would have them stand facing the crowd. See also Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:5, Aruch Hashulchan 62:9, and [http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=46545&st=&pgnum=130 Nitei Gavriel Nisuin 1 17:13:24], and Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:6:footnote 5)</ref> | # Among Ashkenazim, there is a Minhag for couple's backs facing the audience, while others have them facing Mizrach or specifically to the audience.<ref>HaRav Hershel Schachter, shalita, ([http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/869745/Rabbi%20Hershel%20Schachter/Kiddushin%20#58%20-%20Chazarah%20#9 Kiddushin 5777 Shiur #58]) quotes the Yekkish Minhag to stand with the couple's backs facing the audience as a means of avoiding being considered Mekadesh beShuk. He notes how the Poskim, however, don't take this into consideration. For example, the Kenesset HeGedolah (Hagahot Beit Yosef Even HaEzer 61:4) lists a Minhag for each of the four directions but concludes that nowadays we are not concerned. In [http://www.otzar.org/wotzar/book.aspx?64100&pageid=P0265 Nefesh HaRav (pg. 257)], Rav Schachter writes that Rav Soloveitchik, was makpid that they should face Mizrach. He also said in shiur that Rav Hutner started a Minhag that the Chattan should face the audience and not the rabbi, so people should realize the Chattan is performing the marriage and the Mesader Kiddushin is just a spectator, unlike how a priest officiates at a Christian wedding. However, in [http://www.otzar.org/wotzar/book.aspx?64101&pageid=6410100274 MiPninei HaRav (pg. 274)], he depicts how, at two different weddings in the same hall, within a month of each other, Rav Soloveitchik would have the couple stand facing Mizrach, while Rav Moshe Feinstein would have them stand facing the crowd. See also Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147:5, Aruch Hashulchan 62:9, and [http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=46545&st=&pgnum=130 Nitei Gavriel Nisuin 1 17:13:24], and Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:6:footnote 5)</ref> | ||
# While some have the practice for the Kallah to stand at the right of the Chattan, others, according to the Arizal, prefer the opposite, after the Churban, while others are not makpid at all.<ref>The Kenesset HeGedolah (Hagahot Beit Yosef Even HaEzer 61:3) quotes and prefers the position of the Maharil for the Kallah to stand at the right of the Chattan and disagrees with those who propose the opposite. Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:6:5) quotes the various opinions and sources for each of the opinions and paskens that it's proper for the Kallah to stand at the right of the Chattan, just as Rav Ovadia always practiced.</ref> | # While some have the practice for the Kallah to stand at the right of the Chattan, others, according to the Arizal, prefer the opposite, after the Churban, while others are not makpid at all.<ref>The Kenesset HeGedolah (Hagahot Beit Yosef Even HaEzer 61:3) quotes and prefers the position of the Maharil for the Kallah to stand at the right of the Chattan and disagrees with those who propose the opposite. Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot 1:6:5) quotes the various opinions and sources for each of the opinions and paskens that it's proper for the Kallah to stand at the right of the Chattan, just as Rav Ovadia always practiced.</ref> | ||
