Tisha BeAv: Difference between revisions

# A pregnant or nursing woman must fast on Tisha BeAv.<ref>S"A 554:5</ref>If the woman has a sickness which is Choleh Shein Bo Sakana, she doesn't have to fast. Yet, in these situations it's better to ask an Orthodox Rabbi to assess the situation.<ref> Yalkut Yosef 554 (HaChayvim VeHitanot #1)</ref>

# It is forbidden to wash or bathe oneself in cold or hot water. Even sticking one's finger in water is forbidden.<ref>S"A 544:7</ref>

# One should not go to the Mikveh on Tisha BeAv. <ref>S"A 544:8</ref>

# If one's hands got dirty one may clean the dirty area. <ref>S"A 544:9</ref>

# It is prohibited to wear leather shoes on Tisha B'av. <ref> S"A 554:1 and 554:16, Yalkut Yosef Moadim page 577. Kitzur S"A 124:11, Aruch Hashulchan 554:16, Mishna Brurah 554:30 say that although shoes made of other materials cover and protect the feet, they are not called a "minal" and therefore aren't part of the prohibition. </ref>

# It is prohibited to have marital relations on Tisha B'av. <ref> S"A 554.1, Yalkut Yosef Moadim page 577. </ref>

# Some poskim say that a husband and wife should be careful not to touch each other. <ref> Mishna Brurah 554:37 raises this possibility but allows for one to be lenient at least during the day, Aruch Hashulchan 554:17 and Taz 615:16 say that one need not be stringent in this at all. Kitzur S"A 124:12 forbids physical contact both in the day and at night. Halichot Olam 2: page 153 permits handing items to your wife as long as she isn't a nidda as well as any of the other harchakot for a nidda as long as your wife isn't actually a nidda and even permits touching your wife. </ref>  

# [[Tachanun]] is not recited on Tisha B'av. <ref> S"A 559:4 since Tisha B'Av is considered like a moed. Mishna Brurah 559:17 points out that this is based on the pasuk in Lamentations 1:15 קָרָא עָלַי מוֹעֵד </ref>  

# The custom is to read the megilla of Eicha, Lamentations, on Tisha B'av. <ref> S"A 559:2, Masechet Sofrim 18:5, and Eicha Rabbah Parsha 3. Mishna Brurah 559:2 notes that although the prevalent tradition is read to Eicha at night, it is preferable to read Eicha privately during the daytime as well. </ref> # Women are required to read the megilla of eicha as well. <ref> Teshuvot Vihanhagot 2:250 says that since women are obligated in all other halachot of [[mourning]] on tisha b'av, they are also obligated halachos of aveilus of Tisha B'Av, they are also required to hear Eicha. He says that if they cannot make it to shul, they made read it on the floor in their own homes. </ref>

# Some have the minhag not to put on [[Tefillin]] for [[Shacharit]] of Tisha BeAv and only put it on for [[Mincha]] <ref>S"A 551:1. <br />

# According to Ashkenazim one may not eat meat, launder clothing, bathe, take haircuts until mid-day of the tenth of Av. <ref> Rama 558:1, Mishna Brurah 558:3 based on Shu"t Maharshal 92. Under extenuating circumstances, Shemirat [[Shabbat]] Kihilchata 42:16 and Piskei Teshuvot 558:2 allow one to do laundry immediately after the first. Additionally, Sh"t Teshuvot Vihanhagot 2:260 allows one to shower if necessary right after tisha b'av </ref> According to Sephardim one may not eat meat or drink wine until sunset of the tenth of Av <ref>S"A 558:1, Kaf HaChaim 558:10, Shaare Teshuva 558:2. </ref> It is permitted though to shower, do laundry, or take haircuts. <ref> Halachot and History of The [[Three Weeks]], The Akkad Edition, Congregation Shaare Rahamim Halachot Series page 66, Sh"t Yechave Daat 5:41. However, it is important to note that the Kaf HaChaim 558:6 quotes the stringent opinion without arguing. This opinion is cited by HaRav Mordechai Eliyahu in Hilchot Chagim 29:3. See also [http://ph.yhb.org.il/05-10-19/ Peninei Halakha] especially footnote 1 who makes the same observation that even among Sephardic poskim there are many different opinions. </ref>  

# If Tisha BeAv falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off to Sunday, the bracha of Boreh Meorei HaEsh upon a fire is made on [[Motzei Shabbat]] before the reading of Eicha, however, the bracha of [[Havdalah]] on a cup of wine is delayed until after Tisha BeAv, Sunday night. <ref>S"A 556:1. Mishna Brurah 556:3 adds that an adult can drink this wine. </ref> An adult who is exempt from fasting should recite [[Havdalah]] on [[Motzei Shabbat]] before eating.<ref>[http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=2361 Rabbi Mansour on Dailyhalacha.com] quoting Yechave Daat 3:40, Birkei Yosef OC 556:2. Shemirat [[Shabbat]] Kehilchata 62:45 writes that Birkei Yosef's ruling only applies to adults who are too ill to fast but a child should not recite [[havdala]] himself then, but should wait until after tisha b'av. </ref>

# Although seudat shlishit is the seudat hamafseket before the fast, one should eat a regular meal. <ref> S"A 552:10 based on taanit 29b that says one may make a meal as extravagant as he pleases on the [[shabbat]] of the eighth or ninth of av. Mishna Brurah 552:23 adds though that although we cannot publicly display [[mourning]] on [[Shabbat]] one's mood should at least somewhat reflect the time. </ref> The meal must be finished before sunset. <ref> Rama 552:10 </ref>