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* The Badei Hashulchan 193:20 cites the Cheker Halacha who says that if they didn't have a complete biyah she needs to do a bedika in order to be tahora. However, in the Biurim s.v. velo, he adds that it sounds like the other poskim that don't mention this requirement disagree with the Cheker Halacha.</ref> | * The Badei Hashulchan 193:20 cites the Cheker Halacha who says that if they didn't have a complete biyah she needs to do a bedika in order to be tahora. However, in the Biurim s.v. velo, he adds that it sounds like the other poskim that don't mention this requirement disagree with the Cheker Halacha.</ref> | ||
# If they are both unsure if they had a complete biyah and they didn't find blood if she didn't feel pain she is tahora. A rabbi should be consulted. <ref>Badei Hashulchan 193:19 advances several reasons why one could be lenient if they didn't find blood, she didn't feel pain, and they don't know if there was a complete biyah. Firstly, if there was no blood it isn't likely that the hymen broke. Secondly, if there was no pain it is likely that the hymen didn't break. Lastly, the entire tumah of dam betulim is rabbinic and in a case of doubt we can apply the rule of safek derabbanan lkula. He adds that even those who are strict wouldn't be strict if they're not even sure if they had haarah.</ref> | # If they are both unsure if they had a complete biyah and they didn't find blood if she didn't feel pain she is tahora. A rabbi should be consulted. <ref>Badei Hashulchan 193:19 advances several reasons why one could be lenient if they didn't find blood, she didn't feel pain, and they don't know if there was a complete biyah. Firstly, if there was no blood it isn't likely that the hymen broke. Secondly, if there was no pain it is likely that the hymen didn't break. Lastly, the entire tumah of dam betulim is rabbinic and in a case of doubt we can apply the rule of safek derabbanan lkula. He adds that even those who are strict wouldn't be strict if they're not even sure if they had haarah.</ref> | ||
# | # There was once a terrible practice for the couple to delay a few days after the wedding to have their first biyah, this is forbidden for several reasons.<ref>Shach 192:11. The Machasit Hashekel 192:11 explains that among the reasons why it is improper is that he might come to inappropriate thoughts and this might cause bitul zera.</ref> | ||
==The Second Biyah== | |||
# If there was blood after the first biyah, even if it was incomplete, and she was tameh, then after the second biyah if there's no blood she's tahora.<ref>Igrot Moshe YD 1:85, Badei Hashulchan 193:21</ref> | |||
# If at the second, third, or later time she sees blood she is tameh as a niddah, even if it is hymenal blood. However, if on the second time she finds nothing she is tahora.<Ref>Taharat Habayit v. 1 p. 509, Aruch Hashulchan 193:11, Badei Hashulchan 193. See Aruch Hashulchan who says that she should check the sheets for blood after the second biyah.</ref> | |||
# If after the second biyah there is blood on a colored sheet some poskim are lenient and some are strict.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 1 p. 510 is lenient on a ketem on a colored sheet if it is found after the second biyah unless it is found immediately after the biyah in which case he is strict since there is a possibility that there was a hargasha. [http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/875475/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-113-husband-paskening-for-wife-if-maareh-is-lost-does-she-have-to-say-tavalti/ Rabbi Willig (Niddah Shiur 113)] is lenient even if the ketem is found immediately after the biyah.</ref> | |||
# If they didn't have a complete biyah the first time and there was no blood, and at the second biyah they did have complete biyah, she is tameh after the second biyah even if they don't find any blood.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 193:21</ref> | |||
# A man shouldn't intentionally try to only accomplish a partial biyah so that she doesn't become forbidden to him.<ref>Rama 193:1, Badei Hashulchan 193:23</ref> | # A man shouldn't intentionally try to only accomplish a partial biyah so that she doesn't become forbidden to him.<ref>Rama 193:1, Badei Hashulchan 193:23</ref> | ||
==After the First Biyah== | ==After the First Biyah== | ||
