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#It is permitted for a man to seclude himself with his mother, daughter, granddaughter, or wife even when she in her state of Niddah.<ref>Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Ishut EH Siman 22:1, Gan Naul pages 9-10. </ref> It is permitted to have yichud with a granddaughter, whether she is a daughter's daughter or a son's daughter.<ref>Otzar Haposkim 22:3:3 quotes Od Yosef Chay, Tzitz Eliezer, Imrei Dovid, Ezer Mikodesh, and Aruch Hashulchan who hold that both types of granddaughters are permitted, unlike Meorot Natan based on Nodeh Beyehuda 2:18 who holds that a son's daughter is forbidden.</ref> | #It is permitted for a man to seclude himself with his mother, daughter, granddaughter, or wife even when she in her state of Niddah.<ref>Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Ishut EH Siman 22:1, Gan Naul pages 9-10. </ref> It is permitted to have yichud with a granddaughter, whether she is a daughter's daughter or a son's daughter.<ref>Otzar Haposkim 22:3:3 quotes Od Yosef Chay, Tzitz Eliezer, Imrei Dovid, Ezer Mikodesh, and Aruch Hashulchan who hold that both types of granddaughters are permitted, unlike Meorot Natan based on Nodeh Beyehuda 2:18 who holds that a son's daughter is forbidden.</ref> | ||
#It is permissible for a man to seclude himself with his sister, however, it shouldn't be done frequently.<ref>Chelkat Mechokek 22:1, Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Ishut EH Siman 22:1, Gan Naul pages 9-10. Igrot Moshe EH 4:64 writes that the exact amount of time isn't critical, it is only permitted if they're only there as a guest in a very evident way and not living there for some period of time. However, Bet Shmuel 22:1 suggests that secluding with a sister is forbidden since Rambam, Tur, and Shulchan Aruch make no mention of it being permitted. Otzar Haposkim 22:4:1 quotes Od Yosef Chay, Yafeh L'lev, Yosef Ometz who are strict about this. However, they also quote Prisha, Chikrei Lev, Maharshal, Chayei Adam, Maharsham, Aruch Hashulchan, and Avnei Nezer as being lenient. </ref> A brother and sister still living in their parents home may be left alone together for only a few days and not for an extended period of time.<ref>Gan Naul pages 10-12. See Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:11 concludes that this depends on the particular situation.</ref> | #It is permissible for a man to seclude himself with his sister, however, it shouldn't be done frequently.<ref>Chelkat Mechokek 22:1, Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Ishut EH Siman 22:1, Gan Naul pages 9-10. Igrot Moshe EH 4:64 writes that the exact amount of time isn't critical, it is only permitted if they're only there as a guest in a very evident way and not living there for some period of time. However, Bet Shmuel 22:1 suggests that secluding with a sister is forbidden since Rambam, Tur, and Shulchan Aruch make no mention of it being permitted. Otzar Haposkim 22:4:1 quotes Od Yosef Chay, Yafeh L'lev, Yosef Ometz who are strict about this. However, they also quote Prisha, Chikrei Lev, Maharshal, Chayei Adam, Maharsham, Aruch Hashulchan, and Avnei Nezer as being lenient. </ref> A brother and sister still living in their parents home may be left alone together for only a few days and not for an extended period of time.<ref>Gan Naul pages 10-12. Igrot Moshe EH 4:64:3 explains that a sister and brother can have yichud only if he’s visiting and not living there even temporarily. If parents leave for a time and brother and sister are both staying at home, it is permitted for a short period of time. However, if both parents leave for an extended period of time like to go to Eretz Yisrael it is a problem. See Igrot Moshe EH 4:65:11 concludes that this depends on the particular situation. </ref> | ||
#Yichud with two sisters is forbidden. Some say that yichud with a mother and her daughter or grandmother and her granddaughter is permitted.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:64 at the end</ref> | #Yichud with two sisters is forbidden. Some say that yichud with a mother and her daughter or grandmother and her granddaughter is permitted.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:64 at the end</ref> | ||
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#Most poskim assume that this leniency of having a very close relative such as one's wife isn't yichud and protects from yichud, applies also to one's mother, daughter, and sister as well. Therefore, if a man is in a room with his wife, mother, daughter or sister, and one other woman he does not violate the yichud prohibition. <ref>The Pitchei Teshuva EH 22:2 does not extend this Heter to one’s daughter (meaning a man, his daughter and another woman would violate Yichud), while Iggerot Moshe Even Haezer 2:15 extends it to a daughter and in Iggerot Moshe 4:65:8 extends it to a mother, and sister as well. The Nitei Gavriel Yichud 40:1 follows Rav Moshe (and in footnote 1 quotes many others who do as well). </ref> Similarly, the minhag is to permit yichud for a grandchild with one's grandmother. Then even if there's another woman there it isn't yichud because of the presence of the grandmother.<ref>Rav Soloveitchik as cited in Nefesh Harav p. 256 was lenient about a man with his grandmother even though there was another one of his female cousins there since the man with his grandmother isn't yichud and the grandmother protects him from yichud with another woman. Rav Schachter comments that this is in accordance with Igrot Moshe EH 2:15.</ref> Sephardim are strict that there is yichud if there's another women with whom it is permitted to have yichud.<ref>The Chida in Yosef Ometz 26 writes that even though it is permitted to have yichud with one's mother it is certainly forbidden to have yichud with your mother and another women with whom yichud is forbidden. He explains that the only reason it is permitted to have yichud when one's wife is there is because she'll protect him from sin, whereas a mother won't. Minchat Ish 1:11:1 quotes the dispute between the Chida and Rav Chaim Palagi and is strict unless it is only derabbanan yichud. Gan Naul 12:2 is strict unless there is a situation of need in which case there is what to rely upon to be lenient. He cites that Rav Moshe Halevi and Chacham Ben Tzion Abba Shaul were strict on this issue.</ref> | #Most poskim assume that this leniency of having a very close relative such as one's wife isn't yichud and protects from yichud, applies also to one's mother, daughter, and sister as well. Therefore, if a man is in a room with his wife, mother, daughter or sister, and one other woman he does not violate the yichud prohibition. <ref>The Pitchei Teshuva EH 22:2 does not extend this Heter to one’s daughter (meaning a man, his daughter and another woman would violate Yichud), while Iggerot Moshe Even Haezer 2:15 extends it to a daughter and in Iggerot Moshe 4:65:8 extends it to a mother, and sister as well. The Nitei Gavriel Yichud 40:1 follows Rav Moshe (and in footnote 1 quotes many others who do as well). </ref> Similarly, the minhag is to permit yichud for a grandchild with one's grandmother. Then even if there's another woman there it isn't yichud because of the presence of the grandmother.<ref>Rav Soloveitchik as cited in Nefesh Harav p. 256 was lenient about a man with his grandmother even though there was another one of his female cousins there since the man with his grandmother isn't yichud and the grandmother protects him from yichud with another woman. Rav Schachter comments that this is in accordance with Igrot Moshe EH 2:15.</ref> Sephardim are strict that there is yichud if there's another women with whom it is permitted to have yichud.<ref>The Chida in Yosef Ometz 26 writes that even though it is permitted to have yichud with one's mother it is certainly forbidden to have yichud with your mother and another women with whom yichud is forbidden. He explains that the only reason it is permitted to have yichud when one's wife is there is because she'll protect him from sin, whereas a mother won't. Minchat Ish 1:11:1 quotes the dispute between the Chida and Rav Chaim Palagi and is strict unless it is only derabbanan yichud. Gan Naul 12:2 is strict unless there is a situation of need in which case there is what to rely upon to be lenient. He cites that Rav Moshe Halevi and Chacham Ben Tzion Abba Shaul were strict on this issue.</ref> | ||
====Adopted Children==== | |||
# Some poskim allow a man to be secluded with an adopted daughter as long as his wife is alive.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:46:2 allows yichud of a parent with an adopted child of the other gender as long as the other spouse is still alive. His reason is that one spouse will protect the other one from sinning as long as they’re alive.</ref> | |||
====Converted Children==== | |||
# A man is allowed to be secluded with his children even if they all converted and halachically aren't related.<ref>Igrot Moshe EH 4:64:1 permits a man with his daughter who converted to be secluded together since a man isn’t attracted to his daughter. Gan Naul (2:8 fnt. 22 p. 155) is also lenient.</ref> | |||
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