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==Who Should Comfort the Mourner== | ==Who Should Comfort the Mourner== | ||
# An enemy of the mourner shouldn't comfort the mourner so that people don’t think that he’s happy because of his downfall, however, he may be involved in escorting the funeral procession. <Ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 193:1 </ref> | # An enemy of the mourner shouldn't comfort the mourner so that people don’t think that he’s happy because of his downfall, however, he may be involved in escorting the funeral procession. <Ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 193:1 </ref> | ||
# Men and women can be involved in comforting a women. If there are only women mourners men should go to comfort the mourner together with others or after the shiva minyan when many people are there.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:1</ref> | # Men and women can be involved in comforting a women. If there are only women mourners men should go to comfort the mourner together with others or after the shiva minyan when many people are there.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:1. Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 74) writes that when a man comforts a woman he should remain by the door and recite the phrase of Hamakom.</ref> | ||
# It is good chinuch to bring one's children to visit a mourner for comfort.<Ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 72) citing the Reshit Chachma</ref> | # It is good chinuch to bring one's children to visit a mourner for comfort.<Ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 72) citing the Reshit Chachma</ref> | ||