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# The minhag is for a mourner not to sit in his own seat in shul for shloshim and for a parent for 12 months.<ref> The Tur 393 quotes the Masechet Semachot that a mourner needs to change his seat for the second week when he returns to shul. The Hagahot Maimoniyot (responsa Avel 20) writes that Ri didn't return to his seat until after the third week since otherwise he wouldn't be able to speak regularly. The Darkei Moshe 393:5 suggests that based on this, the minhag was not to return to one's regular seat until after shloshim and for a parent until after 12 months. He also quotes the Maharil who supports the minhag for another reason. The Rama 393:3 therefore quotes the minhag.</ref> Instead he should pick another seat at least 4 amot from his original seat.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva 393:7 quoting the Chamudei Doniel</ref> | # The minhag is for a mourner not to sit in his own seat in shul for shloshim and for a parent for 12 months.<ref> The Tur 393 quotes the Masechet Semachot that a mourner needs to change his seat for the second week when he returns to shul. The Hagahot Maimoniyot (responsa Avel 20) writes that Ri didn't return to his seat until after the third week since otherwise he wouldn't be able to speak regularly. The Darkei Moshe 393:5 suggests that based on this, the minhag was not to return to one's regular seat until after shloshim and for a parent until after 12 months. He also quotes the Maharil who supports the minhag for another reason. The Rama 393:3 therefore quotes the minhag.</ref> Instead he should pick another seat at least 4 amot from his original seat.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva 393:7 quoting the Chamudei Doniel</ref> | ||
# According to Sephardim one doesn't change his seat on Shabbat so as not to publicize his mourning.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 393:4, Birkei Yosef 393:4 citing the Arizal, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 87)</ref> However, Ashkenazim change their seats even for Shabbat.<ref>Nemukei Yosef (b”b 49a), Rama 393:4, Shach 393:7</ref> | # According to Sephardim one doesn't change his seat on Shabbat so as not to publicize his mourning.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 393:4, Birkei Yosef 393:4 citing the Arizal, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 87)</ref> However, Ashkenazim change their seats even for Shabbat.<ref>Nemukei Yosef (b”b 49a), Rama 393:4, Shach 393:7</ref> | ||
==Gifts== | |||
#Regarding Mishloach Manot see [[Mourning_and_Fasting_on_Chanukah_and_Purim]]. | |||
# It is forbidden to give a gift to a mourner in 12 months for a mourner for a parent or another mourner in Shloshim.<ref>Rama Y.D. 385:3, Chazon Ovadia Aveilut v. 2 p. 252</ref> | |||
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