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==Informing about a death== | ==Informing about a death== | ||
# One should not tell someone that one of his or her relatives died, however, if he’s asked, one may not lie but should say something vague which implies this. <ref> Kitzur | # One should not tell someone that one of his or her relatives died, however, if he’s asked, one may not lie but should say something vague which implies this. <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 206:9-10 </ref> Nowadays, the practice is to tell close relatives of the deceased in order that they would be able to attend the Levaya. Some put up signs informing people about a person’s death. <ref>Rav Modechai Eliyahu in his comments to Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 206:4</ref> | ||
==Comforting the mourner== | ==Comforting the mourner== | ||
# It is a great Mitzvah to comfort a mourner. <ref> Kitzur | # It is a great Mitzvah to comfort a mourner. <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 207:1 </ref> | ||
# The comforters should not initiate conversation but should respond when the mourner begins to speak. <ref> Kitzur | # The comforters should not initiate conversation but should respond when the mourner begins to speak. <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 207:1 </ref> | ||
# A mourner does not have to stand up for guests even for a prince. However, if the mourner did stand one should not tell him to sit because it is a bad omen.<ref> Kitzur | # A mourner does not have to stand up for guests even for a prince. However, if the mourner did stand one should not tell him to sit because it is a bad omen.<ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 207:2 </ref> | ||
# One should not say “What could you have done? You can’t change what Hashem decreed.” since this implies that if one were able to change what Hashem decreed, one would have, which is blasphemous. Rather one should accept Hashem’s decrees.<ref>Gemara Bava Kama 38a, Kitzur | # One should not say “What could you have done? You can’t change what Hashem decreed.” since this implies that if one were able to change what Hashem decreed, one would have, which is blasphemous. Rather one should accept Hashem’s decrees.<ref>Gemara Bava Kama 38a, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 207:4</ref> | ||
==Tefillin for a Mourner== | ==Tefillin for a Mourner== | ||
# On the first day of Shiva, if the burial is was on the same day as the passing, an Avel may not wear Tefillin, as the first day is most bitter.<ref> | # On the first day of Shiva, if the burial is was on the same day as the passing, an Avel may not wear Tefillin, as the first day is most bitter.<ref> | ||
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==Davening at a Shiva Minyan== | ==Davening at a Shiva Minyan== | ||
# The minhag is to say Tefillim chapter 49 after [[Shacharit]] and [[Mincha]]. It is good also to learn mishnayot there for the Iylui Nishama. <ref> Kitzur | # The minhag is to say Tefillim chapter 49 after [[Shacharit]] and [[Mincha]]. It is good also to learn mishnayot there for the Iylui Nishama. <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 207:5 </ref> | ||
==The Shiva House== | |||
# Some have the practice not to bring food out of the shiva house<ref>Aruch Hashulchan 376:11</ref> if the person died at home<ref>Tzitz Eliezer (Even Yakov no. 44:4)</ref>, however, there many are lenient about this.<ref>Yosef Ometz p. 192</ref> | |||
==Sources== | ==Sources== | ||
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[[Category:Mourning]] | [[Category:Mourning]] | ||
