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===Bathing=== | ===Bathing=== | ||
# It is forbidden for a mourner to take a complete shower or bath whether it is hot or cold. It is permitted for the mourner to wash his hands, feet, and face with cold water | # It is forbidden for a mourner to take a complete shower or bath whether it is hot or cold. It is permitted for the mourner to wash his hands, feet, and face with cold water<Ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 381:1</ref> but not hot or even lukewarm water.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 2 p. 158) quotes the Tiferet Moshe who writes that lukewarm is considered warm for this halacha.</ref> | ||
# The Ashkenazic minhag is not to shower or bathe during shloshim unless one is doing so to remove dirt. Some permit taking a cold shower.<ref>Rama YD 381:1 writes that the Ashkenazic minhag is not to shower all of shloshim. The Taz 381:1 quotes the Maharshal who says that the reason for the minhag is because it was common to take a haircut together with bathing and since taking a haircut is forbidden during shloshim the minhag wasn't to bathe for all of shloshim. The Darkei Moshe 381:3 cites the Maharam who explains the minhag based on a similarity to bathing and laundering. The Shach 381:1 writes that bathing in cold isn't bathing. It isn't clear if the Shach is referring to a full body shower or just one's hands, feet, and face. The Dagul Mirvavah 381:1 writes that the Shach is only discussing hands, feet, and face. The Pitchei Teshuva 381:2 quotes the Teshuat Chen who says that for others it is okay to rule that a cold full body shower is permitted in shloshim. Badei Hashulchan 381:16 concludes that it is permitted to take a cold shower in shloshim because some are lenient and also it is very difficult not to shower for 30 days.</ref> Sephardim don't have this minhag.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 2 p. 164)</ref> | # The Ashkenazic minhag is not to shower or bathe during shloshim unless one is doing so to remove dirt. Some permit taking a cold shower.<ref>Rama YD 381:1 writes that the Ashkenazic minhag is not to shower all of shloshim. The Taz 381:1 quotes the Maharshal who says that the reason for the minhag is because it was common to take a haircut together with bathing and since taking a haircut is forbidden during shloshim the minhag wasn't to bathe for all of shloshim. The Darkei Moshe 381:3 cites the Maharam who explains the minhag based on a similarity to bathing and laundering. The Shach 381:1 writes that bathing in cold isn't bathing. It isn't clear if the Shach is referring to a full body shower or just one's hands, feet, and face. The Dagul Mirvavah 381:1 writes that the Shach is only discussing hands, feet, and face. The Pitchei Teshuva 381:2 quotes the Teshuat Chen who says that for others it is okay to rule that a cold full body shower is permitted in shloshim. Badei Hashulchan 381:16 concludes that it is permitted to take a cold shower in shloshim because some are lenient and also it is very difficult not to shower for 30 days.</ref> Sephardim don't have this minhag.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 2 p. 164)</ref> | ||
# If someone has two relatives pass away in succession and has to observe aveilut straight for longer than 7 days, after the first 7 days he may bathe immediately.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 381:4, Badei Hashulchan 381:34</ref> | # If someone has two relatives pass away in succession and has to observe aveilut straight for longer than 7 days, after the first 7 days he may bathe immediately.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 381:4, Badei Hashulchan 381:34</ref> | ||
# If someone will be in a lot of pain if he doesn't shower he may shower during shiva but not everyone is in this category.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 381:3</ref> | # If someone will be in a lot of pain if he doesn't shower he may shower during shiva but not everyone is in this category.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 381:3</ref> | ||
# It is forbidden for an avel to use soap or anoint oneself with oil except to remove dirt.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:21:3:2</ref> | # It is forbidden for an avel to use soap or anoint oneself with oil except to remove dirt.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:21:3:2</ref> | ||
# It is forbidden for a woman who is in shiva to go to the mikveh<ref>Shulchan Aruch 381:5</ref> and also a man who regularly goes to mikveh for davening may not go during shiva.<Ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 2 p. 159), Badei Hashulchan 381:18</ref> However, during shloshim, it is permitted for a niddah, for a man who regularly goes every day for davening or every week for Shabbat to go to the mikveh.<ref>Rama 381:5, Badei Hashulchan 381:18</ref> | |||
# A woman may prepare herself for hefsek tahara before shiva nekiyim during shiva by washing that area and between her legs even with hot water.<ref>Even though the Rama 381:5 doesn't allow this washing to prepare for the hefsek tahara during shiva except during shloshim, the Shach 381:3 and Taz 381:2 quote the Masat Binyamin who allows washing that area and between her legs even with hot water during shiva. Badei Hashulchan 381:38 and Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 2 p. 162) agree with the Masat Binyamin.</ref> | |||
==Tefillin for a Mourner== | ==Tefillin for a Mourner== | ||
