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# The Minhag is to wear Rabbeinu Tam Tefillin during Avelut.<ref>The Chidah (Birkei Yosef) paskened that one shouldn't wear Rabbeinu Tam Tefillin, as it's a Machaloket HaMekubalim and Shev ve'al Ta'aseh Adif. The Ben Ish Chai (ibid and Od Yosef Chai Vayera 11, 12, 45) claims that the Minhag in Yerushalayim and Baghdad was like the Rashash to wear Rabbeinu Tam Tefillin, so he disagrees with the Chidah. This is also the opinion of the Kaf HaChaim (OC 38:21), who says that, among other considerations, based on the Siddur HaChidah and the fact that we wear them beTorat Chiyuv, the Avel should wear them. HaRav David Yosef (Halacha Brurahh 38:5:13) also paskens this way.</ref> | # The Minhag is to wear Rabbeinu Tam Tefillin during Avelut.<ref>The Chidah (Birkei Yosef) paskened that one shouldn't wear Rabbeinu Tam Tefillin, as it's a Machaloket HaMekubalim and Shev ve'al Ta'aseh Adif. The Ben Ish Chai (ibid and Od Yosef Chai Vayera 11, 12, 45) claims that the Minhag in Yerushalayim and Baghdad was like the Rashash to wear Rabbeinu Tam Tefillin, so he disagrees with the Chidah. This is also the opinion of the Kaf HaChaim (OC 38:21), who says that, among other considerations, based on the Siddur HaChidah and the fact that we wear them beTorat Chiyuv, the Avel should wear them. HaRav David Yosef (Halacha Brurahh 38:5:13) also paskens this way.</ref> | ||
==Aveilus on | ==Aveilus on Shabbat and Yom Tov== | ||
# The private practices of shiva continue on Shabbat include the prohibition of tashmish. Since learning Torah is private one shouldn't learn Torah on Shabbat if one is in mourning but one may learn the Shenayim Mikra and Echad Targum.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 219:1</ref> | # The private practices of shiva continue on Shabbat include the prohibition of tashmish. Since learning Torah is private one shouldn't learn Torah on Shabbat if one is in mourning but one may learn the Shenayim Mikra and Echad Targum.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 219:1</ref> | ||
# If a relative passes away on Yom Tov the aveilut only begins after the holiday. The Shiva begins on the second day of Yom Tov and the Shloshim is counted from the time of the burial. <ref>Gemara Moed Katan 14b, Shulchan Aruch OC 548:1</ref> | # If a relative passes away on Yom Tov the aveilut only begins after the holiday. The Shiva begins on the second day of Yom Tov and the Shloshim is counted from the time of the burial. <ref>Gemara Moed Katan 14b, Shulchan Aruch OC 548:1</ref> For details see [[Yom_Tov_Canceling_Aveilut_and_Aveilut_on_Yom_Tov]]. | ||
===Leaving the House=== | |||
# The minhag is that the mourner goes to shul on Shabbat.<ref>The Raavad (cited by Tur 393:3) and Kol Bo (114, cited by Bet Yosef 393:4) held that a mourner doesn't leave his house the week of shiva including Shabbat. The Ramban (p. 217, cited by Bet Yosef) and Rosh (Moed Katan 3:46) disagree and write that the minhag was to go to shul on Shabbat. Shulchan Aruch 393:3 follows the Ramban and Rosh that an avel can leave the house on Shabbat. Rama agrees.</ref> | |||
===Learning Torah and Getting Aliyot=== | |||
# An avel shouldn't get an aliyah even on Shabbat.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 400:1, Badei Hashulchan biurim 400:1 s.v. sh'im</ref> On Shabbat if they already called him up for an aliyah he should take it since refraining from taking it would be a public sign of mourning on Shabbat.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 400:1</ref> | |||
# It is permitted to get an aliyah on simchat torah otherwise it would be considered a display of public mourning on yom tov.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:23:3:7</ref> | |||
# Where the minhag is to give an aliyah to the father of a baby, if he had a baby when he was in shiva, he can get an aliyah otherwise it would considered a public display of mourning.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 2, p. 232) based on Shulchan Aruch 400:1</ref> | |||
# It is permitted for an avel during shiva to learn [[Shenayim Mikra]] on Shabbat since it is like kriyat shema since it is an obligation upon him.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 400:1</ref> If he doesn't do targum he can do Rashi instead.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 400:15</ref> | |||
===Davening=== | |||
# It is permitted for the avel to say kabbalat shabbat normally including lechu niranena, shir hashirim, kegavna, mizmor ldovid hashem roey, each community according to its minhag, besides for bameh madlikin which the avel should skip and say tehillim instead.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 400:16</ref> | |||
# It is permitted for an avel to say shalom aleichem and eshet chayil on Friday night.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 400:16. He has a doubt if it is permitted for them to sing it or any other zemer.</ref> | |||
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