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# It is not customary to hold a similar gathering upon the birth of a girl. Among the explanations for this is that originally the shalom zachar was an event which was associated with the brit more than anything else. In fact, according to some authorities the shalom zachar is essentially an introduction for the brit mila. Indeed, it seems that in ancient times the shalom zachar was not necessarily held on the Friday night following birth as it is today, but rather, it was held the night before the brit was to take place.<ref> Sefer Chassidut, Shabbat.</ref> It might just be that the shalom zachar was moved to Friday night as it is a time when more people are able and likely to attend.<ref> Terumat Hadeshen 1:269; Minhagei Yeshurun 182.</ref> As such, it is somewhat irrelevant to the birth of a girl.<ref> Dagul M'revava 178.</ref> So too, a woman is not required to learn Torah in the same way that a man is obligated to. As such, there is no mourning for the fact that she has been made to forget her Torah.<ref> Kitzur Otzar Habrit p. 88.</ref> | # It is not customary to hold a similar gathering upon the birth of a girl. Among the explanations for this is that originally the shalom zachar was an event which was associated with the brit more than anything else. In fact, according to some authorities the shalom zachar is essentially an introduction for the brit mila. Indeed, it seems that in ancient times the shalom zachar was not necessarily held on the Friday night following birth as it is today, but rather, it was held the night before the brit was to take place.<ref> Sefer Chassidut, Shabbat.</ref> It might just be that the shalom zachar was moved to Friday night as it is a time when more people are able and likely to attend.<ref> Terumat Hadeshen 1:269; Minhagei Yeshurun 182.</ref> As such, it is somewhat irrelevant to the birth of a girl.<ref> Dagul M'revava 178.</ref> So too, a woman is not required to learn Torah in the same way that a man is obligated to. As such, there is no mourning for the fact that she has been made to forget her Torah.<ref> Kitzur Otzar Habrit p. 88.</ref> | ||
# According to the explanation, however, that the shalom zachar celebrates the safe arrival of the baby into the world it would follow that a shalom zachar of sorts should be held for a girl, as well. It might just be that the custom of hosting a | # According to the explanation, however, that the shalom zachar celebrates the safe arrival of the baby into the world it would follow that a shalom zachar of sorts should be held for a girl, as well. It might just be that the custom of hosting a [[Kiddush]] shortly after the birth of a girl was intended to serve this purpose. Indeed, many women use the [[Kiddush]] as an opportunity to publicly recite the hagomel blessing in thanksgiving for a successful childbirth.<ref> For more on the absence of a shalom zachar for a girl see: Dagul M'revava, YD 178; Chiddushei Chatam Sofer, Bava Kamma 80a; Torat Ha'adam s.v. Hahotzah.</ref> | ||
==Sephardic Custom== | ==Sephardic Custom== | ||
