Shadchanut: Difference between revisions

# Many of these halachot may depend on the minhag. As such, of course it is important to consult one’s local rabbi.  

# There is an obligation to pay a shadchan for arranging a shidduch<ref><Rama Choshen Mishpat 185:10. See Sefer Hanisuin K’Hilchosa chapter 4 that many poskim say that paying a shadchan is a segulah for shalom bayis and having children. See Teshuvos V’Hanhagos 1:736 quotes that there is a custom in many sefardic communities not to pay the shadchan </ref> whether the shadchan was hired or volunteered.<ref>Biur HaGra Choshen Mishpat 185:13. There may be a violation of the mitzvah of bal talin if you fail to pay the shadchan on time if you hired the shadchan, as opposed to if the shadchan volunteered. </ref> One must pay a shadchan, even if it is a member of the family<ref>Pischei Teshuva Even HaEzer 50:16</ref>

==Who Should Pay?==