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# It is permitted for a wife to observe her family’s [[mourning]] period, as long as her husband does not object. <ref> Rav Doniel Neustadt [[Daily Halacha]] Discussion page 219 </ref> | # It is permitted for a wife to observe her family’s [[mourning]] period, as long as her husband does not object. <ref> Rav Doniel Neustadt [[Daily Halacha]] Discussion page 219 </ref> | ||
===Getting Married=== | ===Getting Married=== | ||
# The Sephardic custom is not to get married during the Sefira until the 34th day in the morning | # The Sephardic custom is not to get married during the Sefira until the 34th day in the morning,<ref> Yalkut Yosef (Moadim pg 428). The source for this minhag is the Teshuvah of R. Yehoshua Ibn Shuib (cited by Bet Yosef 493:2) which says that the students of Rabbi Akiva died during the Omer except for the last 15 days which leaves the first 34 days. Based on Miksat HaYom KeKulo (a minority of the day is considered like a whole day) one may stop mourning on the morning of the 34th. This is the ruling of S”A 493:2 and the practice of Sephardim as recorded in Yalkut Yosef (Kitzur S”A 493:1) and Yabia Omer 3:26. </ref> while the Ashkenazic custom is not to get married during the Sefira until the 33rd day ([[Lag BaOmer]]). <Ref> Rama 493:1, See Nisuin Kehilchatam 5:19 for lengthier discussion. </ref> | ||
# If the [[marriage]] involves a couple with one side who is Ashkenazic and one side Sephardic, the custom of the husband should be followed. <ref> Sh"t Yabia Omer 3:26(4), Yalkut Yosef (Moadim pg 429) </ref> | # If the [[marriage]] involves a couple with one side who is Ashkenazic and one side Sephardic, the custom of the husband should be followed. <ref> Sh"t Yabia Omer 3:26(4), Yalkut Yosef (Moadim pg 429) </ref> | ||
# If one is invited to a wedding which takes place during a time of the sefira when one's custom is to observe the practices of [[mourning]], and the one who is getting married has the custom that it is permissible to get married then, one should not refrain from going to the wedding because of the sefira.<Ref>[http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/774533/Rabbi_Hershel_Schachter/Shiur_#80_-_Yevamos_-_מפני_מה_גרים_בזה'ז_מעונים,_יש_זיקה,_ספירת_העומר Rabbi Hershel Schachter on yutorah.org (at the very end)] based on a ruling of Rav Moshe Feinstein Iggerot Moshe 1:159, Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in Nefesh Harav pg. 192), Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (Shalmei Simcha page 84), Rav Elyashiv (Ashrei Haish 3:65:30), Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky (Emet Liyaakov 493). However, Minchat Yitzchak 4:84 disagrees and feels that one may not attend a wedding during their Sefira </ref> | # If one is invited to a wedding which takes place during a time of the sefira when one's custom is to observe the practices of [[mourning]], and the one who is getting married has the custom that it is permissible to get married then, one should not refrain from going to the wedding because of the sefira.<Ref>[http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/774533/Rabbi_Hershel_Schachter/Shiur_#80_-_Yevamos_-_מפני_מה_גרים_בזה'ז_מעונים,_יש_זיקה,_ספירת_העומר Rabbi Hershel Schachter on yutorah.org (at the very end)] based on a ruling of Rav Moshe Feinstein Iggerot Moshe 1:159, Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in Nefesh Harav pg. 192), Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (Shalmei Simcha page 84), Rav Elyashiv (Ashrei Haish 3:65:30), Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky (Emet Liyaakov 493). However, Minchat Yitzchak 4:84 disagrees and feels that one may not attend a wedding during their Sefira </ref> | ||
