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# There is a discussion in the poskim if one is allowed to go collecting for a poor talmid chachum and say it is for hachnoses kallah because then the givers will give more money. <ref>Refer to Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 71-73, Shevet Ha’Levi 2:119. One who is collecting for a poor chosson can say he is collecting for hachnoses kallah even if the kallah is not lacking money (opinion of Harav Shlomo Zalman Aurbach zt”l quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 76). </ref> When this question arises one should consult with his Rav. | # There is a discussion in the poskim if one is allowed to go collecting for a poor talmid chachum and say it is for hachnoses kallah because then the givers will give more money. <ref>Refer to Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 71-73, Shevet Ha’Levi 2:119. One who is collecting for a poor chosson can say he is collecting for hachnoses kallah even if the kallah is not lacking money (opinion of Harav Shlomo Zalman Aurbach zt”l quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 76). </ref> When this question arises one should consult with his Rav. | ||
# During an appeal one is not allowed to announce a larger donation than he is planning to give, even if the point is for others to give more money.<ref>Minchas Yitzchok 3:97:1. </ref> | # During an appeal one is not allowed to announce a larger donation than he is planning to give, even if the point is for others to give more money.<ref>Minchas Yitzchok 3:97:1. </ref> | ||
# One who is shipping fragile objects such as matzah can write the word "glass" on the box in order that it should be dealt with properly.<ref>Opinions of Harav Elyashiv Shlita, Harav Fisher zt”l and Harav Chaim Kanievesky Shlita quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 91-92. Refer to Teshuvos V’hanhugos 2:523 how this applies to shipping a sefer Torah. </ref> | # One who is shipping fragile objects such as matzah can write the word "glass" on the box in order that it should be dealt with properly. <ref>Opinions of Harav Elyashiv Shlita, Harav Fisher zt”l and Harav Chaim Kanievesky Shlita quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 91-92. Mishpatei Hashalom 2: page 41 agrees but says it would be preferable to simply write fragile if that would suffice. Refer to Teshuvos V’hanhugos 2:523 how this applies to shipping a sefer Torah. </ref> | ||
===For peace=== | ===For peace=== | ||
# One is allowed to lie for the sake of peace.<ref>Mesechtas Yevamos 65b, Bava Metziah 87a, Shulchan Aruch C.M. 262:21, Rambam Hilchos Gezeilah V’aveida ibid, Semak 227, Teshuvos Rama 11, Orchos Tzadikim Shar HaSheker, Rabbeinu Yonah Sharei Teshuva 3:181, Lev Chaim 1:5, Mishnah Berurah 156:4, Chofetz Chaim chelek 2:1:8, Niv Sefasayim 2:pages 23-24, Derech Sicha 1:page 307. Some say it is only permitted if one is not hurting the other party by lying (Rabbeinu Yonah in Sharei Teshuva 3:181). Others say it is a mitzvah to lie for peace (Refer to Mesechtas Yevamos ibid, Ran Mesechtas Bava Metziah 23b, Niv Sefasayim 2:page 23, Modanei [[Yom Tov]] 2:pages 465-466). Some say lying for peace is only permitted if one will not make a different person lose out and he does not do it because he loves to lie (Refer to Niv Sefasayim pages 35-36). </ref> A proof to this is the fact that Hashem told Avraham a different story than actually took place between Hashem and Sarah.<ref>Refer to Bereishis 18:13. 21:7, see Bereishis 50:16, Rashi “avicha,” Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 250-251 who explains the last source. </ref> Based on this one is allowed to lie to bring peace between husband and wife. <ref>Reishis Chuchma Shar Hakedusha 12:61.</ref> | # One is allowed to lie for the sake of peace.<ref>Mesechtas Yevamos 65b, Bava Metziah 87a, Shulchan Aruch C.M. 262:21, Rambam Hilchos Gezeilah V’aveida ibid, Semak 227, Teshuvos Rama 11, Orchos Tzadikim Shar HaSheker, Rabbeinu Yonah Sharei Teshuva 3:181, Lev Chaim 1:5, Mishnah Berurah 156:4, Chofetz Chaim chelek 2:1:8, Niv Sefasayim 2:pages 23-24, Derech Sicha 1:page 307. Some say it is only permitted if one is not hurting the other party by lying (Rabbeinu Yonah in Sharei Teshuva 3:181). Others say it is a mitzvah to lie for peace (Refer to Mesechtas Yevamos ibid, Ran Mesechtas Bava Metziah 23b, Niv Sefasayim 2:page 23, Modanei [[Yom Tov]] 2:pages 465-466). Some say lying for peace is only permitted if one will not make a different person lose out and he does not do it because he loves to lie (Refer to Niv Sefasayim pages 35-36). </ref> A proof to this is the fact that Hashem told Avraham a different story than actually took place between Hashem and Sarah.<ref>Refer to Bereishis 18:13. 21:7, see Bereishis 50:16, Rashi “avicha,” Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 250-251 who explains the last source. </ref> Based on this one is allowed to lie to bring peace between husband and wife. <ref>Reishis Chuchma Shar Hakedusha 12:61.</ref> | ||
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# One is permitted to lie in order for one's friend to avoid being embarrassed.<ref>Rambam Hilchos Gezeilah V’aveidah 14:13, Lev Chaim 1:5, Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 97-99. Refer to Shevet Ha’Levi 5:2. Refer to Mesechtas Berochos 43b, Rashi “v’lo hiy,” Mesechtas Eruvin 53b, Sanhedrin 11a, Menochos 67b, Rashi Mesechtas Avodah Zarah 58a “dumi,” Tosfas ibid “ikloah,” Da’as Torah 156. </ref> | # One is permitted to lie in order for one's friend to avoid being embarrassed.<ref>Rambam Hilchos Gezeilah V’aveidah 14:13, Lev Chaim 1:5, Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 97-99. Refer to Shevet Ha’Levi 5:2. Refer to Mesechtas Berochos 43b, Rashi “v’lo hiy,” Mesechtas Eruvin 53b, Sanhedrin 11a, Menochos 67b, Rashi Mesechtas Avodah Zarah 58a “dumi,” Tosfas ibid “ikloah,” Da’as Torah 156. </ref> | ||
# Based on the above, if a bochur who went on a date is asked where were you last night he does not have to say the truth if he is embarrassed.<ref>Opinion of Harav Elyashiv Shlita quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 102. </ref> You can also say I had to take care of something. | # Based on the above, if a bochur who went on a date is asked where were you last night he does not have to say the truth if he is embarrassed.<ref>Opinion of Harav Elyashiv Shlita quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 102. </ref> You can also say I had to take care of something. | ||
# If a woman miscarried and now gave | # If a woman miscarried and now gave birth to a boy one does not have to say the truth if he is asked will there be a pidyon haben? However, he can say she is a bas Kohen, or Levi in which case there is no pidyon haben. <ref>Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 102. </ref> | ||
# One who is doing kiruv may say he did the sin as well in order to lessen the embarrassment of his students.<ref>Emes Koneh page 39:footnote 9. </ref> | # One who is doing kiruv may say he did the sin as well in order to lessen the embarrassment of his students.<ref>Emes Koneh page 39:footnote 9. </ref> | ||
# Many ba'alei teshuva who are asked what they did in their youth lie about it and this is permitted since it is embarrassing to them.<ref>Emes Koneh page 43:footnote 16, see Igros Moshe E.H. 4:47. </ref> | # Many ba'alei teshuva who are asked what they did in their youth lie about it and this is permitted since it is embarrassing to them.<ref>Emes Koneh page 43:footnote 16, see Igros Moshe E.H. 4:47. </ref> | ||
# One who is not up to par and does not want others to know about it may say he is doing fine when asked how he is | # One who is not up to par and does not want others to know about it may say he is doing fine when asked how he is feeling.<ref>Emes Koneh page 43:footnote 16. </ref> | ||
==Collector at Door== | ==Collector at Door== | ||
