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# If an individual is fasting (not on a public fast day) and he is asked if he is fasting, it is proper for him to say he is not fasting in order not to show off before others.<ref>Refer to Taz O.C. 565:6, Magen Avraham 7, Kaf Ha’chaim 565:34. Refer to Lev Chaim 1:5. </ref> | # If an individual is fasting (not on a public fast day) and he is asked if he is fasting, it is proper for him to say he is not fasting in order not to show off before others.<ref>Refer to Taz O.C. 565:6, Magen Avraham 7, Kaf Ha’chaim 565:34. Refer to Lev Chaim 1:5. </ref> | ||
==Shidduch== | ==Shidduch== | ||
# It is very common for one to be | # It is very common for one to be informed of a shidduch and if it is not for him, he says he is "busy." Is this permitted even if he is not busy but does not want the girl to feel bad that he really is saying no? One is permitted to do so since otherwise it would be embarrassing to the girl to know that the boy said no to her.<ref>Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 167, Emes Koneh page 55:footnote 45. Refer to Mesechtas Berochos 43b, Rashi “v’lo hiy.” </ref> | ||
==Lying about Age == | ==Lying about Age == | ||
# A question arises if one is permitted to tell a shadchan he or she is younger than their age in order to facilitate a shidduch.<ref>Refer to Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 121-124 on this inyun. </ref> There are poskim who say if one of the sides is already looking for a shidduch and is having a hard time finding one then he or she may lie about their age.<ref>Opinion of Harav Fisher zt”l quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 122.</ref> Harav Elyashiv Shlita says that one who is twenty can say he is nineteen.<ref>Quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 122. The Steipler zt”l said that in general the husband should not be more than ten years older than the wife (Orchos Rabbeinu 1:page 268:23).</ref> When this question arises one should discuss it with his Rav. | # A question arises if one is permitted to tell a shadchan he or she is younger than their age in order to facilitate a shidduch.<ref>Refer to Titen Emes L’Yaakov pages 121-124 on this inyun. </ref> There are poskim who say if one of the sides is already looking for a shidduch and is having a hard time finding one then he or she may lie about their age.<ref>Opinion of Harav Fisher zt”l quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 122.</ref> Harav Elyashiv Shlita says that one who is twenty can say he is nineteen.<ref>Quoted in Titen Emes L’Yaakov page 122. The Steipler zt”l said that in general the husband should not be more than ten years older than the wife (Orchos Rabbeinu 1:page 268:23).</ref> When this question arises one should discuss it with his Rav. | ||
