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# Once a woman who was asked to get married agrees she has to obverse Shiva Nekiyim, whether or not she saw any blood when she agreed to get married. The reason the rabbis instituted this is because of a concern that she saw blood as a result of her anticipation of getting married and even if there's no blood there's a concern that it was lost. This is termed dam chimud.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 192:1</ref> | # Once a woman who was asked to get married agrees she has to obverse Shiva Nekiyim, whether or not she saw any blood when she agreed to get married. The reason the rabbis instituted this is because of a concern that she saw blood as a result of her anticipation of getting married and even if there's no blood there's a concern that it was lost. This is termed dam chimud.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 192:1</ref> | ||
# For this concern of dam chimud, it isn't necessary to have a hefsek tahara. Yet it is necessary to have bedikot each day of Shiva Nekiyim.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 192:1</ref> | # For this concern of dam chimud, it isn't necessary to have a hefsek tahara. Yet, it is necessary to have bedikot each day<ref>Shach 192:2 agrees with Shulchan Aruch that only one bedika is necessary each day, however, the Badei Hashulchan 192:13 writes that initially she should have two bedikot each day.</ref> of Shiva Nekiyim.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 192:1. The reason for this distinction is because the entire need for shiva nekiyim is based on a concern that she saw. There is no need for a hefsek tahara since we can assume even if she started to see would have stopped by the end of the day (Rashba Torat Habayit 5b). However, she still needs bedikot since the definition of shiva nekiyim is bedikot (Ran Shevuot 4b s.v. tavuha). Alternatively, as she gets closer to the wedding there is a greater concern that she'll see (Rosh Niddah 10:4). </ref> The minhag is to require a hefsek tahara.<ref>Shach 192:1, Badei Hashulchan 192:10</ref> Either way the woman who saw a period prior to her wedding obviously requires a hefsek tahara and isn't included in this discussion.<Ref>Sidrei Tahara 192:3</ref> | ||
## The bedikot for an unmarried woman are supposed to be done as deep as she can reach even though it isn't possible for her to check into the chorin and tzedakin (folds of that area as far as she can reach).<ref>Badei Hashulchan 192:11 and 196:98</ref> | |||
# The period of Shiva Nekiyim could begin from when they agree to get married and begin to seriously prepare for the wedding.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 192:2</ref> | # The period of Shiva Nekiyim could begin from when they agree to get married and begin to seriously prepare for the wedding.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 192:2</ref> | ||
