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# A person shouldn't laugh excessively [in empty matters], nor be sad; rather, one should be happy all one's days, with a good expression on one's face. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:2 </ref>. | # A person shouldn't laugh excessively [in empty matters], nor be sad; rather, one should be happy all one's days, with a good expression on one's face. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:2 </ref>. | ||
# Jealousy, Desire, and Pursuit of Honor remove a person from the world <ref> Pirkei Avot 4: | # Jealousy, Desire, and Pursuit of Honor remove a person from the world <ref> Pirkei Avot 4:21 </ref>. Nonetheless, one shouldn't separate from them excessively, saying "I won't eat meat, drink wine, marry a wife, live in a nice house, or wear nice clothing; instead, I will wear a sack [of [[mourning]]]". This is also an evil path, and one is forbidden to walk on it. One is called a sinner if one does; even a Nazir is called a sinner for refraining from wine. The Torah has already forbidden enough, that we should add on more prohibitions. One shouldn't add on fasts unnecessarily. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:6. However, a Rebbe said at a Sichas Mussar: modern society often confuses what actually is a necessity, and what actually is a luxury </ref>. | ||
# One should be content with one's lot <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:6 </ref>. | # One should be content with one's lot <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:6 </ref>. | ||
# One should be as bold as a lion, light as an eagle, as fast as a deer and as strong as a lion, to do the will of your Father in heaven <ref> Pirkei Avos 5:23 </ref>. Thus, one shouldn't be embarrassed from people who scoff at him in his Divine Service. Nevertheless, one shouldn't likewise respond brazenly to them, so that one doesn't acquire the character trait of brazenness / עזות פנים <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:8 </ref>. | # One should be as bold as a lion, light as an eagle, as fast as a deer and as strong as a lion, to do the will of your Father in heaven <ref> Pirkei Avos 5:23 </ref>. Thus, one shouldn't be embarrassed from people who scoff at him in his Divine Service. Nevertheless, one shouldn't likewise respond brazenly to them, so that one doesn't acquire the character trait of brazenness / עזות פנים <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:8 </ref>. | ||
