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# If the other person is a greater Torah scholar, one must honor him. | # If the other person is a greater Torah scholar, one must honor him. | ||
# If the other person is wealthy, one must honor him. </ref>. | # If the other person is wealthy, one must honor him. </ref>. | ||
# For example, if one sees a rich person, when one sees his wealth, one must think that Hashem gave him wealth because he is fit for it [and able to dispense it well to [[charity]]]. <ref> | # For example, if one sees a rich person, when one sees his wealth, one must think that Hashem gave him wealth because he is fit for it [and able to dispense it well to [[charity]]]. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:3</ref>. | ||
# If the other person is smaller than oneself in wisdom or wealth, one should view him as more righteous, because if he sins, he is considered Shogeig or forced, and if you sin, it is considered Intentional / Meizid. <ref> | # If the other person is smaller than oneself in wisdom or wealth, one should view him as more righteous, because if he sins, he is considered Shogeig or forced, and if you sin, it is considered Intentional / Meizid. <ref>Kitzur S"A 29:3</ref> | ||
Man's nature is to be drawn in deeds after his neighbors, friends, and people of his locale. Therefore, a person should endeavor to attach himself to Tzaddikkim and Talmidei Chachamim, so that he can learn from their ways. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:10. A Rebbe, when asked what the best way to acquire character traits is, responded that it is to find people that have those character traits already, and to imitate them </ref>. One should distance himself from the wicked, so that he doesn't learn from their deeds. <ref> | Man's nature is to be drawn in deeds after his neighbors, friends, and people of his locale. Therefore, a person should endeavor to attach himself to Tzaddikkim and Talmidei Chachamim, so that he can learn from their ways. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:10. A Rebbe, when asked what the best way to acquire character traits is, responded that it is to find people that have those character traits already, and to imitate them </ref>. One should distance himself from the wicked, so that he doesn't learn from their deeds. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:10 </ref>. | ||
How can one avoid [[Lashon Hara]]? | How can one avoid [[Lashon Hara]]? | ||
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How can one avoid [[Revenge]]? | How can one avoid [[Revenge]]? | ||
#If you want to take [[revenge]] from your enemy, perfect yourself and walk in upright ways; your enemy will be distressed at your [[Middot]] and your good name <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 30:8 </ref>. | #If you want to take [[revenge]] from your enemy, perfect yourself and walk in upright ways; your enemy will be distressed at your [[Middot]] and your good name <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 30:8 </ref>. | ||
# However, if you respond with lowly deeds, your enemy will be happy with your disgrace <ref> | # However, if you respond with lowly deeds, your enemy will be happy with your disgrace <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 30:8 </ref>. | ||
==Financial matters== | ==Financial matters== | ||
# There is a pious practice not to accept any gifts but rather to trust that Hashem will provide his needs.<ref>Kitzur S"A 29:21</ref> | # There is a pious practice not to accept any gifts but rather to trust that Hashem will provide his needs.<ref>Kitzur S"A 29:21</ref> | ||
# One shouldn't be stingy, but one shouldn't give away all one's money. <ref> | # One shouldn't be stingy, but one shouldn't give away all one's money. <ref> Kitzur S"A 29:2 </ref>. | ||
==Consequences of Bad Middot== | ==Consequences of Bad Middot== | ||
# Four groups of people don't receive the Divine Presence: -Scoffers -Flatterers -Liars -Speakers of [[Lashon Hara]] <ref> Kitzur S"A 30:6 </ref>. | # Four groups of people don't receive the Divine Presence: -Scoffers -Flatterers -Liars -Speakers of [[Lashon Hara]] <ref> Kitzur S"A 30:6 </ref>. | ||
==Related Pages== | ==Related Pages== | ||
* [[Anger]] | * [[Anger]] | ||
