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# However, arrogance is a very bad character trait and should be avoided altogether. One should accustom oneself to have a humble spirit. Additionally, [[anger]] is a vey bad character trait and one should stay far away from it. Thus, one should accustom oneself to refrain from [[anger]] even over something which is deserving of getting angry. <ref>Kitzur S"A 29:3</ref> | # However, arrogance is a very bad character trait and should be avoided altogether. One should accustom oneself to have a humble spirit. Additionally, [[anger]] is a vey bad character trait and one should stay far away from it. Thus, one should accustom oneself to refrain from [[anger]] even over something which is deserving of getting angry. <ref>Kitzur S"A 29:3</ref> | ||
# A person should attempt to engage in being quiet except for speaking words of divrei torah or something that's necessary for his worldly needs. Even for one's worldly needs one shouldn't speak excessively. <ref>Kitzur S"A 29:5</ref> | # A person should attempt to engage in being quiet except for speaking words of divrei torah or something that's necessary for his worldly needs. Even for one's worldly needs one shouldn't speak excessively. <ref>Kitzur S"A 29:5</ref> | ||
==Examples of Middot== | |||
# A person shouldn't laugh excessively [in empty matters], nor be sad; rather, one should be happy all one's days, with a good expression on one's face. <ref> KSA 29:2 </ref>. | |||
==Ways to Perfect Character Traits== | |||
How should one accustom onesself to humility? One should always speak gently, and have a bent comportment with a head looking down, with one's heart above. One should always view a person as more important than oneself. <ref> KSA 29:3. For example: | |||
# If the other person is a greater Torah scholar, one must honor him. | |||
# If the other person is wealthy, one must honor him. </ref>. | |||
# For example, if one sees a rich person, when one sees his wealth, one must think that Hashem gave him wealth because he is fit for it [and able to dispense it well to [[charity]]]. <ref> Ibid </ref>. | |||
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==Financial matters== | ==Financial matters== | ||
# There is a pious practice not to accept any gifts but rather to trust that Hashem will provide his needs.<ref>Kitzur S"A 29:21</ref> | # There is a pious practice not to accept any gifts but rather to trust that Hashem will provide his needs.<ref>Kitzur S"A 29:21</ref> | ||
