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==Handshakes== | ==Handshakes== | ||
#It is forbidden for one to initiate a handshake with the opposite gender.<ref>Shaarei Teshuvah 3:80 , Sefer Chassidim 1090, Od Yosef Chaiy Shoftim pg. 151, Igros Moshe O.C. 1:113, E.H. 1:56 and 4:32-9, Mishneh Halachos 6:223, Otzer Haposkim 20:3-1, Az Nidbaru 2:73, as quoted by Rav Ari Wasserman. [http://www.workplacehalacha.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Chapter-12-Shaking-Hands.pdf See article here] </ref><ref>Od Yosef Chai Shoftim pg. 151 | #It is forbidden for one to initiate a handshake with the opposite gender.<ref>Shaarei Teshuvah 3:80, Sefer Chassidim 1090, Od Yosef Chaiy Shoftim pg. 151, Igros Moshe O.C. 1:113, E.H. 1:56 and 4:32-9, Mishneh Halachos 6:223, Yalkut Yosef (Otzar Dinim L'isha 60:27), Otzer Haposkim 20:3-1, Az Nidbaru 2:73, as quoted by Rav Ari Wasserman. [http://www.workplacehalacha.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Chapter-12-Shaking-Hands.pdf See article here] </ref><ref>Od Yosef Chai (Shoftim pg. 151) and Igros Moshe O.C. 1:113 explain that a handshake is inherently considered affectionate. Beit Yosef 195, Sdei Chemed 3 Marechet 100 Klal 7 hold that even if it would not be considered affectionate, it would still be a violation of the Rabbinic decree to touch the opposite gender even not affectionately. Sefardim should follow this opinion.</ref> | ||
#It is still forbidden to initiate a handshake with the opposite gender if one is wearing gloves.<ref>Sefer Chassidim 1090, Od Yosef Chai Shoftim pg. 151</ref> | #It is still forbidden to initiate a handshake with the opposite gender if one is wearing gloves.<ref>Sefer Chassidim 1090, Od Yosef Chai Shoftim pg. 151</ref> | ||
#Some poskim hold that it is permitted to shake someone of the opposite gender's hand in a professional context if she extends her hand first. However, other poskim forbid doing so.<ref>Rav Moshe Feinstein in Igrot Moshe EH 1:56 writes that some rabbis who permit shaking a woman's hand if she extends hers he would understand that it was based on the concept of that it wasn't derech chiba. However, he writes that he thinks that it is a weak argument to rely on.</ref> | #Some poskim hold that it is permitted to shake someone of the opposite gender's hand in a professional context if she extends her hand first. However, other poskim forbid doing so.<ref>Rav Moshe Feinstein in Igrot Moshe EH 1:56 writes that some rabbis who permit shaking a woman's hand if she extends hers he would understand that it was based on the concept of that it wasn't derech chiba. However, he writes that he thinks that it is a weak argument to rely on. [https://www.yutorah.org/lectures/1094161 Rabbi Mordechai Willig (Chatzitza Shiur 23 min 17)] holds that it is permitted to shake a woman's hand in a professional context because it isn't derech chiba.</ref> | ||
==Public Transportation== | ==Public Transportation== | ||
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#Mixed dancing is forbidden.<ref>Zichron Yosef OC 17 even says that it is a terrible sin.</ref> | #Mixed dancing is forbidden.<ref>Zichron Yosef OC 17 even says that it is a terrible sin.</ref> | ||
==Immediate Relatives== | |||
# It is forbidden to hug a sister.<Ref>Shulchan Aruch E.H. 21:7. Chelkat Mechokek EH 21:9 allows hugging a sister who is 3 years old. Rosh Pinah 21:9 writes that it is only permitted while she is 3 or younger, but not afterwards.</ref> | |||
# It is permitted for a father to hug a daughter, even if she's married. Similarly, a mother can hug her son.<ref>Shulchan Aruch E.H. 21:7, Bet Shmuel 21:15 quoting Prisha. Otzar Haposkim 21:55 supports this from Minchat Pittim who writes that it was Arizal's practice to kiss his mother's hand every erev Shabbat, even though he was an adult. However, see Otzar Haposkim who quotes Netivot Lshevet and Meiri that it is forbidden to hug a daughter that is physically mature and perhaps even younger.</ref> | |||
# It is permitted for a grandfather to hug a granddaughter.<Ref>Chelkat Mechokek 21:10, Bet Shmuel 21:14, Pitchei Teshuva 21:5 quoting Chida</ref> Some distinguish between a granddaughter that is a daughter of a daughter, which is permitted to hug, and a daughter of a son, which is forbidden.<Ref>Igrot Moshe EH 1:60 writes that perhaps it is only permitted to hug a daughter of a daughter since even if he comes to have a hirhur about her parents that isn't an issue. But it is forbidden to hug a son's daughter because he couldn't have a hirhur about her parents, namely, his daughter-in-law. He isn't certain about this idea but says that a scrupulous person should be careful to be strict but not protest one who is lenient. Otzar Haposkim 21:52:2 quotes Igrot Moshe without dissent.</ref> | |||
==Doctors== | ==Doctors== | ||
