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# Generally speaking, Ashkenazim do not name children after living people<ref>Sefer HaChassidim 460</ref> for fear of shortening the other person's life<ref>Yehuda Ya’aleh (vol. 2 Even HaEzer, Choshen Mishpat 106; Yoreh Deah 246)</ref> or to avoid violating a living parent's honor by calling the child the same name as the parent in his presence.<ref>Sdei Chemed (Chattan veKallah 5), Chelkat Yaakov Yoreh Deah Siman 136, Aseh Lecha Rav 2:57 and 6:69</ref> | # Generally speaking, Ashkenazim do not name children after living people<ref>Sefer HaChassidim 460</ref> for fear of shortening the other person's life<ref>Yehuda Ya’aleh (vol. 2 Even HaEzer, Choshen Mishpat 106; Yoreh Deah 246)</ref> or to avoid violating a living parent's honor by calling the child the same name as the parent in his presence.<ref>Sdei Chemed (Chattan veKallah 5), Chelkat Yaakov Yoreh Deah Siman 136, Aseh Lecha Rav 2:57 and 6:69</ref> | ||
# Some say that if there is no reason to pick a particular name, even Ashkenazim are advised to choose the name of one of the Neviim or a recognized Tzaddik and genius of our times, even if he's still alive.<ref>Iggerot Moshe (Orach Chaim 4:66). See Minchat Elazar vol. 4 Siman 27 and Beis Yitzchok 5747 page 5</ref> Others allow naming after a living person if it will give the namesake tremendous satisfaction and raise his low spirits.<ref>Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv named his third child, a daughter, after their childless neighbor as an act of kindness to uplift her gloomy spirits. HaShakdan vol. 3 page 182; Rav Elyashiv, Yehuda and Malky Heimowitz, Artscroll Mesorah, p. 109.</ref> | # Some say that if there is no reason to pick a particular name, even Ashkenazim are advised to choose the name of one of the Neviim or a recognized Tzaddik and genius of our times, even if he's still alive.<ref>Iggerot Moshe (Orach Chaim 4:66). See Minchat Elazar vol. 4 Siman 27 and Beis Yitzchok 5747 page 5</ref> Others allow naming after a living person if it will give the namesake tremendous satisfaction and raise his low spirits.<ref>Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv named his third child, a daughter, after their childless neighbor as an act of kindness to uplift her gloomy spirits. HaShakdan vol. 3 page 182; Rav Elyashiv, Yehuda and Malky Heimowitz, Artscroll Mesorah, p. 109.</ref> | ||
# | # Sephardim in general have the custom to name children after living relatives, starting with the father’s parents and then the mother’s, unless there are additional factors such as a loss of the mother’s parent, in which case the paternal grandfather’s Mechilah would be needed.<ref> Yabia Omer vol. 5 Yoreh De’ah 21, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot vol. 2 10:2)</ref> | ||
# If one is naming after both parents (such as to appease everybody), the name of the paternal father should come first.<ref>Ben Ish Chai (Shanah II Shoftim 27), Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot vol. 2 10:3)</ref> | # If one is naming after both parents (such as to appease everybody), the name of the paternal father should come first.<ref>Ben Ish Chai (Shanah II Shoftim 27), Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot vol. 2 10:3)</ref> | ||
# Even by | # Even by Sephardim this Minhag is not ubiquitous. In Morocco and Iraq, specifically, they would not name after the living, while in Algeria and Tunis, they would. Some say that if the living relative gives permission, it's nevertheless ok in any location.<ref>Netivot HaMaarav pg 139, Nahagu Ha’Am Shonot 7, Ateret Avot vol. 3 pg. 80, [http://halachayomit.co.il/en/Default.aspx?HalachaID=2044 HalachaYomit.co.il]</ref> | ||
# In the case of a mixed marriage, where the mother of the baby’s family does allow it, but the father's does not, the baby may be named for its mother’s living family members.<ref>Yabia Omer vol. 5 Yoreh De’ah 21, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot vol. 2 10:4), Shalmei Simcha page 458</ref> | # In the case of a mixed marriage, where the mother of the baby’s family does allow it, but the father's does not, the baby may be named for its mother’s living family members.<ref>Yabia Omer vol. 5 Yoreh De’ah 21, Yalkut Yosef (Sova Semachot vol. 2 10:4), Shalmei Simcha page 458</ref> | ||
# If the child is the product of a broken marriage, some recommend not naming the baby for members of either family to avoid aggravation from the opposite side.<ref>Chashukei Chemed Gittin 26b</ref> | # If the child is the product of a broken marriage, some recommend not naming the baby for members of either family to avoid aggravation from the opposite side.<ref>Chashukei Chemed Gittin 26b</ref> | ||
