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==Mourning and Fasting on Chanuka== | ==Mourning and Fasting on Chanuka== | ||
# If a relative passes away on [[Chanukah]] one must keep all the practices of [[Aveilut]], including [[ripping]] one’s clothing for the dead and comforting the mourner. <Ref>Mishna Brurah 670:12 writes that all agree that there is [[Aveilut]] on [[Chanukah]]. Yalkut Yosef (Moadim 192) agrees. </ref> | # If a relative passes away on [[Chanukah]] one must keep all the practices of [[Aveilut]], including [[ripping]] one’s clothing for the dead and comforting the mourner. <Ref>Mishna Brurah 670:12 writes that all agree that there is [[Aveilut]] on [[Chanukah]]. Yalkut Yosef (Moadim 192) agrees. </ref> | ||
# One should not conduct a eulogy during [[Chanukah]] because [[Chanukah]] is a time of Simcha and [[Hallel]] and it is only permitted to conduct a eulogy for a Chacham on the day of death. <Ref> [[Shabbat]] 21b says that it’s forbidden to eulogize on [[Chanukah]]. However Megilah 3b and moed Katan 26b says for a Chacham it’s permitted on Moed and all the more so for [[Chanukah]]. S”A 670:3 rules this that it’s forbidden except for a Chacham. Mahariv, | # One should not conduct a eulogy during [[Chanukah]] because [[Chanukah]] is a time of Simcha and [[Hallel]] and it is only permitted to conduct a eulogy for a Chacham on the day of death. <Ref> [[Shabbat]] 21b says that it’s forbidden to eulogize on [[Chanukah]]. However Megilah 3b and moed Katan 26b says for a Chacham it’s permitted on Moed and all the more so for [[Chanukah]]. S”A 670:3 rules this that it’s forbidden except for a Chacham. Mahariv, Magen Avraham (C”M 547) and Chaye Aam says nowadays we don’t have a Chacham. However the Maharamit, Birkei Yosef (C”M 15:2), Orach Mishpat 4:17 in name of Maharshal (Bava Kama 2), Nezirut Shimshon, Aruch HaShulchan, Shaar Shlomo Zorafa 135, and Sh”t Yabia Omer Y”D 9:46 allow it even nowadays.</ref> A teacher of Torah who set times to learn is considered a Chacham to eulogize on [[Chanukah]] during the Levayah. <Ref> Sh”t Shaar Shlomo Zorafa 135 and Yalkut Yosef (Kitzur S”A 670:6). </ref> | ||
# One is not allowed to fast on [[Chanukah]]. If one’s parent’s Yehrzheit falls out on [[Chanukah]] (according to those who fast for one’s parent’s yehrzeit) one should fast one of the days prior to [[Chanukah]]. <Ref> S”A 670:1 based on [[Shabbat]] 21b says it’s forbidden to fast on [[Chanukah]]. </ref> | # One is not allowed to fast on [[Chanukah]]. If one’s parent’s Yehrzheit falls out on [[Chanukah]] (according to those who fast for one’s parent’s yehrzeit) one should fast one of the days prior to [[Chanukah]]. <Ref> S”A 670:1 based on [[Shabbat]] 21b says it’s forbidden to fast on [[Chanukah]]. </ref> | ||
# One is allowed to fast or do a eulogy the day before or after [[Chanukah]]. Some say that one should be strict not to fast the day before [[Chanukah]] Lechatchila. <Ref> S”A 686:1 based on Tosfot (Tanit 18) and Rosh (Megilah Perek Kama). However, Mishna Brurah 686:1 brings Bach and Pri Chadash that say one isn’t allowed to fast the day before [[Chanukah]]. Mishna Brurah 686:1 says that since it’s permitted to fast the day before and after [[Chanukah]] (S”A 686:1) one is allowed to do a eulogy because a eulogy is more lenient than a fast (Shaar Tzion 686:1). See further, Sh”t Har HaKarmel O”C 10, and Sh”t Divrei Moshe 1:37 </ref> | # One is allowed to fast or do a eulogy the day before or after [[Chanukah]]. Some say that one should be strict not to fast the day before [[Chanukah]] Lechatchila. <Ref> S”A 686:1 based on Tosfot (Tanit 18) and Rosh (Megilah Perek Kama). However, Mishna Brurah 686:1 brings Bach and Pri [[Chadash]] that say one isn’t allowed to fast the day before [[Chanukah]]. Mishna Brurah 686:1 says that since it’s permitted to fast the day before and after [[Chanukah]] (S”A 686:1) one is allowed to do a eulogy because a eulogy is more lenient than a fast (Shaar Tzion 686:1). See further, Sh”t Har HaKarmel O”C 10, and Sh”t Divrei Moshe 1:37 </ref> | ||
# If one did fast on [[Chanukah]] one should make it up by fasting again after [[Chanukah]]. <Ref> S”A 568:5 </ref> | # If one did fast on [[Chanukah]] one should make it up by fasting again after [[Chanukah]]. <Ref> S”A 568:5 </ref> | ||
# One shouldn’t go to visit cemeteries during [[Chanukah]] (and especially [[Chol HaMoed]]) because it generates sadness and a eulogy of the deceased. One has what to rely on to visit the graves of Tzadikkim during [[Chanukah]] and [[Chol HaMoed]]. <Ref> Gesher HaChaim and Yalkut Yosef (Moadim pg 192) based on Bet Yosef (Y”D 344) who forbids going to cemeteries on [[Rosh Chodesh]]. Ben Ish Chai allows going to graves on Tzaddikim even on [[Chol HaMoed]] and Moed LeChol Chai argues that one shouldn’t go to the cemetery at all.</Ref> | # One shouldn’t go to visit cemeteries during [[Chanukah]] (and especially [[Chol HaMoed]]) because it generates sadness and a eulogy of the deceased. One has what to rely on to visit the graves of Tzadikkim during [[Chanukah]] and [[Chol HaMoed]]. <Ref> Gesher HaChaim and Yalkut Yosef (Moadim pg 192) based on Bet Yosef (Y”D 344) who forbids going to cemeteries on [[Rosh Chodesh]]. Ben Ish Chai allows going to graves on Tzaddikim even on [[Chol HaMoed]] and Moed LeChol Chai argues that one shouldn’t go to the cemetery at all.</Ref> | ||
# Some have the Minhag not to say [[Kaddish]] for their parents on [[Chanukah]], however it’s a wrong Minhag and one should continue saying [[Kaddish]] even on [[Chanukah]]. <Ref> Yalkut Yosef Moadim pg 193. </ref> | # Some have the Minhag not to say [[Kaddish]] for their parents on [[Chanukah]], however it’s a wrong Minhag and one should continue saying [[Kaddish]] even on [[Chanukah]]. <Ref> Yalkut Yosef Moadim pg 193. </ref> | ||
== | ==Mourning and Fasting on Purim== | ||
# | # Even though Purim is a joyous occasion it doesn't cancel aveilut.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 401:7</ref> | ||
# | # Someone in shiva on Purim doesn't observe aveilut publicly but does so private like he would on Shabbat ([[Aveilut on Shabbat]]).<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 401:7. Shach 401:4 writes that there is a contradiction in Shulchan Aruch between YD and OC and he concludes that we follow what it says in YD that there is no aveilut on Purim except in private.</ref> | ||
# A mourner for 12 months for a parent or month for other relatives does give Mishloach Manot on Purim but he should only give a few and only give meal type foods and not candies.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 696:6 writes that a mourner should give mishloach manot. Mishna Brurah 696:20 adds that he shouldn't send fun things, instead he should send money or meat. Chazon Ovadia p. 193 agrees. Nitai Gavriel 78:10 writes that he shouldn't give more than a two or three mishloach manot.</ref> | |||
# It is forbidden to send Mishloach Manot to someone who is in aveilut for the duration of the 12 months for a parent or thirty days of another relative.<ref>Rama 696:6. Mishna Brurah 696:20 explains that the reason it is forbidden is because it is forbidden to greet the mourner within the 12 months of mourning a parent so too it is forbidden to send them a gift.</ref> Many are lenient to send Mishloach Manot after the first thirty days for someone mourning a parent.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:21:7:10 based on the minhag of greeting a mourner during the 12 months.</ref> Sephardim hold it is permitted to send mishloach manot to a mourner.<ref>Chazon Ovadia Purim p. 193 writes that since Shulchan Aruch YD 401:7 writes there's no mourner on Purim he can even receive Mishloach Manot. Chazon Ovadia Avelut v. 2 p. 251 reiterates this point.</ref> | |||
# If a woman is in mourning it is permitted for the friends of the husband to send him Mishloach Manot since he's not in mourning.<ref>Chazon Ovadia p. 194</ref> | |||
# The poskim permit sending mishloach manot to a rabbi when is in mourning on Purim since it isn't a sign of friendship.<Ref>Piskei Teshuvot 696:10 citing Teshuvot Vehanhagot 1:692, Divrei Malkiel 237</ref> | |||
==Related pages== | ==Related pages== | ||
# See also [[Mourning]]. | # See also [[Mourning]]. | ||
==Links== | |||
* [http://www.hebrewbooks.org/56810 Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Chanukah (Hebrew 5773)] | |||
==Sources== | ==Sources== | ||
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