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# Included in this commandment is to have pity on fellow Jews and on their money. Also, to speak positively of other Jews and to be concerned about their honor. <ref> Mishpitei HaShalom pg. 144 </ref> | # Included in this commandment is to have pity on fellow Jews and on their money. Also, to speak positively of other Jews and to be concerned about their honor. <ref> Mishpitei HaShalom pg. 144 </ref> | ||
# One should find joy in the successes of other and avoid feeling jealous just as one would celebrate his own success. <ref> Mishpitei Hashalom pg. 144 in the name of the Ramban. </ref> | # One should find joy in the successes of other and avoid feeling jealous just as one would celebrate his own success. <ref> Mishpitei Hashalom pg. 144 in the name of the Ramban. </ref> | ||
# One absolutely may not get honor through the disgrace of his friend. Even if the friend isn't standing there, and didn't receive any embarassment, and even if one only embarrassed him in comparison to someone else's actions or deeds--one who does this has no share in the world to come, until he does [[Teshuva]]. <ref> Rambam Hil' [[Teshuva]] 4:4, Kitzur | # One absolutely may not get honor through the disgrace of his friend. Even if the friend isn't standing there, and didn't receive any embarassment, and even if one only embarrassed him in comparison to someone else's actions or deeds--one who does this has no share in the world to come, until he does [[Teshuva]]. <ref> Rambam Hil' [[Teshuva]] 4:4, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 29;12 </ref>. | ||
==Who is one Obligated to Love?== | ==Who is one Obligated to Love?== | ||
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==The Sin of Hating a Fellow Jew== | ==The Sin of Hating a Fellow Jew== | ||
#Anyone who hates in his heart any Jew violates the Negative Commandment of "Do Not Hate your Brother in Your Heart" (לא תשנא את אחיך בלבבך) <ref> Vayikra 19:17 </ref>. | #Anyone who hates in his heart any Jew violates the Negative Commandment of "Do Not Hate your Brother in Your Heart" (לא תשנא את אחיך בלבבך) <ref> Vayikra 19:17 </ref>. | ||
# If someone sinned against you, you shouldn't be quiet and hate them <ref> As Avshalom did against Amnon, Shmuel Bet 13:22 </ref>, but instead tell him what he did, and ask him: "Why did you do this to me, and why did you sin to me in this way?", as it is written: "You shall surely rebuke your friend" <ref> Kitzur | # If someone sinned against you, you shouldn't be quiet and hate them <ref> As Avshalom did against Amnon, Shmuel Bet 13:22 </ref>, but instead tell him what he did, and ask him: "Why did you do this to me, and why did you sin to me in this way?", as it is written: "You shall surely rebuke your friend" <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 29:13 based on Vayikra 19:17 </ref>. | ||
# If one's friend asked for his forgiveness, he must not be cruel, and instead forgive him, just as Avrohom davened to Hashem to heal Avimelech <ref> Kitzur | # If one's friend asked for his forgiveness, he must not be cruel, and instead forgive him, just as Avrohom davened to Hashem to heal Avimelech <ref> Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 29:13 </ref>. | ||
# It is forbidden for a person to pray for judgment against a friend who did him wrong, if there is judgment available on earth. Anyone who prays that his friend should get punished is himself punished first. <ref> Kitzur S.A. 29:14</ref>. | # It is forbidden for a person to pray for judgment against a friend who did him wrong, if there is judgment available on earth. Anyone who prays that his friend should get punished is himself punished first. <ref> Kitzur S.A. 29:14</ref>. | ||
