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# Even if a person requests not to spend his money on his burial we bury him from his assets and if he has none we still bury him.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 348:2 and 3</ref> | # Even if a person requests not to spend his money on his burial we bury him from his assets and if he has none we still bury him.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 348:2 and 3</ref> | ||
# Someone who hastens the process of the burial is praiseworthy except for a parent a child may not rush the burial as doing so is disrespectful.<ref>Moed Katan 22a, Shulchan Aruch YD 357:2, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 300)</ref> | # Someone who hastens the process of the burial is praiseworthy except for a parent a child may not rush the burial as doing so is disrespectful.<ref>Moed Katan 22a, Shulchan Aruch YD 357:2, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 300)</ref> | ||
# When passing the shovel to someone else it shouldn't be passed directly; instead it should be left on the ground and the next person picks it up.<ref>Eliya Rabba 224:8, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 332)</ref> | |||
==Putting up a Tombstone== | |||
# Some have the minhag not to put up the tombstone until after 12 months from the death of the relative because a person's memory of the deceased weakens after 12 months and the tombstone is to be a commemoration of the deceased.<Ref>Eliya Rabba 224:8 provides two reasons for the minhag not to set up a tombstone until after 12 months. First, during the first twelve months the relatives are filled with sadness and putting up the tombstone is happy. Second, only after 12 months is it necessary to set up a tombstone to remember the deceased.</ref> | |||
# Reading the writing on a tombstone causes one to forget.<ref>Eliya Rabba 224:8</ref> | |||
==Practices after the Funeral== | ==Practices after the Funeral== | ||
# There is a practice to take dirt and grass and throw it over one's shoulder after the burial. This is a reference to the resurrection of the dead.<ref>shibolei Haleket (Semachot no. 14), Shulchan Aruch YD 376:4</ref> | # There is a practice to take dirt and grass and throw it over one's shoulder after the burial. This is a reference to the resurrection of the dead.<ref>shibolei Haleket (Semachot no. 14), Shulchan Aruch YD 376:4</ref> | ||
