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# Also, one may not talk about others in a positive way if doing so will cause the subject suffering or other problems – such as highlighting someone's extraordinary generosity, as the donor may then be overwhelmed from all the unsolicited attention.<ref>Chofetz Chaim, Hilchot Lashon Harah 9:1-3</ref> | # Also, one may not talk about others in a positive way if doing so will cause the subject suffering or other problems – such as highlighting someone's extraordinary generosity, as the donor may then be overwhelmed from all the unsolicited attention.<ref>Chofetz Chaim, Hilchot Lashon Harah 9:1-3</ref> | ||
===Inappropriate Praise===# One must be careful not to praise his friend in front of others who think negatively about him as this may lead them to speak negatively about him. It is also not allowed to speak excessively positively about any individual, as eventually the speaker or listener might be tempted to highlight some of the subject's negative characteristics as well.<ref> Chafetz Chaim Hilchot Lashon Hara 9:1, Gemara Baba Batra 164b, Erchin 16a. Rambam Deot 7:4 writes that one should not praise someone at all in front of his enemy because it will cause the listener to disparage the subject </ref> | ===Inappropriate Praise=== | ||
# One must be careful not to praise his friend in front of others who think negatively about him as this may lead them to speak negatively about him. It is also not allowed to speak excessively positively about any individual, as eventually the speaker or listener might be tempted to highlight some of the subject's negative characteristics as well.<ref> Chafetz Chaim Hilchot Lashon Hara 9:1, Gemara Baba Batra 164b, Erchin 16a. Rambam Deot 7:4 writes that one should not praise someone at all in front of his enemy because it will cause the listener to disparage the subject </ref> | |||
# When speaking in front of a large group of people, one is not permitted to speak positively about anyone else for fear of what negative features about the said person those in the audience might begin to discuss among themselves. Obviously if the context and reason for the speech lends to positive discussion – about the honoree of the occasion, for example – then this prohibition does not apply. | # When speaking in front of a large group of people, one is not permitted to speak positively about anyone else for fear of what negative features about the said person those in the audience might begin to discuss among themselves. Obviously if the context and reason for the speech lends to positive discussion – about the honoree of the occasion, for example – then this prohibition does not apply. | ||
