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# It’s forbidden to say Lashon Hara in front of one person and all the more so in front of many people. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:1) </ref> | # It’s forbidden to say Lashon Hara in front of one person and all the more so in front of many people. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:1) </ref> However, it is permitted to make an ambiguous statement that can be understood in two ways (positively and negatively) about a Jew only if one says it in front of three people. The reasoning is that since it is said in front of 3 people the word will spread to the one being spoken about. If the speaker knows that what he says will be heard by the one he is speaking about, surely he will be careful not to say something that is recognizably derogatory about another. For example, to say a fire is always burning in a certain house where one has good intentions (the family has many children and Hashem blessed them with wealth or that they are extremely hospitable) but it could also be construed as a criticism (that in that house they are always eating gluttonously). <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:2). This is his understanding of the gemara Erchin 15 </ref> | ||
# Some say that if someone said Lashon Hara before 3 people, even though he certainly violated Lashon Hara, the people who heard it may repeat it to others as long as one doesn’t intend to spread the word and publicize it. Some say it is forbidden except if it comes up tangentially in conversation. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:3) </ref>. However, only those who heard it directly can repeat it. The one who heard from someone who heard it originally may not repeat it. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:4) </ref> | |||
# Some say that if someone said Lashon Hara before 3 people even though he certainly violated Lashon Hara, the people who heard it | |||
# If one of the 3 original people who heard it were yireh Hashem who are careful on Lashon Hara then it’s forbidden to repeat it. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:5) </ref> | # If one of the 3 original people who heard it were yireh Hashem who are careful on Lashon Hara then it’s forbidden to repeat it. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:5) </ref> | ||
# Something said before three people may only be repeated within the city and not in another city. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:6) </ref> | # Something said before three people may only be repeated within the city and not in another city. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:6) </ref> | ||
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# This leniency only applies to 1 speaking to 3 and not 2 speaking to 2. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:8) </ref> | # This leniency only applies to 1 speaking to 3 and not 2 speaking to 2. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:8) </ref> | ||
# One may not add even one word or to support it such as saying that story which was heard was accurate. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:9) </ref> | # One may not add even one word or to support it such as saying that story which was heard was accurate. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:9) </ref> | ||
# If it’s well known that a certain person did wrong in his past but now acts properly or it’s well known that his parents did wrong but he acts properly it’s forbidden to say | # If it’s well known that a certain person did wrong in his past but now acts properly or it’s well known that his parents did wrong but he acts properly it’s forbidden to say this negative information. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:9) </ref> | ||
# Even if one | # Even if one fulfills the other requirements of BeApei Telata, if someone knows that the one listening will accept this information as true and add to it, it’s forbidden to tell him. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:10) </ref> | ||
# One who is careful about their soul would distance themselves from this leniency altogether. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:10) </ref> | # One who is careful about their soul would distance themselves from this leniency altogether. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:10) </ref> | ||
# It’s absolutely forbidden to say that the Rabbi’s Drashas (Divrei Torah) aren’t | # It’s absolutely forbidden to say that the Rabbi’s Drashas (Divrei Torah) aren’t substantive or that there’s no point in listening because this is certainly Lashon Hara even if it’s true. If he is someone who is concerned with his soul he would give advice to the Rabbi privately and fulfill viahavta LeReacha Kamocha. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:12) </ref> | ||
# If a person revealed information | # If a person revealed information relating to his business before 3 people, one who heard it may repeat it to others as long as he didn’t express that he doesn’t want this information repeated and the other conditions of Apei Telata are followed. <Ref>Chafetz Chaim (Lashon Hara 2:13) </ref> | ||
==In front of one's fellow== | ==In front of one's fellow== | ||
