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#It is forbidden to call your parents by their name.<ref>Mar Bar Rav Ashi wouldn't call his father by his name and instead would say my father my master. Rambam (Hilchot Mamrim 6:3) rules that it is forbidden to call one's father by his personal name. Shulchan Aruch | #It is forbidden to call your parents by their name.<ref>Mar Bar Rav Ashi wouldn't call his father by his name and instead would say my father my master. Rambam (Hilchot Mamrim 6:3) rules that it is forbidden to call one's father by his personal name. Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:2 codifies this as halacha.</ref> This applies when they're alive as well as after they pass away.<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:2</ref> It is forbidden even not in their presence.<ref>Yalkut Yosef (YD 240, Morah Av Vem 5:59)</ref> | ||
#One may not call one's friends by the name of one's father but rather should call them by a nickname. If one's parent's name is common one may call one's friend by that name not in front of one's parent.<ref>Rambam Mamrim 6:3, Shulchan Aruch | # It is permitted to call one's parents by their name if one introduces it with an honorific title like "My father my master". When one speaks to one's parent directly one should call them "father" and "mother" or the like.<ref>Yalkut Yosef (YD 240, Morah Av Vem 5:59)</ref> | ||
# If someone is being called up to the Torah and the Gabbay asks for his father's name he should say your name then "בן רבי" (English "ben rebbe"; trans. the son of my teacher) and then your father's name. This is permitted since one introduced one's father with an honorific. Unfortunately this isn't a well known halacha and as such the Gabbay should prompt the one getting the Aliyah to give him his name and say Rebbe before his father's name.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva YD 240:2, Kibud Av V'em Vmoram (R' Efraim Oved, 6:7 p. 41). R' Oved explains that the Eretz Tzvi 97 allows introducing one's father's name with "my father" based on the Gra and Pri Chadash. However, the Ben Ish Chai Shoftim n. 4 implies that it is forbidden.</ref> | |||
#One may not call one's friends by the name of one's father but rather should call them by a nickname. If one's parent's name is common one may call one's friend by that name not in front of one's parent.<ref>Rambam Mamrim 6:3, Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 240:2</ref> | |||
#If one's parent foregoes this honor, one may address them by their name, yet there is still a mitzvah not to call them by their name. If one uses a term of honor such as Mom or Dad one may call them by their name.<ref>Igrot Moshe YD 1:133</ref> | #If one's parent foregoes this honor, one may address them by their name, yet there is still a mitzvah not to call them by their name. If one uses a term of honor such as Mom or Dad one may call them by their name.<ref>Igrot Moshe YD 1:133</ref> | ||
