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==General guidelines to the Mitzvah== | ==General guidelines to the Mitzvah== | ||
# When fulfilling this mitzvah, one should realize that one is doing so in order to fulfill a mitzvah and not simply because it is logical and moral. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:2-3</ref> | # When fulfilling this mitzvah, one should realize that one is doing so in order to fulfill a mitzvah and not simply because it is logical and moral. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:2-3. see the machloket in the poskim quoted in Yalkut Yosef Kibbud Av Va'em pg. 100</ref> | ||
# There is no [[Birchot HaMitzvah|bracha]] for the mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Em. Some explain that the reason is because the actions done by a Jew to fulfill the mitzvah are the same ones a non-Jew would do to honor his parents as a moral obligation. Since the primary difference between a Jew and non-Jew who take such actions is the intent, for such an action one may not say "Asher Kideshanu" - we were commanded in this specific action. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:4, Yalkut Yosef Kibbud Av Va'em pg. 75</ref> | # There is no [[Birchot HaMitzvah|bracha]] for the mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Em. Some explain that the reason is because the actions done by a Jew to fulfill the mitzvah are the same ones a non-Jew would do to honor his parents as a moral obligation. Since the primary difference between a Jew and non-Jew who take such actions is the intent, for such an action one may not say "Asher Kideshanu" - we were commanded in this specific action. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:4, Yalkut Yosef Kibbud Av Va'em pg. 75</ref> | ||
# In principle, the mitzvah of honoring and having awe applies equally to one's father as it does to one's mother.<ref> Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Kibbud Va'em Pg. 66 </ref> However, if one's parents are married, honoring one's father takes precedence since one's mother also has to honor one's father.<ref>Gemara [[Kiddushin]] 31a, Tur 240, S"A YD 240:14, Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:7</ref> | # In principle, the mitzvah of honoring and having awe applies equally to one's father as it does to one's mother.<ref> Yalkut Yosef Hilchot Kibbud Va'em Pg. 66 </ref> However, if one's parents are married, honoring one's father takes precedence since one's mother also has to honor one's father.<ref>Gemara [[Kiddushin]] 31a, Tur 240, S"A YD 240:14, Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:7</ref> | ||
# If one's parents ask him to violate some from the Torah or even something that is only rabbanically forbidden, one should not listen to them.<ref>Gemara Bava Metsia 32a, Yevamot 5b, Rambam (Mamrim 6:12). S"A YD 240:15 </ref> | # If one's parents ask him to violate some from the Torah or even something that is only rabbanically forbidden, one should not listen to them.<ref>Gemara Bava Metsia 32a, Yevamot 5b, Rambam (Mamrim 6:12). S"A YD 240:15 </ref> | ||
# In principle, a man and woman are equally obligated in honoring or being in awe of one's parents. If a woman is married, however, she is exempt from honoring her parents. Yet, if her husband isn't meticulous, she is obligated to honor her parents as much as possible. <ref>[[Kiddushin]] 30b, S"A YD 240:16, Shach YD 240:19, Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:38</ref> | # In principle, a man and woman are equally obligated in honoring or being in awe of one's parents. If a woman is married, however, she is exempt from honoring her parents. Yet, if her husband isn't meticulous, she is obligated to honor her parents as much as possible. <ref>[[Kiddushin]] 30b, S"A YD 240:16, Shach YD 240:19, Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:38</ref> | ||
# The mitzvah of kibbud av va'em is fundamentally a mitzvah bein adam lachavero. Therefore, even one who repents on Yom Kippur and confesses this sin before Hashem, must ask them for forgiveness. <ref> Yalkut Yosef Kibbud Av Va'em pg. 100 </ref> | |||
==Honoring one's parents== | ==Honoring one's parents== | ||
