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Honoring (Kibud Av V'Em) and being in awe (Moreh Av V'Em) of one's parents are positive mitzvot. <ref>The Rambam counts both Kibud Av VeEm (Aseh #210) and Moreh Av VeEm (Aseh #211) as positive mitzvot. The Sefer HaChinuch (Mitzvah #33 and #212) agrees. Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:1 codifies this as halacha.</ref> One should be very careful in honoring one's parents as the Torah compares honoring one's parents to honoring Hashem.<ref>Gemara Kiddushin 30b and Bava Metsia 32a. This gemara is quoted by the Kitzur S"A 143:1 and Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:1. See, however, Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai's opinion in the Yerushalmi (Kiddushin 1:7) who considers Kibbud Av greater than honoring Hashem! The Yerushalmi is referenced by the Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:1. </ref> | Honoring (Kibud Av V'Em) and being in awe (Moreh Av V'Em) of one's parents are positive mitzvot. <ref>The Rambam counts both Kibud Av VeEm (Aseh #210) and Moreh Av VeEm (Aseh #211) as positive mitzvot. The Sefer HaChinuch (Mitzvah #33 and #212) agrees. Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:1 codifies this as halacha.</ref> One should be very careful in [[honoring one's parents]] as the Torah compares [[honoring one's parents]] to honoring Hashem.<ref>Gemara Kiddushin 30b and Bava Metsia 32a. This gemara is quoted by the Kitzur S"A 143:1 and Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:1. See, however, Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai's opinion in the Yerushalmi (Kiddushin 1:7) who considers Kibbud Av greater than honoring Hashem! The Yerushalmi is referenced by the Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:1. </ref> | ||
==General guidelines to the Mitzvah== | ==General guidelines to the Mitzvah== | ||
# When fulfilling this mitzvah, one should realize that one is doing so in order to fulfill a mitzvah and not simply because it is logical and moral. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:2-3</ref> | # When fulfilling this mitzvah, one should realize that one is doing so in order to fulfill a mitzvah and not simply because it is logical and moral. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:2-3</ref> | ||
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# In principle, a man and woman are equally obligated in honoring or being in awe of one's parents. If a woman is married, however, she is exempt from honoring her parents. Yet, if her husband isn't meticulous, she is obligated to honor her parents as much as possible. <ref>Kiddushin 30b, S"A YD 240:16, Shach YD 240:19, Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:38</ref> | # In principle, a man and woman are equally obligated in honoring or being in awe of one's parents. If a woman is married, however, she is exempt from honoring her parents. Yet, if her husband isn't meticulous, she is obligated to honor her parents as much as possible. <ref>Kiddushin 30b, S"A YD 240:16, Shach YD 240:19, Aruch HaShulchan YD 240:38</ref> | ||
==Honoring one's parents== | ==Honoring one's parents== | ||
# Included in honoring one's parents is feeding, dressing, and helping them walk. When one is doing such an activity, one should do it with a smile. <ref>Kitzur S"A 143:3</ref> | # Included in [[honoring one's parents]] is feeding, dressing, and helping them walk. When one is doing such an activity, one should do it with a smile. <ref>Kitzur S"A 143:3</ref> | ||
# One must stand before one's mother and father<ref>Kitzur S"A 143:7</ref> unless they forgo this honor.<ref>Rav Mordechai Eliyahu's comment on Kitzur S"A 143:7</ref> | # One must stand before one's mother and father<ref>Kitzur S"A 143:7</ref> unless they forgo this honor.<ref>Rav Mordechai Eliyahu's comment on Kitzur S"A 143:7</ref> | ||
# If one sees one's parent do a sin, one shouldn't say "you sinned" but rather "father, doesn't it say in Torah such and such?" in a question form and the parent will understand and not be embarrassed. <ref>Kitzur S"A 143:10</ref> | # If one sees one's parent do a sin, one shouldn't say "you sinned" but rather "father, doesn't it say in Torah such and such?" in a question form and the parent will understand and not be embarrassed. <ref>Kitzur S"A 143:10</ref> | ||
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