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#A husband may - and should - praise and complement his wife on her dress, cooking, skills or the like during this period, because this is not considered intimate speech.<ref>Responsa Be'er Moshe (Vol. 3, No. 155). See The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 39 with footnote 65) who exemplifies statements included in this category: "The food tastes great" or "This dress looks very nice on you". </ref> The same applies to speech normally used to cultivate a pleasant atmosphere in the home.<ref>Nitei Gavriel (Niddah 33:4) quoting Chazon Ish </ref> | #A husband may - and should - praise and complement his wife on her dress, cooking, skills or the like during this period, because this is not considered intimate speech.<ref>Responsa Be'er Moshe (Vol. 3, No. 155). See The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 39 with footnote 65) who exemplifies statements included in this category: "The food tastes great" or "This dress looks very nice on you". </ref> The same applies to speech normally used to cultivate a pleasant atmosphere in the home.<ref>Nitei Gavriel (Niddah 33:4) quoting Chazon Ish </ref> | ||
# | #Presenting a gift to the other another during this time is permitted, provided this gesture not lead them to act intimate or touch.<ref>Tahrat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 109), The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 38)</ref> | ||
#Reading a book together is permitted, provided that they are cautious not to touch one another.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 108)</ref> | #Reading a book together is permitted, provided that they are cautious not to touch one another.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 108)</ref> | ||
#There is a dispute between the authorities in regards to a couple playing board games together during this period. Leniency understandably is provided that they do not come to lighthearted or physical behavior.<ref>Mishmeret Hatahara (vol. 2, pg. 264) quoting Rabbi Elyashiv as forbidding. Chut Shani (Niddah p. 223) however, argues and permits this. See also Responsa Be'er Moshe (vol. 3, no. 123) who writes that the custom is to permit this. He does however recommend various precautions couples should implement during | #There is a dispute between the authorities in regards to a couple playing board games together during this period. Leniency understandably is provided that they do not come to lighthearted or physical behavior.<ref>Mishmeret Hatahara (vol. 2, pg. 264) quoting Rabbi Elyashiv as forbidding. Chut Shani (Niddah p. 223) however, argues and permits this. See also Responsa Be'er Moshe (vol. 3, no. 123) who writes that the custom is to permit this. He does however recommend various precautions couples should implement during recreational play.</ref> | ||
==Seclusion== | ==Seclusion== | ||
# | #The laws of [[yichud]] prohibit seclusion of a man and a woman who forbidden to each other in order to obviate the two from behaving with adulterous act, which is prohibited to them.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:4 </ref> | ||
#If a bride is a niddah at her wedding, the bride and groom may not be alone together. The couple must have a constant chaperone.<ref>Torat HaTaharah p. 97</ref> Due to the sensitive nature of such situations and the severity of any misconduct, a competent Rabbi should be consulted for instruction. | #If a bride is a niddah at her wedding, the bride and groom may not be alone together. The couple must have a constant chaperone.<ref>Torat HaTaharah p. 97</ref> Due to the sensitive nature of such situations and the severity of any misconduct, a competent Rabbi should be consulted for instruction. | ||
