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#There is a dispute if a husband can listen to my wife sing when she is a niddah. The same dispute is relevant to singing zemiros Shabbos together.<ref>[https://ph.yhb.org.il/category/טהרת-המשפחה/18-03/ Peninei Halacha (Niddah 3:3)] writes that listening to her sing normally or sing zemiros is permitted, though some are strict.</ref> | |||
#According to those who allow listening to one's wife sing when she's a niddah, it is likewise permitted to hear her play a musical instrument.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:40</ref> However, those who are strict on listening to her sing would also be strict on listening to her play an instrument if it could lead to endearment.<ref>Shiurei Shevet Halevi 195:6:2</ref> | #According to those who allow listening to one's wife sing when she's a niddah, it is likewise permitted to hear her play a musical instrument.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:40</ref> However, those who are strict on listening to her sing would also be strict on listening to her play an instrument if it could lead to endearment.<ref>Shiurei Shevet Halevi 195:6:2</ref> | ||
See also [[Listening_to_Women_Sing#Married_Women|Listening to Women Sing: Married Women]]. | |||
==Smelling her Perfume== | ==Smelling her Perfume== | ||
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# A husband may not pour his wife wine or pass her the kiddush cup. If someone else besides the husband and wife drink from the kiddush cup there is no issue with the husband and wife both drinking from the kiddush cup. It doesn't matter whether that person drinks between or after them.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 2 pp. 191-2</ref> | # A husband may not pour his wife wine or pass her the kiddush cup. If someone else besides the husband and wife drink from the kiddush cup there is no issue with the husband and wife both drinking from the kiddush cup. It doesn't matter whether that person drinks between or after them.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 2 pp. 191-2</ref> | ||
#Some say that sending a drink to your wife only applies to wine,<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:13, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 191</ref> others extend it to other important drinks.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:163</ref> | #Some say that sending a drink to your wife only applies to wine,<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:13, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 191</ref> others extend it to other important drinks.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:163</ref> | ||
==Summary of Harchakot== | |||
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! Activity !! Wife to/for Husband !! Husband to/for Wife !! Not in Spouse's Presence | |||
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| Eating Spouse's Leftovers || style="background-color:#9aff99;" | Permitted<ref>Rama 195:4, Taz 195:5</ref> || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden || style="background-color:#9aff99;" | Permitted<ref>Rama 195:4</ref> | |||
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| Sitting on the Spouse's Bed || style="background-color:#9aff99;" | Permitted<ref>Taz 195:6</ref> || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:5</ref> | |||
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| Lying on the Spouse's Bed || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Taz 195:6</ref> || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:5</ref> | |||
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| Looking at Spouse's Usually Covered Body Parts || style="background-color:#9aff99;" | Permitted || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:7</ref> || N/A | |||
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| Pouring Drinks (and Serving Food) for Spouse || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:13, Badei Hashulchan 195:159, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 188</ref> || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden || style="background-color:#9aff99;" | Permitted<ref>Rama 195:10, Shach 195:14. Shach rejects Bach who is strict.</ref> | |||
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| Making Spouse's Bed || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:57</ref> || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden || style="background-color:#9aff99;" | Permitted<ref>Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 195:11</ref> | |||
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| Pouring Water upon Spouse || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:61</ref> || style="background-color:#ffccc9;" | Forbidden || style="background-color:#ffffc7;" | Dispute<ref>Shach 195:14 holds that it is forbidden to prepare water for one's spouse's bath, while Taz 195:8 is lenient.</ref> | |||
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==A Niddah Going to Shul and Cemeteries== | ==A Niddah Going to Shul and Cemeteries== | ||
