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==Using the Spouse's Bed== | ==Using the Spouse's Bed== | ||
#It is prohibited for the husband to lie or sit upon a bed that was designated | #It is prohibited for the husband to lie or sit upon a bed that was designated for his wife, even while not in her presence.<ref>Baalei Hanefesh Shaar Haperisha p. 25) based on Rav Hai Goan, Rashba (Torat Habayit 3b). See Bach (Yoreh Deah 195:5) who is for the opinion that this restriction only prohibits the husbands lying on the bed, while sitting is permitted. The Tur and Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 195:5) however rule that even sitting upon her bed is prohibited. | ||
Levush (195:5) explains that this was prohibited as to restrain the husband's thoughts.</ref> A wife may however sit on her husband's bed, and lie upon it | Levush (195:5) explains that this was prohibited as to restrain the husband's thoughts.</ref> A wife may however sit on her husband's bed, and lie upon it only if he is absent.<ref>Taz (Yoreh Deah 195:6), Pitchei Teshuva 195:8)</ref> | ||
#This restriction was specifically to the usage of the other's bed, a designated chair or recliner | #This restriction was specifically to the usage of the other's bed, a designated chair or recliner is not included in this prohibition.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135)</ref> | ||
#Although prohibited even not in her presence, if the wife is away from town for a couple of days, the husband | #Although usage of her bed is prohibited even not in her presence, if the wife is away from town for a couple of days, the husband may make use of her bed.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:90), Badei Hashulchan (Yoreh Deah 195:77), Taharat Yosef (3:25)</ref> | ||
#The husband however may sit or stand upon her bed in order to reach something held above, as this is not classified as an act of closeness.<ref>The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 36) from Mishmeret Hataharah (195:59) </ref> | #The husband however may sit or stand upon her bed in order to reach something held above, as this is not classified as an act of closeness.<ref>The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 36) from Mishmeret Hataharah (195:59) </ref> | ||
#The husband additionally may not use linen or pillows designated exclusively for his wife's use.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135), Badei Hashulchan (195:82)</ref> The couple may however, use each-other's body towel, as there is no requirement to set aside separate towels.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol.2, pg. 86)</ref> | #The husband additionally may not use linen or pillows designated exclusively for his wife's use.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135), Badei Hashulchan (195:82)</ref> The couple may however, use each-other's body towel, as there is no requirement to set aside separate towels.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol.2, pg. 86)</ref> | ||
