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==Separating Beds==
==Separating Beds==


#During the menstrual period, the couple may not sleep on the same bed, even if they are clothed, and do not touch.<ref>Shabbat 13a, Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 195:6)</ref>
#During the menstrual period, the couple may not sleep on the same bed, even if they are clothed, and do not touch.<ref>Shabbat 13a, Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 195:6)</ref>
#Moreover their beds must be separated.<ref>Rama YD 195:6, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 149</ref> There is no absolute required Rabbinic measure for the distance between there beds, however, some require the beds to be far enough apart that the bed along with its linen do not touch, while others require that they be an two arm's length away.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:11) quoting that Halachically any amount is sufficient. This is the opinion of Rabbi Ovadia Yosef as well (Taharat Habayit vol. 2 pg. 149). Shiurei Shevet Halevi (195:6:2) writes that the beds should preferably be an arm's breath apart, or at the very least the width of a person. Mishmeret Hatahara (195:87) requires an amount which would prevent them from touching with an outreached arm. Badei Hashulchan (195:109) and Rabbi Mordechai Willig ([http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/877217/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-126-harchakot-sitting-on-same-bench-taking-trip-together-separation-between-beds-singing-what-she-can-wear-in-private/ Niddah Shiur 126 (min. 45)]) rule this way as well.</ref>
#Moreover their beds must be separated.<ref>Rama YD 195:6, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 149</ref> There is no absolute required Rabbinic measure for the distance between there beds, however, some require the beds to be far enough apart that the bed along with its linen do not touch, while others require that they be an two arm's length away.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:11) quoting that Halachically any amount is sufficient. This is the opinion of Rabbi Ovadia Yosef as well (Taharat Habayit vol. 2 pg. 149). Shiurei Shevet Halevi (195:6:2) writes that the beds should preferably be an arm's breath apart, or at the very least the width of a person. Mishmeret Hatahara (195:87) requires an amount which would prevent them from touching with an outreached arm. Badei Hashulchan (195:109) and Rabbi Mordechai Willig ([http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/877217/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-126-harchakot-sitting-on-same-bench-taking-trip-together-separation-between-beds-singing-what-she-can-wear-in-private/ Niddah Shiur 126 (min. 45)]) rule this way as well.</ref>
#According to many poskim it is permissible for the beds to be separated even if they are attached by a headboard, however, some hold that it isn't reccomended and some hold it is forbidden unless the headboard is just next to the beds but not attached.<ref>Mishmeret Hatahara 195:87 writes that it is permissible for the beds to be attached with a headboard. Shiurei Shevet Halevi 195:6:2 writes that it isn't recommended unless they are actually detached from the headboard. Badei Hashulchan 195:107 writes that if the headboard is attached to the beds it is forbidden.</ref>
#This prohibition of their beds touching only applies for when the couple is using them, it does not apply if only one of them is in bed.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2 p. 155) </ref>
#The beds can be touching if both of them are not in bed.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 155, Taharat Yosef 3:33</ref>
#Some authorities permit beds which come apart while still attached to a single headboard or foot-board.<ref>Mishmeret Hatahara (195:87) permits this. Shiurei Shevet Halevi (195:6:2) however, does not recommend this. Badei Hashulchan (195:107) sees such beds as attached and prohibits this. </ref>
#They must use separate blankets.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 154, Taharat Yosef 3:5</ref>
#There is a dispute in regards to separate beds situated beneath a suspended canopy.<ref>Maharam Elshakar (no. 91) rules that a couple sleeping beneath a canopy would be permitted. Shach (195:11) cites this ruling. Taharat Habayit (vol. 2 pg. 154) rules this way as well. See however Badei Hashulchan (195:108) who argues that Maharam Elshakar was referring only to canopies not attached to beds. </ref>
#Some poskim hold that it is permitted for them to sleep in separated beds under one canopy<ref>Maharam Elshakar 91 writes it is permitted for a couple to sleep under one canopy even when she's a niddah based on Eruvin 63b. Shach 195:11 quotes this. Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 154 accepts the Maharam Elshakar and says that it would apply to a canopy that was attached to the beds as long as the beds were separated.</ref>, while others hold that it is forbidden.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:108 explains that the Maharam Elshakar was only talking about a canopy that wasn't attached to the beds but if it was attached it is forbidden.</ref>
#It is permissible for him to touch his wife's bed unless she's in it, in which case one should refrain from touching it unless there's a need.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:78</ref>


==Sitting Together==
==Sitting Together==
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