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#This restriction was specifically to the usage of the other's bed, a designated chair or recliner was not prohibited.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135)</ref> | #This restriction was specifically to the usage of the other's bed, a designated chair or recliner was not prohibited.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135)</ref> | ||
#Although prohibited even not in her presence, if the wife is away from town for a couple of days, the husband is not restricted in using his wife's bed.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:90), Badei Hashulchan (Yoreh Deah 195:77), Taharat Yosef (3:25)</ref> | #Although prohibited even not in her presence, if the wife is away from town for a couple of days, the husband is not restricted in using his wife's bed.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:90), Badei Hashulchan (Yoreh Deah 195:77), Taharat Yosef (3:25)</ref> | ||
#The husband may not additionally use | #The husband however may sit or stand upon her bed in order to reach something held above, as this is not classified as an act of closeness.<ref>The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 36) from Mishmeret Hataharah (195:59) </ref> | ||
#The husband additionally may not use linen or pillows designated exclusively for his wife's use.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135), Badei Hashulchan (195:82)</ref> The couple may however, use each-other's body towel, as there is no requirement to set aside separate towels.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol.2, pg. 86)</ref> | |||
#The couple may not switch beds during this period.<ref>Badei Hashulchan (195:81)</ref> | #The couple may not switch beds during this period.<ref>Badei Hashulchan (195:81)</ref> | ||
==Separating Beds== | ==Separating Beds== | ||
# | #During the menstrual period, the couple may not sleep on the same bed, even if they are clothed, and do not touch.<ref>Shabbat 13a, Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 195:6)</ref> | ||
#Moreover their beds must be separated.<ref>Rama YD 195:6, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 149</ref> There is no absolute required Rabbinic measure for the distance between there beds, however, some require the beds to be far enough apart that the bed along with its linen do not touch, while others require that they be an two arm's length away.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:11) quoting that Halachically any amount is sufficient. This is the opinion of Rabbi Ovadia Yosef as well (Taharat Habayit vol. 2 pg. 149). Shiurei Shevet Halevi (195:6:2) writes that the beds should preferably be an arm's breath apart, or at the very least the width of a person. Mishmeret Hatahara (195:87) requires an amount which would prevent them from touching with an outreached arm. Badei Hashulchan (195:109) and Rabbi Mordechai Willig ([http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/877217/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-126-harchakot-sitting-on-same-bench-taking-trip-together-separation-between-beds-singing-what-she-can-wear-in-private/ Niddah Shiur 126 (min. 45)]) rule this way as well.</ref> | |||
#According to many poskim it is permissible for the beds to be separated even if they are attached by a headboard, however, some hold that it isn't reccomended and some hold it is forbidden unless the headboard is just next to the beds but not attached.<ref>Mishmeret Hatahara 195:87 writes that it is permissible for the beds to be attached with a headboard. Shiurei Shevet Halevi 195:6:2 writes that it isn't recommended unless they are actually detached from the headboard. Badei Hashulchan 195:107 writes that if the headboard is attached to the beds it is forbidden.</ref> | #According to many poskim it is permissible for the beds to be separated even if they are attached by a headboard, however, some hold that it isn't reccomended and some hold it is forbidden unless the headboard is just next to the beds but not attached.<ref>Mishmeret Hatahara 195:87 writes that it is permissible for the beds to be attached with a headboard. Shiurei Shevet Halevi 195:6:2 writes that it isn't recommended unless they are actually detached from the headboard. Badei Hashulchan 195:107 writes that if the headboard is attached to the beds it is forbidden.</ref> | ||
#The beds can be touching if both of them are not in bed.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 155, Taharat Yosef 3:33</ref> | #The beds can be touching if both of them are not in bed.<ref>Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 155, Taharat Yosef 3:33</ref> | ||
