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| #A man is permitted to dry his face and hands with his wife's towel when she is a niddah. He also may use her toothbrush. There is no need to set aside a toothbrush or towel for her exclusive use when she is a niddah.<ref>Torat HaTaharah p. 98, Taharat Yosef 3:6. | | #If need be, the couple may use each-other's body towel, as there is no requirement to set aside separate towels.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol.2, pg. 86)</ref> |
| However, Rav Chaim Palagi (Kaf Hachaim 4:8) writes that it is forbidden for a niddah and her husband to use the same hand towel. Mishmeret Hatahara 195:14 argues that it is permitted.</ref>
| | #The couple may share an umbrella, provided it is large enough to accommodate them both with no touch.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 108)</ref> |
| #The couple may stand an umbrella together, as long as the umbrella is big enough to allow them both to be under it without touching.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:11 </ref> | |
| #A couple may read from the same book as long as they are careful not to touch each other.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:14</ref>
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| ==Sitting on Her Bed== | | ==Using the Spouse's Bed== |
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| #The husband may not sit<ref>Although the Bach 195:5 argues that it is only forbidden to lie in one's wife's bed when she's a niddah but sitting is permissible, the Tur and Shulchan Aruch 195:5 rule that even sitting is forbidden. Shach 195:10 cites Bach but Taz 195:6 argues. Badei Hashulchan 195:77 is strict for Shulchan Aruch.</ref> on his wife's bed when she is a nidda since it will cause him to have improper thoughts, whether she is present or not, even if the linens have been changed to new ones.<ref>Raavad (Baalei Hanefesh [http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=8785&st=&pgnum=23 Shaar Haperisha p. 25]) based on Rav Hai Goan, Rashba ([http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=8922&st=&pgnum=344 Torat Habayit 3b]), Shulchan Aruch YD 195:5. The Levush 195:5 explains that the reason for this prohibition is that he might have improper thoughts about his wife when sitting on her bed.</ref> | | #It is prohibited for the husband to lie or sit upon a bed that was designated to his wife, even when not in her presence.<ref>Baalei Hanefesh Shaar Haperisha p. 25) based on Rav Hai Goan, Rashba (Torat Habayit 3b). See Bach (Yoreh Deah 195:5) who is for the opinion that this restriction only prohibits the husbands lying on the bed, while sitting is permitted. The Tur and Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 195:5) however rule that even sitting upon her bed is prohibited. |
| #The wife may lie on her husband's bed as long as he isn't there, and may sit on his bed even if he is there.<ref>Taz 195:6, Badei Hashulchan 195:79, Taharat Yosef 3:24</ref>
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| #A couch which isn't exclusively used by her, the husband may lie on it even in front of his wife.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:80, Taharat Yosef 3:22 </ref> The husband can sit in a chair, even if it is special for her even if it is a reclining chair in which she takes naps.<ref>Beer Moshe 5:144, Taharat Habayit v. 2 p. 135, Taharat Yosef 3:28</ref> | | Levush (195:5) explains that this was prohibited as to restrain the husband's thoughts.</ref> A wife may however sit on her husband's bed, and lie upon it when he is absent, but she may not lie upon his bed in his presence.<ref>Taz (Yoreh Deah 195:6), Pitchei Teshuva 195:8)</ref> |
| #If his wife is out of town for a few days when she is a nidda the husband may lie in her bed.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva 195:9, Badei Hashulchan 195:77, Taharat Yosef 3:25</ref> | | #This restriction was specifically to the usage of the other's bed, a designated chair or recliner was not prohibited.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135)</ref> |
| #When the wife is a nidda, the husband shouldn't use pillows or blankets that are used exclusively by her.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:82, Taharat Yosef 3:23</ref> If they regularly switch sheets after they are washed and they aren't exclusive to the man or woman, it is permissible to put her sheets on his bed when she is a niddah.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:82</ref> | | #Although prohibited even not in her presence, if the wife is away from town for a couple of days, the husband is not restricted in using his wife's bed.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (Yoreh Deah 195:90), Badei Hashulchan (Yoreh Deah 195:77), Taharat Yosef (3:25)</ref> |
| #It is forbidden for a man and wife to switch beds when she is a niddah. However, they can switch when she is tahor and as long as he slept in his new bed once before she became a niddah he can continue to sleep there even when she's a niddah.<ref>Badei Hashulchan 195:81</ref> | | #The husband may not additionally use the linen or pillows if they are designated exclusively for his wife's use.<ref>Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 135), Badei Hashulchan (195:82)</ref> |
| | #The couple may not switch beds during this period.<ref>Badei Hashulchan (195:81)</ref> |
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| ==Separate Beds== | | ==Separate Beds== |
