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==Practices for the Week Before== | ==Practices for the Week Before== | ||
# There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.<ref>There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim. Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married. Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding.There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag. Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information. </ref> | # There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.<ref>Nitei Gavriel(Shidduch and Tenaim pg. 448. | ||
* This minhag is also mentioned by Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky (Emes Liyaakov EH 65), Orchot Rabbenu part 4: pg. 248 says two weeks | |||
* There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim. | |||
* Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married. | |||
* Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding. There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag. | |||
* Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information. </ref> | |||
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