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* The Bnei Yissaschar (on Adar 9:1) cites a Maharam Chagiz who quotes the Gemara Megilla 12a. The Gemora explains that the Jewish people only did things “Lifnim” – hidden – So Hashem as well only did things “Lifnim” – hidden. | * The Bnei Yissaschar (on Adar 9:1) cites a Maharam Chagiz who quotes the Gemara Megilla 12a. The Gemora explains that the Jewish people only did things “Lifnim” – hidden – So Hashem as well only did things “Lifnim” – hidden. | ||
* Eliya Rabba 696 says that since Mordechai was dressed up in the royal clothing, we dress up to commemorate that. | * Eliya Rabba 696 says that since Mordechai was dressed up in the royal clothing, we dress up to commemorate that. | ||
* Torat Hamoadim pg. 267 quotes Rav Meir Mazuz that this custom almost certainly developed with non-Jewish origins and therefore tries to stop it | * Torat Hamoadim pg. 267 quotes Rav Meir Mazuz (Sansan Liyair 12) that this custom almost certainly developed with non-Jewish origins and therefore tries to stop it | ||
* see [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/732687/Rabbi_Eliakim_Koenigsberg/Sichos_Mussar-_The_Connection_Between_Costumes_and_Drinking_on_Purim# The Connection Between Costumes and Drinking on Purim] by Rabbi Eliakim Koenigsberg for an additional explanation | * see [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/732687/Rabbi_Eliakim_Koenigsberg/Sichos_Mussar-_The_Connection_Between_Costumes_and_Drinking_on_Purim# The Connection Between Costumes and Drinking on Purim] by Rabbi Eliakim Koenigsberg for an additional explanation | ||
* see [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/742340/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Purim_Costumes 10 minute halacha on Purim Costumes] by Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz for additional reasons | * see [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/742340/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Purim_Costumes 10 minute halacha on Purim Costumes] by Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz for additional reasons | ||
* see also [http://ohr.edu/4676 Costume Costum] by Rabbi Richards Jacobs | * see also [http://ohr.edu/4676 Costume Costum] by Rabbi Richards Jacobs | ||
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# Many poskim are against | # Many poskim are against cross-dressing on [[Purim]] as a costume <ref> | ||
*As a general rule, dressing up in clothing exclusive to the opposite gender is definitely a problem. The Torah expressly forbids such behavior: "A man's attire shall not be on a woman, nor may a man wear a woman's garment." Deuteronomy 22:5 | *As a general rule, dressing up in clothing exclusive to the opposite gender is definitely a problem. The Torah expressly forbids such behavior: "A man's attire shall not be on a woman, nor may a man wear a woman's garment." Deuteronomy 22:5 | ||
*Mahari Mintz [[Teshuva]] 15 writes that he saw many people dress as members of the opposite gender on [[Purim]] in the presence of leading Hachamim, and the Hachamim did not object. He justifies this custom that since one is only dressing up for the [[Purim]] celebration and not to promote and promiscuity it could be permissible. The Mahari Mintz compares this practice to the custom he observed of allowing children to grab candies from each other on [[Purim]]. Even though Halacha clearly forbids taking other people’s possessions even in jest, and considers this outright theft, in the context of the [[Purim]] celebration it is deemed permissible. | |||
*Mahari Mintz [[Teshuva]] 15 | * Rama 696:8 writes based on the Mahari Mintz that some are lenient with this and the minhag is to be lenient. The reason is that the issur of cross dressing is because it promotes "Znus" but since on [[Purim]] it is done just for "simcha be'alma" fun the issur does not apply | ||
*Rama | * Rama additionally records a custom to allow wearing on [[Purim]] clothes that contain Shaatnez on the level of Rabbinic enactment; these enactments were waived for the purpose of the special joy of [[Purim]]. | ||
*Rambam and Rabbi Eliezer of Metz (Sefer Yeraim 98): dressing as a member of the opposite gender is forbidden under all circumstances | * Taz YD 182:4 writes that his father-in-law, the Bach, disagreed with the Rama and brought proof from the Yereim that one shouldn't do so for a wedding, and concludes that anyone who refrains will merit blessing | ||
*Rambam and Rabbi Eliezer of Metz (Sefer Yeraim 98) quoted in Sh"t Yechave Daat 5:50: dressing as a member of the opposite gender is forbidden under all circumstances, even for [[Purim]] or for the joy of bride and groom. | |||
* Rav Chaim Kanievsky says in the name of the Chazon Ish that cross dressing on [[Purim]] is inappropriate even for children. Bayit Hayehudi Volume 4 page 285 agrees. | * Rav Chaim Kanievsky says in the name of the Chazon Ish that cross dressing on [[Purim]] is inappropriate even for children. Bayit Hayehudi Volume 4 page 285 agrees. | ||
* [http://matzav.com/rav-dovid-feinstein-purim-halacha-tidbits Rav Dovid Feinstein] ruled that wearing a women's wig would constitute a simlas isha and would be prohibited. | * Pri Megadim OC Mishbetzot Zahav 696:5 writes that if one is only wearing one women's garment but still clearly looks like a man, he may be lenient. This is quoted by Mishna Brura 696:30. Nevertheless, [http://matzav.com/rav-dovid-feinstein-purim-halacha-tidbits Rav Dovid Feinstein] ruled that wearing a women's wig would constitute a simlas isha and would be prohibited. | ||
* Chacham Ovadyah Yosef (Chazon Ovadyah [[Purim]] pg 199, Yalkut Yosef pocket-size Moadim pg 494, Sh"t Yabia Omer YD 5:14 and Yechave Daat 5:50) forbids any [[costumes]] that involve cross-dressing on [[Purim]]. see also [http://www.halachayomit.co.il/EnglishDisplayRead.asp?readID=1910 Halacha Yomit]. Rav Menashe Klein (Sh"t Mishneh Halachot 11:563) | * Chacham Ovadyah Yosef (Chazon Ovadyah [[Purim]] pg 199, Yalkut Yosef pocket-size Moadim pg 494, Sh"t Yabia Omer YD 5:14 and Yechave Daat 5:50) forbids any [[costumes]] that involve cross-dressing on [[Purim]], even for children. see also [http://www.halachayomit.co.il/EnglishDisplayRead.asp?readID=1910 Halacha Yomit]. Rav Menashe Klein (Sh"t Mishneh Halachot 11:563) and [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=513 Rabbi Eli Mansour] agree | ||
* Aruch Hashulchan 696:12 writes that although the Rama justifies the custom, this custom doesn't exist anymore | |||
* see [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/742217/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Crossdressing_on_Purim 10 minute halacha on Crossdressing on Purim] by Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz </ref> | |||
# There is a custom to wear [[Yom Tov]] clothing on [[Purim]] starting the night of [[Purim]]. <ref>Torat HaMoadim ([[Purim]] 8:1), Ben Ish Chai Parashat Titzaveh Halacha 22, Mishna Brura 695:3 </ref> | # There is a custom to wear [[Yom Tov]] clothing on [[Purim]] starting the night of [[Purim]]. <ref>Torat HaMoadim ([[Purim]] 8:1), Ben Ish Chai Parashat Titzaveh Halacha 22, Mishna Brura 695:3 </ref> | ||
