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* However, Rav Yitzchak Hutner (Pachad Yitzchak Igrot #33) writes that calling a sick person on the phone basically accomplishes the purpose of [[Bikur Cholim]] to investigate in a fellow Jew's situation and see how one can help, however, calling a mourner one doesn't fulfill the mitzvah properly because [[Nichum Aveilim]] is supposed to create a [[gathering]] of comforters to surround the mourner (see Ketubot 69b) and a phone doesn't accomplish that. See Peni Baruch 11:12 who quotes Sh"t Minchat David 72-3 who says that one shouldn't comfort mourners over the phone.</ref> Similarly, some allow one who cannot visit to fulfill his obligation by sending a letter.<ref> Teshuvot Vihanhagot 2:587</ref> | * However, Rav Yitzchak Hutner (Pachad Yitzchak Igrot #33) writes that calling a sick person on the phone basically accomplishes the purpose of [[Bikur Cholim]] to investigate in a fellow Jew's situation and see how one can help, however, calling a mourner one doesn't fulfill the mitzvah properly because [[Nichum Aveilim]] is supposed to create a [[gathering]] of comforters to surround the mourner (see Ketubot 69b) and a phone doesn't accomplish that. See Peni Baruch 11:12 who quotes Sh"t Minchat David 72-3 who says that one shouldn't comfort mourners over the phone.</ref> Similarly, some allow one who cannot visit to fulfill his obligation by sending a letter.<ref> Teshuvot Vihanhagot 2:587</ref> | ||
==Who Should Comfort the Mourner== | ==Who Should Comfort the Mourner== | ||
# An enemy of the mourner shouldn't comfort the mourner so that people don’t think that he’s happy because of his downfall, however, he may be involved in escorting the funeral procession. <Ref>Kitzur | # An enemy of the mourner shouldn't comfort the mourner so that people don’t think that he’s happy because of his downfall, however, he may be involved in escorting the funeral procession. <Ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 193:1 </ref> | ||
# Men and women can be involved in comforting a women. If there are only women mourners men should go to comfort the mourner together with others or after the shiva minyan when many people are there.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:1</ref> | |||
==Sources== | ==Sources== | ||
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[[Category:Between Man And His Fellow]] | [[Category:Between Man And His Fellow]] | ||
