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==Fasting on Your Wedding Day== | ==Fasting on Your Wedding Day== | ||
# Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref> | # Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. <Ref> Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2013/12/fasting-on-ones-wedding-day/ TorahMusings] for potential explanations of this practice, [http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/481616/jewish/Fasting-On-the-Wedding-Day.htm chabad.org] </ref> However, most sephardim don't have this custom. <ref> Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61 </ref> | ||
==Holding Hands== | ==Holding Hands== | ||
# Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref> | # Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. <Ref>Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)</ref> | ||
==Practices for the Week Before== | |||
# There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.<ref>There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim. Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married. Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding.There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag. Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information. </ref> | |||
==Links== | ==Links== | ||
* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky | * [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/768266/Rabbi_Zvi_Sobolofsky/Halachic_Checklist_For_Your_Wedding_Day Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day] by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky | ||
==Sources== | ==Sources== | ||
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Revision as of 18:44, 16 April 2017
Shemira
- A bride and groom shouldn't go outside alone the week after their wedding.[1]
- Some have the practice for a bride and groom the week before their wedding not to go outside alone.[2]
- Some have the practice for a bride and groom the day of their wedding not to go outside alone.[3]
Fasting on Your Wedding Day
- Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. [4] However, most sephardim don't have this custom. [5]
Holding Hands
- Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. [6]
Practices for the Week Before
- There is a minhag that the chosson and kallah shouldn’t see each other for the week before the wedding.[7]
Links
- Halachic Checklist For Your Wedding Day by Rabbi Zvi Sobolofsky
Sources
- ↑ The Gemara (Brachot 54b) states that a bride and groom require a guard from dangerous demons. Rashi (s.v. chatan) explains that the reason that they are at risk is because the demon is jealous of them. The Rama E"H 64:1 codifies this as halacha that a bride and groom shouldn't go outside alone the week after their wedding. The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 149:!2 agrees. The Bikkurei Yacov 669:13 offers another reason for this halacha. He says that a bride and groom are compared to a king and queen. Since a king and queen don't go outside alone, a bride and groom shouldn't go outside alone.
- ↑ Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1, p. 55, 4:5) writes that some chasidim and Ethiopian communities have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone starting from the Shabbat before their wedding.
- ↑ Nitai Gavriel (v. 1, p. 55, 9:13) writes that some chasidim have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone the day of their wedding based on a fear of the dangerous demons mentioned in Brachot 54b.
- ↑ Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 146:1, see TorahMusings for potential explanations of this practice, chabad.org
- ↑ Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61
- ↑ Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)
- ↑ There is no actual source for this minhag in the Gemara or the Rishonim. Shu”t Maharshdam 31 quotes a minhag that chasan and kallah should avoid seeing each other from after the shiduchin, i.e. engagement, until the wedding. The Radak (Bireishis 24:64) writes that it is proper for a woman to be modest in the presence of her betrothed and not be seen by him until they are married. Rav Elyashiv in Mevakshey Torah 25:280, 27:48 says that the chasan and kallah shouldn’t see or speak to each other, even on the phone, during the week before the wedding.There are a couple of reasons that are given for the minhag. Some suggest that it is a harchaka, a way of distancing oneself from violating any prohibitions. See Rabbi Binyamin Forst’s sefer Laws of Niddah pages 458-459 for more information.
