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==What is Forbidden during the Veset?==
==What is Forbidden during the Veset?==
# Most poskim hold that really the only activity that is forbidden during a veset is for the couple to be together. However, one who is stringent to avoid any affectionate touch, hugging and kissing will be blessed.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 184:2 writes that only being together is forbidden. Rama 184:10 agrees. See Chatom Sofer YD 2:170 who provides a rationale for the Shulchan Aruch.</ref> Some poskim hold that hugging and kissing are forbidden.<Ref>Trumat Hadeshen 250. Badei Hashulchan 189:14 writes that the primary halacha is that we follow the Shulchan Aruch, however, someone who is strict will be blessed. </ref>
# Most poskim hold that really the only activity that is forbidden during a veset is for the couple to be together. However, one who is stringent to avoid any affectionate touch, hugging and kissing will be blessed.<ref>Shulchan Aruch YD 184:2 writes that only being together is forbidden. Rama 184:10 agrees. See Chatom Sofer YD 2:170 who provides a rationale for the Shulchan Aruch.</ref> Some poskim hold that hugging and kissing are forbidden.<Ref>Trumat Hadeshen 250. Badei Hashulchan 189:14 writes that the primary halacha is that we follow the Shulchan Aruch, however, someone who is strict will be blessed. </ref>
# It is praiseworthy for the couple not to sleep in the same bed during the veset. <ref>Badei Hashulchan 184:14, Taharat Habayit v. 1, p. 67. Taharat Habayit forbids sleeping together even if they do not engage in tashmish, which is forbidden, as she might see blood while she's sleeping. </ref>
# It is praiseworthy for the couple not to sleep in the same bed during the veset. <ref>Badei Hashulchan 184:14, Taharat Habayit v. 1, p. 67. Taharat Habayit forbids sleeping together even if they do not engage in tashmish, which is forbidden, as she might see blood while she's sleeping. [http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/868467/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-50-bedika-during-veset-sheino-kavuah/ Rav Mordechai Willig (Niddah Shiur 50 at the end)] agrees with this stringency.</ref>
# However, the other [[harchakot]] (not including hugging and kissing mentioned above) which are forbidden when a woman is a niddah are not forbidden during the veset.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 184:2, Badei Hashulchan 184:14</ref>
# However, the other [[harchakot]] (not including hugging and kissing mentioned above) which are forbidden when a woman is a niddah are not forbidden during the veset.<ref>Shulchan Aruch 184:2, Badei Hashulchan 184:14</ref>
# If the veset period falls out on the tevilah night many poskim hold that the veset remains in place and she is forbidden to her husband.<ref>Piskei Teshuva YD 184:22 quoting the Chatom Sofer 170, Chavot Daat 184:13, and Sidrei Tahara 184:14 hold that the veset is forbidden even on the tevilah night. However, the Piskei Teshuva also quotes the Knesset Yechezkel who is lenient. See also Torat Hashlamim 187:29 who is in favor of the lenient side. Rav Ovadia Yosef in Taharat Habayit v. 1 p. 103 rules that for a non-established veset one could be lenient but not for an established veset.</ref>
# If the veset period falls out on the tevilah night many poskim hold that the veset remains in place and she is forbidden to her husband.<ref>Piskei Teshuva YD 184:22 quoting the Chatom Sofer 170, Chavot Daat 184:13, and Sidrei Tahara 184:14 hold that the veset is forbidden even on the tevilah night. However, the Piskei Teshuva also quotes the Knesset Yechezkel who is lenient. See also Torat Hashlamim 187:29 who is in favor of the lenient side. Rav Ovadia Yosef in Taharat Habayit v. 1 p. 103 rules that for a non-established veset one could be lenient but not for an established veset.</ref>