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The Nine Days is time period from the beginning of the month of Av until [[Tisha BeAv]] during which there are a number of practices of [[mourning]] described below. While many of the laws below apply to the entire period of the Nine Days, some of them only apply during the week in which Tishba Tisha BaAv falls out (Shevua SheChal Bo). Additionally, these practices are very similar but generally more stringent than those that observed during the [[Three Weeks]].
==Business==
# From the beginning of the month of Av one should reduce one’s involvement in activities of happiness. <Refref>S”A 551:1</ref># If one has a lawsuit with a non-Jew one should delay it until the [[month of Elul]] or at least until after [[Tisha BeAv]]. <Refref>S”A 551:1, Mishna Brurah 551:2</ref> Similarly, if one must have a surgery and it can be delayed, one should try to delay it until after [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 557)</ref># During the Nine Days, one should refrain from buying materials that are needed for a wedding.<Refref>Mishna Brurah 551:11 </ref> Some authorities are lenient if the groom has not yet fulfilled the mitzvah of Pru Urevu and one will not be able to prepare for the wedding after [[Tisha BeAv]] because the wedding is right after [[Tisha BeAv]] or if there is a concern that the price of the wedding needs will become expensive after [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 558) </ref># The minhag is to be lenient to allow one not to reduce one’s regular business during the [[Nine days]]. <Refref>Mishna Brurah 551:11, Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 559) </ref># One may not build houses or buildings for business purposes during the Nine Days. However, one may hire a non-Jew before the Nine Days with a fixed sum for the entire project and then, he may work during the Nine Days and even on [[Tisha BeAv]]. <Refref>S”A 551:2, Mishna Brurah 511:12 </ref># If a wall is going to fall, even if there isn’t a concern of danger but only a concern of loss, one may restore it during the Nine Days. <Refref>S”A 551:2, Mishna Brurah 551:13 </ref>==Buying and Gifting==# If there is a need, one may buy furniture if it is going to be delivered after the [[nine days]].<ref>Halichot Shlomo (p. 426, 14:22)</ref># One shouldn't buy important items such as furniture or appliances during the [[nine days]] since it brings a person a lot of pleasure.<ref> Guidelines of the [[Three Weeks]] by Rabbi Elozor Barclay (p. 47) citing Igrot Moshe 3:80 and MeBeyt Levi p. 8 n. 4</ref>#Some Ashkenazim have the practice not to give gifts during the nine days unless there is a need<ref>Nitai Gavriel Ben Hametzarim 1:18:4</ref> but for a mitzvah such as for a bar mitzvah boy it is permitted.<ref>Nitai Gavriel Ben Hametzarim 1:18:6</ref>
==Taking Haircuts and Shaving==
# The Sephardic minhag is not to take a haircut during the week in which Tishba BaAv falls out (Shevua SheChal Bo)<Ref>S”A 551:3, Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #1)</ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is not to take a haircut during the entire Nine Days. <Ref>Rama 551:3 </ref>
# [[Shaving]] one’s beard or mustache is forbidden just like it is forbidden to take a haircut. <Ref>S”A 551:12 </ref> If one moustache interferes with one’s eating, one may cut it. <ref>S”A 551:13 </ref>
# It is permitted to comb and style one's hair during the [[Three Weeks]] and Nine Days and one doesn't have to worry that one will pull out hairs. <ref> Eliya Rabba 551:7, Shaare Teshuva 551:12, Mishna Brurah 551:20, Aruch Hashulchan 551:15, Sh"t Yechave Daat 6:35 </ref>
# A married woman or one of marriageable age may shave her legs even during the Nine Days <ref>Kitzur Hilchos Bein HaMetzarim pg. 4:5 in the name of Rav Moshe Feinstein </ref>
# If [[Tisha BeAv]] falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off until Sunday, according to Sephardim, it's proper not to take a hair cut the week prior to [[Shabbat Chazon]]. However, in regards to [[shaving]], if one shaves regularly and it's difficult not to shave, one may shave during the week before [[Shabbat Chazon]], especially if one is doing so for [[Kavod Shabbat]]. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #11), Yechave Daat 3:39</ref>
==Laundering Clothes==# The Sephardic minhag is not to launder clothes or wear newly laundered clothes take a haircut during the week in which Tishba Tisha BaAv falls out (Shevua SheChal Bo)<Refref>S”A 551:3, Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #1)</ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is not to launder clothes take a haircut during the entire the [[Three Weeks]], which includes the Nine Days. <ref>Rama 551:3 </ref>#[[Shaving]] one’s beard or mustache is forbidden just like it is forbidden to take a haircut. <ref>S”A 551:12 </ref> If one moustache interferes with one’s eating, one may cut it. <ref>S”A 551:13 </ref>#It is permitted to comb and style one's hair during the [[Three Weeks]] and Nine Days and one doesn't have to worry that one will pull out hairs. <ref>Eliya Rabba 551:7, Shaare Teshuva 551:12, Mishna Brurah 551:20, Aruch Hashulchan 551:15, Sh"t Yechave Daat 6:35 </ref>#A married woman or wear newly laundered clothes one of marriageable age may shave her legs even during the entire Nine Days<ref>Kitzur Hilchos Bein HaMetzarim pg. 4:5 in the name of Rav Moshe Feinstein </ref>#If [[Tisha BeAv]] falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off until Sunday, according to Sephardim, it's proper not to take a hair cut the week prior to [[Shabbat Chazon]]. However, in regards to [[shaving]], if one shaves regularly and it's difficult not to shave, one may shave during the week before [[Shabbat Chazon]], especially if one is doing so for [[Kavod Shabbat]]. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #11), Yechave Daat 3:39</ref> ==Laundry== #The Sephardic custom is only not to do laundry during the week of [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Shulchan Aruch 551:3 based on gemara in taanit 26b. </ref> Ashkenazic custom is to refrain already from [[Rosh Chodesh]] Av. <Refref>Rama 551:3 . </ref> The same applies with wearing freshly laundered clothing even if they were washed prior to these times. <ref>Shulchan Aruch and Rama 551:3, Yechave Daat 1:39 </ref>#One shouldn't do laundry even if he doesn't plan on wearing the clothes until afterwards, as this distracts him from his [[mourning]]. He also should not give it to a non-Jew to do for him.<ref>Shulchan Aruch and Rama 551:3 and Mishna Brurah 551:34. [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/746977/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Ten_Minute_Halacha_-_Laundry_During_the_Nine_Days Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz] at about 9:45 also says allowing a non-jewish housekeeper to do your laundry is prohibited even though this doesn't really distract you from [[mourning]]. </ref> Some poskim permit giving a non-Jew your clothing to launder if you specify that they do it after Tisha B'av.<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:34 citing the Eliya Rabba who argues with the Rama. The Eliya Rabba compares it to Chol Hamoed where this is permitted (S"A 543:3). Rabbi Eider (Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 8) is strict.</ref># Some say that one may prepare one's clothing for the week in which [[Tisha BeAv]] falls (Shevua SheChal Bo) by changing one's clothing on [[Shabbat Chazon]] so that one has enough clothes to wear during the next week.<ref>Orchot Rabbenu (vol 2, p. 130) quoting the StieplerSteipler, [https://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/904155/rabbi-hershel-schachter/halachah-shiur-ncsy-kollel-relevant-laws-to-the-9-days-/ Rav Hershel Schachter (Relevant Laws to the Nine Days)]</ref># If [[Tisha BeAv]] falls out on [[Shabbat]] and is pushed off until Sunday, according to most Sephardim, one may launder clothing and wear laundered clothing the week prior to [[Shabbat Chazon]]. However, Ashkenazim don't wear laundered clothing the entire Nine Days in any event. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #11), Yechave Daat 3:39</ref>#A wig/sheitel is considered an article of clothing for the purposes of laundry during the [[nine days]] and therefore one should not wash it or have it set professionally during the [[nine days]]. However, one may curl or set the wig at home, provided that they are not professionals. <ref>Piskei Teshuvot 551:20. Nitei Gavriel 21:5:footnote 8 permits fixing or cutting a wig until the [[nine days]]. </ref>#A Jewish laundromat that would have no money otherwise may wash non-Jews' clothing during this time. <ref>Mishna Brurah 551:43 </ref>#Some say that undergarments which are designed to absorb sweat may be worn freshly-laundered. <ref>[http://halachayomit.co.il/EnglishDisplayRead.asp?readID=2087 Rav Ovadia Yosef on halachayomit.co.il] </ref> Others are strict. <ref>[http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=3319 Rabbi Eli Mansour] in the name of the Ben Ish Chai, Chacham Bentzion Abba Shaul (Or Lesion 3, p. 248) and the English Yalkut Yosef (pg. 207)</ref>#One is permitted to shine their shoes for Kavod of [[Shabbat]] even during the week of Tisha B'av. <ref>Iggerot Moshe 3:80, Yabea Omer OC 3:31 </ref> ===Children's Clothing=== #According to Ashkenazim, it is permissible to wash children's clothing even the week of Tisha B'av.<ref>Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:14 is strict about laundering children's clothing during the week of Tisha B'av, but the Rama is lenient. Rabbi Eider (Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 9) follows the Rama. Ben Ish Chai (Devarim n. 6) and Kaf Hachaim 551:179 write that Sephardim who are lenient to launder children's clothing the week of Tisha B'av shouldn't be protested but it should only be for children three years old and younger. Yalkut Yosef (Mdinei Yemey Tisha B'av n. 13) also writes that the minhag is to be lenient with laundering children's clothing the week of Tisha B'av.</ref> This applies to any children that commonly dirty their clothing.<ref>Rabbi Eider (Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 9) quotes Rav Moshe Feinstein as holding that it is permitted to launder children's clothing even if they aren't in diapers but constantly soil their clothing with dirt and the like.</ref>#Even if one is doing children's laundry in a laundry machine one may not add other clothing to the load.<ref>Piskei Teshuvot 551:45 quotes the Shraga Hameir 6:162 who writes that adding more clothing to a load during the Nine Days is forbidden since it distracts one from mourning properly.</ref>#One should wash the children's clothing in private.<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:83</ref> ===Towel and Sheets=== #A fresh towel may be used during the Nine Days if the towel one was using became soiled <ref>Kitzur Hilchos Bein Hametzarim p. 10:9. Yalkut Yosef (Mdinei Yemey Tisha B'av n. 13) writes that Sephardim shouldn't launder towels or hand towels during the week of Tisha B'av. </ref>#Bed sheets may not be changed during the Nine Days <ref>Mishna Berura 551:33 </ref> unless they are soiled. However, if a guest arrives during the Nine Days then one may place clean sheets on the bed <ref>Shu”t Tzitz Eliezer 13:61</ref>#In hospitals, it is permitted to clean the linens and clothing because this is done to keep clean for health reasons and not for pleasure. In hotels and motels they can change the linens for new guests because people are disgusted by using what others have already used. <ref>Tzitz Eliezer 13:61 </ref>#A clean tablecloth can be used on Shabbos during the Nine Days <ref>Taz OC 551:4</ref>#A fresh handkerchief may be used only if the old one is dirty and unusable <ref>Shu”t Rivevos Ephraim OC 2:555</ref>
==Showering, Bathing, and Swimming==
 # The minhag in some places is to refrain from bathing during the week which Tisha BeAv falls out and some places have the minhag not to bathe during the Nine Days.<Refref>S”A Shulchan Aruch 551:16 </ref> The Sephardi minhag is only to refrain from bathing in warm water during the week which Tisha BeAv falls out<ref>Yalkut Yosef 551:13</ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is to avoid pleasure bathing all 9 days.<ref>Rama 551:16</ref>#If someone is sweaty or dirty it is permitted to shower during the nine days to clean off and not for pleasure.<ref>Aruch Hashulchan 551:37 writes that it is permitted for someone who is dirty to bathe normally since he is doing so for cleanliness and not pleasure. Igrot Moshe EH 4:84:4 writes similarly that someone sweaty on a hot day can shower during the nine days.</ref> Some say that it should only be done with cold water and only with part of the body at a time.<ref>See Shevet Halevi 7:77 who rules that someone sweaty can shower in cold water with part of the body at a time but he adds that it is up to a God-fearing person when to be lenient about this. Vayivarech Dovid 1:74 permits showering to remove sweat even with soap.</ref># The Ashkenazic minhag is not to go swimming in the Nine Days. <Refref>Sh"t Teshuvot VeHanhagot 2:263, Piskei Teshuvot 551:46  # Some Poskim agree that it is OK to go swimming for exercise, but not for fun.[http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/735559/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Halachos_of_the_Three_Weeks Rabbi Ayreh Lebowitz], Moadei Yeshurun (pg 128) quoting Rav Moshe, Halichot Shlomo (Moadim, vol 2, chap 14, note 7), MeBayit Levi (vol 13, pg 22, note 5) quoting Rav Wosner, Sh"t Rivevot Ephraim 3:333, 4:135:14, 6:285:2, and Shevet HaKehati 1:169:4. [http://books.google.com/books?id=k2lV5wQwwj0C&lpg=PA34&ots=yg-xJtgt00&dq=swimming%20during%20the%20three%20weeks&pg=PA12#v=onepage&q=swimming%20during%20the%20three%20weeks&f=false Rabbi Eider] quotes Rav Moshe Iggerot Moshe Even Haezer 4:84 who says even during the [[nine days]] if one is sweating or dirty and wants to wash off it's permissible to dip in the pool for a short time. Shaarim mitzuyanim bihalacha kuntres acharon 122:12 is lenient with children swimming in private area during the [[nine days]], but not in public, like camps.</ref> The Sephardic minhag, however, is to refrain from swimming in cold water during the week in which [[Tisha BeAv]] falls (Shevua SheChal Bo). <ref> Yalkut Yosef (Shevua SheChal Bo #14) writes that strictly speaking the Sephardic minhag would allow swimming in cold water during Shevua SheChal Bo, however, because of danger it's proper to refrain from it. This is the position of Rav Ovadya Yosef in Sh"t Yechave Daat 1:38. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=2181 Rabbi Mansour on dailyhalacha.com] however, writes that swimming during Shevua SheChal Bo is forbidden because of bathing. See also Or Letzion.</ref>#On Friday before Shabbat Chazon some permit someone who always takes a shower on Friday to take a shower before Shabbat.<ref>Rivevot Efraim 4:139 citing Rav Moshe (Rav Eider's Ben Hametzarim p. 13) and Rav Henkin (Approbation of Nechema Yosef)</ref>
==Eating Meat and Drinking Wine==
 # The Ashkenazic and Sephardic custom is to refrain from meat, poultry, and wine during the [[nine days]]. Ashkenazim include [[Rosh Chodesh]] in this prohibition, while Sephardim are lenient regarding the day of [[Rosh Chodesh]] itself and some Sephardim are strict. <Refref> The gemara Baba Batra 60b quotes the opinion of Rabbi Yishmael Ben Elisha that after the destruction of the Beit HaMikdash, it would have been appropriate for the rabbis to ban eating meat and drinking wine in order to properly mourn. However, since most of the congregation would not be able to abide by this, the rabbis never made it. Biur HaGra OC 551:9 writes that this is the source for refraining from eating meat and drinking wine prior to Tisha B'Av, that although it is impossible to ban eating meat and drinking wine throuvghout throughout the year, it is possible to refrain from meat and wine for a short period of time. The Mishna Gemara in Taanit 26b the Gemara 30a discuss the prohibition of eating meat during the seudat hamakseket hamafseket prior to tisha b'av. Rambam Hilchot Taaniot 5:6 says that the custom is to extend the prohibition beyond that meal. He says that some don't eat meat during the week of tisha b'av, and some don't eat from [[rosh chodesh]] av and onward. Shulchan Aruch 551:9 writes that there are three customs about not eating meat and drinking wine; some refrain only for the week on [[Tisha BeAv]], some refrain for the [[nine days]] (from [[Rosh Chodesh]] Av), some refrain for the whole three weeks. </ref>Ashkenazim include [[Rosh Chodesh]] in this prohibition,<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:58 writes that the Ashkenazic custom is not to eat meat or drink wine for the [[nine days]] including [[Rosh Chodesh]] Av but excluding [[Shabbat]] (Mishna Brurah 551:59). This is also written in the [http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5762/devarim.html Weekly Halacha by Rabbi Neustadt]. Sh"t Yechave Daat 1:</ref> while Sephardim are lenient regarding the day of [[Rosh Chodesh]] itself and some Sephardim are strict. <ref>Sh"t Yechave Daat 1:41, Moed Likol Chai 9:15, [http://www.doresh-tzion.co.il/QAShowAnswer.aspx?qaid=97492 Rav Bentzion Mussafi], and Kaf Hachayim 551:125 write that the Sephardic custom is to refrain from eating meat and wine during the [[nine days]], however, but on [[Rosh Chodesh]] the minhag is to be lenient. However, however, they add that some are strict. See also Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 169), [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=2184 Rabbi Mansour on dailyhalacha.com], and Halachot and History of The [[Three Weeks]] (by Rabbi Shlomo Churba, pg 37) who all write that the Sephardic custom is not to eat meat, poultry or wine in the [[nine days]]. </ref># Some say that there is what to rely on to have meat leftovers from [[Shabbat]] during the [[nine days]], while others forbid. <Refref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 177) writes that there is what to rely on, as does the Torat Moadim 5:46. Birkei Yosef 551:6 says that in order to encourage proper for fulfillment of the meal itself we allow the leftovers to be eaten later. However, the [http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5762/devarim.html Weekly Halacha by Rabbi Neustadt] quotes Sh"t Igrot Moshe 4:21(4) who forbids (see there). Aruch Hashulchan 551:24 also forbids it, also see Piskei Teshuvot 551:34. Kaf Hachayim 551:144 says that for melave malka one is permitted to eat meat leftovers as long as he doesn't prepare extra for [[shabbat]] with the intention of having leftovers. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/displayRead.asp?readID=950 Rabbi Eli Mansour] quotes that Rav Chaim Palachi allows this while Chacham Benzion Abba Shaul says it's better not to. Rabbi Mansour also says that for the remainder of the week kids can eat it lechatchila and if adults eat it one cannot rebuke them. Piskei Teshuvot 551:34 says there are some poskim who permit eating meat for melave malka for someone who usually eats meat for melave malka. </ref># One who needs Although the custom is not to eat meat for health reasons such as a child, pregnant woman, nursing woman, or an elderly or sick person drink wine during the [[nine days]], stores that sell meat or wine may continue to sell meat or wine because someone who is permitted to eat meatit, but if he can eat chicken that is preferablesuch as a sick person or for a seudat mitzvah may need it. <ref> Mishna Brurah 551Iggerot Moshe 4:64. Yechave Daat 1:41 adds that if they do112 </ref> One is permitted to leave his meat restaurant open during the [[nine days]], they because the people who are not required to make a eating meat during the [[hatarat nedarimnine days]]. </, without the availability of kosher meat, may go to a non-kosher restaurant but he should preferably serve only chicken. <ref># One may eat meat at a meal for a mitzvah such as the meal of Yechave Daat 3:38. For more on whether a meat restaurant may remain open, see [[Brit Milah]] and this includes http://www.koltorah.org/ravj/Restaurants%20Serving%20Meat%20During%20the%20Nine%20Days.htm Rabbi Chaim Jachter: Restaurants Serving Meat During the relatives and friend invited to Nine Days] </ref>#One may taste the meat food on erev [[shabbat]] during the meal however, it doesn’t include those who just walk in to eat. <Ref> Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 196-7)[[nine days]] but should try not to swallow any meat ingredients. Rama 551:10 allows eating meat for a seudat mitzva, and <ref>Shemirat [[Shabbat]] Kihilchita 42:61 since the Magen Avraham 250:1 quotes the Taz there explains Arizal that only someone would normally be invited to this seuda, may partake in this meat seuda during this time. If the bris is scheduled to be performed before is part of the mitzva of kavod [[nine daysshabbat]], even if it has already been postponed, Shaare Teshuva 551:10 says you cannpot postpone any further to allow to taste the food to make sure it tastes good. </ref>#One should not refrain from eating meat, on Shabbat during the nine days, or even if Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and is pushed off until Sunday, one who does this is considered someone who breaches fencesshould eat meat on that Shabbat. </ref>Mishna Brura 551:59 </ref># One may eat is permitted to buy meat at a meal held for a siyum and this includes wine during the friends and family invited to [[Nine days]] for use after the meal[[Nine days]] if there is a sale, or he won't have time afterwards. <Refref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taaniyot pg 196-8)Iggerot Moshe 4:112 </ref>#One should refrain from eating food cooked with meat. <ref>Although the Rama Shulchan Aruch 551:10 writes says that one should minimize the amount of guests invited to this mealsome allow you to eat foods cooked with meat, Rav Moshe Feinstein Mishna Brura 551:63 and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (cited in Nitei Gavriel 18Kaf Hachaim 551:7), rule 142 say that if the custom is to refrain from doing so. Ish Matzliach footnotes to Mishna Brura 551:10:note 4 agrees.</ref> Nevertheless, one who completes the masechet eats is permitted to eat food that was cooked in a communal dining room (such meat pots, as long as a camp or hotel)no meat was cooked with it, all those who eat with him may participate. Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 132 says that preferably one shouldn't hold a siyum and one cannot taste the taste of a masechet after the sixth of avmeat in his food. Aruch Hashulchan 551<ref>Mishna Brurah 551:63, Kaf Hachayim 551:28 says that since nowadays we do not properly celebrate the Torah142, Orchot Chaim 31, preferably no siyums should be held during the [[nine days]]Nitei Gavriel 38:5. </ref># One may eat Shaar Hatziyun 551:68 writes that even if a small piece of meat that will not be tasted fell into a meal held for a [[Bar Mitzvah]] only if it’s held the day that the son becomes 13dish, it may still be eaten. </ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 200)Parve food which looks like meat may be eaten during the Nine Days. <ref>Nitei Gavriel 38:6</ref>#If, Halichot Shlomo (Moadim vol 2 pg 415)by mistake, Yad Yitzchak 3:230one recited a blessing over meat or wine, Yad Efrayim 551:31, Divrei Yatziv 2he should taste a bit so that his blessing will not have been in vain. <ref>Sdei Chemed (Bein ha-Metzarim 1:2384). Even though this is not mentioned by See also the Rama 551:10 as one of the meals you can eat meat for, Magen Avraham 225:4 says that topic of mistakenly making a bar mitzva meal is Bracha on food on a seudat mitzva, because just like siyum on a masechet is the celebration of the culmination of a mitzva, so too a bar mitzva is celebrating culminating the mitzva of fast day at [[chinuchFast_Days#Other_Halachas_of_fast_days]]. </ref>#It Since the minhag is preferable not to even feed children meat during the drink wine, a question arises as to what we should do with [[nine daysHavdalah]], but if you do you may have on who to rely. For Sephardim one is permitted to use wine and drink it as usual <ref>Magen Avraham Shulchan Aruch 551:31 says you can give children meat even during 10. Yalkut Yosef page 574 adds that one may drink the week of tisha b'av because we never had the minhag entire cup. </ref> while for kids to mournAshkenazim there are several possibilities. However, he adds that this is only true for a child below the age of [[chinuch]], meaning a child who doesn't understand what we mourn. Mishna Brurah <ref>The Aruch HaShulchan 551:70 and Shaar Hatziyun 551:76 say that although there is no requirement for 26 says some people have the child Minhag to mourn for the beit hamikdash, the prohibition of feeding children prohibited items discussed drink beer or another drink that qualifies as Chamar Medina. The Eshel Avraham 551 and the Chazon Ish (quoted in SA OC 343 extends to things Imrei Yosher, pg. 4) says that are only prohibited by custom and therefore one shouldn't feed meat to his kids unless for health reasons and the reason the Rama permitted those who say [[Havdalah]] every week over wine for children was for a mitzvaor grape juice should do the same during the Nine Days as well. Iggerot Rav Moshe 4Harari in his Mikraei Kodesh 1:21:4 says even 14 say it is preferable to feed the children meat on Friday afternoon before [[shabbat]] would not be allowed unless they usually eat their [[Friday night meal]] at use grape juice as this doesn't cause any joy, and Rav Moshe Karp in Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 says that hourin this situation an adult can drink it lechatchila. Based on the Magen Avraham Rama 551:31, Rabbi David Yosef in torat hamoadim Siman 5 page 190 says there is ample room 10 says to preferably give it to be lenient in this casea child. Aruch Hashulchan Mishna Brurah 551:26 as well 70 says there is room to that it should be lenient, especially in a case where it is a weak child who can gain a lot from eating minor above the meat. </ref># Although the custom is not to eat meat or drink wine during age of [[chinuch]] but doesn't fully comprehend the concept of [[nine daysmourning]], stores that sell meat or wine may continue to sell meat or wine because someone who is permitted to eat it, such as a sick person or for a seudat mitzvah may need itthe destruction of the beit hamikdash. <ref> Iggerot Rav Moshe 4:112 </ref> One is permitted to leave his meat restaurant open during Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 154 says the adults should drink the [[nine daysHavdalah]], because wine. Darkei Moshe 551:9 says in the people who are eating meat during name of the [[nine days]], without the availability of kosher meat, may go to a non-kosher restaurant but he should preferably serve only chickenMaharil that this can be done lechatchila. See piskei teshuvot 551:35 and Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 for more poskim who say this. </ref> Yechave Daat 3:38. For more on whether #Even somebody who normally uses a meat restaurant may remain open, see cup of wine for [[http://wwwBirkat HaMazon]], should not during the [[nine days]] except for on [[Shabbat]].koltorah.org/ravj/Restaurants%20Serving%20Meat%20During%20the%20Nine%20Days<ref>Rama 551:10 with Mishna Brurah 551:69, Kaf Hachayim 551:152.htm Rabbi Chaim Jachter: Restaurants Serving Meat During the Nine Days] < </ref> # One may taste the eat meat food on erev [[shabbatShabbat]] during the [[nine days]] but should try not to swallow any meat ingredientsNine Days. <ref> Shemirat [[Shulchan Aruch 552:10</ref> If one began a meal on [[Shabbat]] Kihilchita 42:61 since and it continued into the Magen Avraham 250:1 quotes the Arizal that night, one may continue to have meat, however, some are strict in this is part of the mitzva of kavod [[shabbat]] to taste the food to make sure it tastes goodsituation. </ref>Nitei Gavriel 38:4</ref># One Although the custom is permitted not to buy meat and drink wine during the [[Nine nine days]] for use after the [[Nine days]] if there is a sale, or he won't have time afterwardsone may drink beer, whiskey, liquor, cognac and arak. <ref> Iggerot Moshe 4[http:112 </ref># One is permitted to eat food that was cooked in meat pots/www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2730 Drinking Liquor, as long as not meat was cooked with itBeer and Cognac During the Nine Days] by Rabbi Eli Mansour, and one cannot taste the taste of the meat in his food. <ref> Ish Matzliach footnotes to Mishna Brurah Brura 551:639:note 5 </ref> === Children ===#One who needs to eat meat for health reasons such as a child, Kaf Hachayim 551:142a pregnant woman, Orchot Chaim 31a nursing woman, or an elderly or sick person is permitted to eat meat, Nitei Gavriel 38:5. Shaar Hatziyun 551:68 writes that even but if a small piece of meat he can eat chicken that will not be tasted fell into a dish, it may still be eatenis preferable. </ref> Parve food which looks like meat may be eaten during the Nine DaysMishna Brurah 551:64. Yechave Daat 1:41 adds that if they do, they are not required to make a [[hatarat nedarim]]. </ref>Nitei Gavriel 38:6#It is preferable not to feed children meat during the [[nine days]], but if you do you may have on who to rely. </ref># If, by mistake, one recited a blessing over Magen Avraham 551:31 says you can give children meat or wine, he should taste even during the week of tisha b'av because we never had the minhag for kids to mourn. However, he adds that this is only true for a bit so that his blessing will not have been in vain. <ref> Sdei Chemed (Bein ha-Metzarim 1:4). See also child below the topic age of mistakenly making a Bracha on food on a fast day at [[Fast_Days#Other_Halachas_of_fast_dayschinuch]]. </ref> # Since the minhag is not to drink wine, a question arises as to , meaning a child who doesn't understand what we should do with mourn. [[Havdalah]]https://www. For sephardim one is permitted to use wine and drink it as usual <ref> Shulchan Aruch 551:10yutorah. Yalkut Yosef page 574 adds that one may drink the entire cuporg/lectures/lecture. <cfm/890440/rabbi-hershel-schachter/ref> while for Ashkenazim there are several possibilities. <ref> The Aruch HaShulchan 551:26 says some people have -children-obligated-in-observances-that-commemorate-the-destruction-of-the Minhag -beis-hamikdash-/ Rav Hershel Schachter ]explains that although normally a child is not obligated to drink beer or another drink that qualifies as Chamar Medina. The Eshel Avraham 551 and observe practices of a mourner, even when he reaches the age of chinuch, the Chazon Ish practice of not eating meat is not a function of mourning (quoted in Imrei Yosher, pg. 4) says that those who say [[Havdalah]] every week over as a mourner during shiva is allowed to eat meat and drink wine or grape juice should do .) Instead, it is part of the same during the Nine Days as well. Rav Moshe Harari in his Mikraei Kodesh 1:14 say it is preferable obligation to use grape juice as this doesn't cause any joy, mourn and Rav Moshe Karp in Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 says that in this situation remember the Beit Hamikdash. (See Gemara Baba Batra 60b). Children do not have an adult can drink it lechatchila. Rama 551:10 says obligation to observe the laws of mourning, but they do have an obligation to preferably give it to a childremember the beit hamidkash. Mishna Brurah 551:70 says that it should be a minor above Therefore they refrain from eating meat and drinking wine during the nine days once they have reached the age of [[chinuch]] but doesn't fully comprehend the concept of [[mourning]] the destruction of the beit hamikdash. Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 154 says the adults should drink the [[Havdalah]] wine. Darkei Moshe <br>Mishna Brurah 551:9 says in the name of the Maharil that this can be done lechatchila. See piskei teshuvot 55170 and Shaar Hatziyun 551:35 and Hilchot UMinhagei Ben HaMetsarim chapter 4 note 74 for more poskim who 76 say this. </ref> # Even somebody who normally uses a cup of wine that although there is no requirement for the child to mourn for [[Birkat HaMazon]]the beit hamikdash, should not during the [[nine days]] except for on [[Shabbat]]. <ref> prohibition of feeding children prohibited items discussed in SA OC 343 extends to things that are only prohibited by custom and therefore one shouldn't feed meat to his kids unless for health reasons. The reason that the Rama 551:10 with Mishna Brurah 551:69, Kaf Hachayim 551:152permitted [[Havdalah]] wine for children was because Havdala is a mitzva. </refbr># One may eat Shu"t Iggerot Moshe 4:21:4 says even to feed the children meat on Friday afternoon before [[shabbat]] would not be allowed unless they usually eat their [[ShabbatFriday night meal]] during the Nine Daysat that hour.<Refbr>Shulchan Aruch 552:10</ref>If one began a meal on [[Shabbat]] and it continued into the nightBased on the Magen Avraham 551:31, one may continue to have meat, however, some are strict Rabbi David Yosef in Torat Hamoadim Siman 5 page 190 says there is ample room to be lenient in this situationcase.<Ref>Nitei Gavriel 38Aruch Hashulchan 551:4</ref># Although the custom 26 as well says there is not room to drink wine during the nine daysbe lenient, one may drink beer, whiskey, liquor, cognac and arakespecially in a case where it is a weak child who can gain a lot from eating the meat. <refbr> [http://wwwRabbi Eider (The Halachos Of The Three Weeks p.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha7) writes that generally the minhag not to eat meat even applies to children.aspx?id=2730 Drinking Liquor, Beer But if it is hard to feed a child dairy and Cognac During the Nine he is used to eating meat every day he can continue to eat meat in the Nine Days] by Rabbi Eli Mansour . </ref> ===Siyum and Seudat Mitzva=== #One may eat meat at a meal for a mitzvah such as the meal of a [[Brit Milah]] and this includes the relatives and friend invited to the meal however, it doesn’t include those who just walk in to eat. <ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 196-7). Rama 551:10 allows eating meat for a seudat mitzva, and the Taz there explains that only someone would normally be invited to this seuda, may partake in this meat seuda during this time. If the bris is scheduled to be performed before the [[nine days]], even if it has already been postponed, Shaare Teshuva 551:10 says you cannot postpone any further to allow eating meat, and one who does this is considered someone who breaches fences. </ref>#One may eat meat at a meal held for a siyum and this includes the friends and family invited to the meal. <ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taaniyot pg 196-8). Although the Rama 551:10 writes that one should minimize the amount of guests invited to this meal, Rav Moshe Feinstein and Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (cited in Nitei Gavriel 18:7), rule that if the one who completes the masechet eats in a communal dining room (such as a camp or hotel), all those who eat with him may participate. Rav Moshe Feinstein quoted in Moadei Yeshurun page 132 says that preferably one shouldn't hold a siyum of a masechet after the sixth of av. Aruch Hashulchan 551:28 says that since nowadays we do not properly celebrate the Torah, preferably no siyums should be held during the [[nine days]]. </ref># A siyum can be made on a masechta of gemara, seder of mishna, or book of Tanach studied with the rishonim.<ref>Rav Eider in Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 7</ref>#Some say that from the 7th of Av they shouldn't serve meat at a siyum.<ref>Rav Moshe Feinstein (cited by Rav Eider in Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 7) holds that after the 7<sup>th</sup> of Av they should not serve meat even at a siyum.</ref>#One may eat meat a meal held for a [[Bar Mitzvah]] only if it’s held the day that the son becomes 13. <ref>Chazon Ovadyah (Arba Taniyot pg 200), Halichot Shlomo (Moadim vol 2 pg 415), Yad Yitzchak 3:230, Yad Efrayim 551:31, Divrei Yatziv 2:238. Even though this is not mentioned by the Rama 551:10 as one of the meals you can eat meat for, Magen Avraham 225:4 says that a bar mitzva meal is a seudat mitzva, because just like siyum on a masechet is the celebration of the culmination of a mitzva, so too a bar mitzva is celebrating culminating the mitzva of [[chinuch]]. </ref># If a person missed hearing the siyum itself a rav should be consulted.<ref>Rav Eider in Halachos Of The Three Weeks p. 8 writes that it seems to him to be permitted to eat from the meal even if he missed hearing the siyum but he concludes that a rav should be consulted.</ref> 
==Weddings==
see [[Three_Weeks# The Sephardic minhag is not to get married Weddings|Weddings during the Nine Days <Ref>S”A 551:2 </ref>, while the Ashkenazic minhag is not to get married anytime in the [[Three Weeks]]. <Ref>Rama 551:2 </ref> # Even if the man has not yet fulfilled the mitzvah of Pru Urevu the minhag is not to get married during the Nine Days including [[Rosh Chodesh]]. <Refref>Yalkut Yosef (Moadim p. 560) </ref>
==Trips and Pleasurable activities==
# Some say that one shouldn't take a pleasure trip during the [[nine days]], while others disagree. <ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quotes one gadol who said that it was forbidden to take pleasurable trips during the [[nine days]]. Afterwards, he writes that this is hard to understand and isn't included in the prohibition of binyan shel simcha.</ref>
# It is permitted to have one's grass cut during the [[nine days]], however, one should refrain from doing so on [[Tisha BeAv]].<Ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quoting Rav Moshe Bick, Rav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg, and Rav Munk writes that it is permitted to cut one's grass during the [[nine days]], but on [[Tisha BeAv]] itself one should be strict not to.</ref>
#Some say that one shouldn't take a pleasure trip during the [[nine days]], while others disagree. <ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quotes one gadol who said that it was forbidden to take pleasurable trips during the [[nine days]]. Afterwards, he writes that this is hard to understand and isn't included in the prohibition of binyan shel simcha.</ref>#It is permitted to have one's grass cut during the [[nine days]], however, one should refrain from doing so on [[Tisha BeAv]].<ref>Rivevot Efraim 1:374 quoting Rav Moshe Bick, Rav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg, and Rav Munk writes that it is permitted to cut one's grass during the [[nine days]], but on [[Tisha BeAv]] itself one should be strict not to.</ref> ==ShehecheyanuBuying Clothing== # It There is a restriction on buying new items which would warrant a Shehechiyanu during the entire [[Three Weeks]] ( [[Three_Weeks#Saying_Shehecheyanu]]).#In the Nine Days in particular, it is forbidden to buy new clothes even if there is no Shehechiyanu. <ref>Rama 551:7 </ref> This practice applies to Ashkenazim and also Sephardim.<ref>The Rama 551:7 writes that since it is forbidden to mend a garment during the nine days, certainly it is forbidden to buy a new garment then. The Kaf Hachaim 551:21 explains that according to Shulchan Aruch this is permitted. Shulchan Aruch 551:2 only forbids buying items during the nine days if it leads to happiness such as buying an item for a wedding, but not in general. This also seems to be the opinion of the Ben Ish Chai (Shana Rishona, Devarim no. 2). See, however, Shulchan Aruch 554:22. Mikraei Kodesh (Ben Hametzarim 13:2) quotes Rav Mordechai Eliyahu as being strict about buying garments during the nine days and Rav Ovadia Yosef as being lenient. Yet, Chazon Ovadia (Ben Hametzarim p. 208) seems to accept the custom that one should be strict not to buy new garments during the nine days. Or Letzion 3:26:2 is strict.</ref>#The Ashkenazic minhag is not to wear new clothing during the Nine Daysincludes Shabbat of the Nine Days.<ref>Magen Avraham 551:7 and Mishna Brurah 551:9 write that it is forbidden to wear new garments during the Nine Days including Shabbat. Even though the Biur Halacha 551:6 s.v. kelim says it is permitted to wear a new undershirt on Shabbat Chazon, the Piskei Teshuvot 551:26 quotes Rav Sraya Deblitzky in his sefer Tisha Bav Shechal Byom Eched who is bothered by the seeming contradiction in the Mishna Brurah.</ref> ==The Week Tisha B'av Falls Out== #Sephardim may not cut their hair, shave, do laundry, or wear newly laundered clothing the week of Tisha B'av.<ref>Mishna Tanit 26b, Rambam Taniyot 5:6, Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:3<Ref/ref>S”A Ashkenazim are strict about hair cutting and shaving for all Three Weeks and laundry for all Nine Days.<ref>Rama 551:7 4</ref> Most #If Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and is pushed off until Sunday, according to Sephardim the practices of these halachot are the same as weeks before Tisha B'av do not apply that year.<ref>Rabbi Ba in Yerushalmi Tanit 4:6 explains that if Tisha B'av falls out on Shabbat and the fast is delayed until Sunday the restrictions of the week of Tisha B'av don't apply. The Rosh (Tanit 4:32) and Ran (Tanit 9b s.v. yerushalmi) accept the Yerushalmi. However, the Smag (Asin Derabbanan 3) writes the minhag is to forbid the entire week of Tisha B'av even when it falls out on Shabbat. Hagahot Maimiyot (Taniyot 5:5), Smak 96, and Kol Bo (Feldheim 5769 Edition, 62 s.v. vkesat, fnt. 148) agree. Shulchan Aruch O.C. 551:4 rules like the Yerushalmi. Rama is strict because either way Ashkenazim don't launder clothing or wear laundered clothing for the [[all Nine Days and don't cut their hair all Three Weeks]], so see the [[Three_Weeks#Saying_Shehecheyanu]].</ref>
==Links==
 * Article on [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/711706/Rabbi_Josh_Flug/The_Laws_Of_Bein_HaMetzarim The Laws Of Bein HaMetzarim] by Rabbi Josh Flug* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/796035/Rabbi_Hershel_Schachter/Halachos_of_the_Nine_Days_and_Rosh_Chodesh Halachos of the Nine Days and Rosh Chodesh] by Rabbi Hershel Schachter* [http://www.yutorah.org/lectures/lecture.cfm/735779/Rabbi_Aryeh_Lebowitz/Halachos_of_the_Nine_Days Halachos of the Nine Days] by Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz 
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