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#According to some authorities, this requirement is not needed when dining accompanied by other adults or with children old enough to be embarrassed by intimate behavior.<ref>Masat Binyamin (112, quoted by the Pitchei Teshuva 195:3) considers the presence of others as a heker. Shiurei Bracha (195:11), Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 110), Darkei Tahara (pg. 44) rule this way as well. Rabbi Mordechai Willig ([http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/877146/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-125-eating-at-the-same-table/ Niddah Shiur 125]) is lenient regarding this as well. | #According to some authorities, this requirement is not needed when dining accompanied by other adults or with children old enough to be embarrassed by intimate behavior.<ref>Masat Binyamin (112, quoted by the Pitchei Teshuva 195:3) considers the presence of others as a heker. Shiurei Bracha (195:11), Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 110), Darkei Tahara (pg. 44) rule this way as well. Rabbi Mordechai Willig ([http://www.yutorah.org/sidebar/lecture.cfm/877146/rabbi-mordechai-i-willig/niddah-shiur-125-eating-at-the-same-table/ Niddah Shiur 125]) is lenient regarding this as well. | ||
Badei Hashulchan (195:34) however brings that the Rashba ([http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=9381&st=&pgnum=346 Mishmeret Habayit 3b]) held that the presence of others does not help, and the Raah ([http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=9381&st=&pgnum=346 Bedek Habayit 3b]) also only permitted if someone sat in between the husband and wife. He does however agree that this is room to be lenient Halachically. </ref> | Badei Hashulchan (195:34) however brings that the Rashba ([http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=9381&st=&pgnum=346 Mishmeret Habayit 3b]) held that the presence of others does not help, and the Raah ([http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=9381&st=&pgnum=346 Bedek Habayit 3b]) also only permitted if someone sat in between the husband and wife. He does however agree that this is room to be lenient Halachically. </ref> | ||
#According to some authorities, drinking or noshing on a small snack does not mandate a reminder.<ref> | #According to some authorities, drinking or noshing on a small snack does not mandate a reminder.<ref>Responsa Tzitz Eliezer (vol. 18, no. 23), The Laws of Niddah (Rabbi Nacson, pg. 33)</ref> | ||
#A sefer or siddur should not be used as a reminder as this constitutes irreverent usage of Holy Books. (See [[Respecting Holy Books]]).<ref>Ohel Yakov Kavod U'Kedushat Sefarim (pg. 1) quoting Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky</ref> | #A sefer or siddur should not be used as a reminder as this constitutes irreverent usage of Holy Books. (See [[Respecting Holy Books]]).<ref>Ohel Yakov Kavod U'Kedushat Sefarim (pg. 1) quoting Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky</ref> | ||
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==Sitting Together== | ==Sitting Together== | ||
#It is | #It is prohibited for them both to sit together on a long bench or couch where the movement of one can be felt by the other.<ref>Shaarei Dura (Niddah no. 18) brings this as a Chumrah that should be implemented. See Responsa Trumat Hadeshen (no. 251, brought by Rama Yoreh Deah 195:5) who brings this prohibition. | ||
* | There are a number of alternative explanations given for this prohibition: | ||
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* | *Taz (195:6) suggests that this was implemented in order to protect them from coming to improper thoughts. | ||
* | *Nekudat Hakesef (195:1) considers the feeling of the other's movement as touching or like sleeping in the same bed. | ||
*Trumat Hadeshen (251) implies that the issue is causing endearment which often comes along to sitting next to each-other. | |||
*Aruch Hashulchan (195:19) writes that this serves as a precaution from touch. | |||
</ref> If however, another person sits between them, this would be permitted.<ref>Rama (Yoreh Deah 195:5) from the Agudda</ref> Some Sepharadic authorities are lenient and allow them the sitting on the same bench, even when movement can be felt, provided that they take care not to touch. | |||
===Traveling Together=== | ===Traveling Together=== | ||
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==Smelling her Perfume== | ==Smelling her Perfume== | ||
# | #It is prohibited for the husband to to intentionally smell the aroma of his wife's perfume.<ref>Pitchei Teshuva (195:1) from Birchei Yosef, Taharat Habayit (vol. 2, pg. 175). | ||
Taharat Habayit adds that this restriction only applies to the husband, the wife may however intentionally sniff her husbands cologne. </ref> | |||
#A woman may place a fragrance close to her husband so that he can smell it for the beracha of Besamim in Havdala.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:42. See Badei Hashulchan 195:2 s.v. velo who considers this idea. </ref> | #A woman may place a fragrance close to her husband so that he can smell it for the beracha of Besamim in Havdala.<ref>Taharat Yosef 3:42. See Badei Hashulchan 195:2 s.v. velo who considers this idea. </ref> | ||
==Acts of Service== | ==Acts of Service== |