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==Background==
==Background==
# Making a shidduch is included in the mitzvah of imitating Hashem, as He made the first shidduch between Adam and Chava<ref>Devarim 13:5 and Sotah 14A. [[ See https://www.ou.org/torah/halacha/practical-halacha/paying-shadchan-part-1/| See Paying Shadchan Part 1]] on Ou.org</ref>
# Making a shidduch is included in the mitzvah of imitating Hashem, as He made the first shidduch between Adam and Chava<ref>Devarim 13:5 and Sotah 14A. see [https://www.ou.org/torah/halacha/practical-halacha/paying-shadchan-part-1/ Paying Shadchan Part 1] by Rabbi Avi Zakutinsky</ref>
# Many of these halachot may depend on the minhag. As such, of course it is important to consult one’s local rabbi.  
# Many of these halachot may depend on the minhag. As such, of course it is important to consult one’s local rabbi.  
# There is an obligation to pay a shadchan for arranging a shidduch<ref><Rama Choshen Mishpat 185:10. See Sefer Hanisuin K’Hilchosa chapter 4 that many poskim say that paying a shadchan is a segulah for shalom bayis and having children. See Teshuvos V’Hanhagos 1:736 quotes that there is a custom in many sefardic communities not to pay the shadchan </ref> whether the shadchan was hired or volunteered.<ref>Biur HaGra Choshen Mishpat 185:13. There may be a violation of the mitzvah of bal talin if you fail to pay the shadchan on time if you hired the shadchan, as opposed to if the shadchan volunteered. </ref> One must pay a shadchan, even if it is a member of the family<ref>Pischei Teshuva Even HaEzer 50:16</ref>
# There is an obligation to pay a shadchan for arranging a shidduch<ref>Rama Choshen Mishpat 185:10. See Sefer Hanisuin K’Hilchosa chapter 4 that many poskim say that paying a shadchan is a segulah for shalom bayis and having children. See Teshuvos V’Hanhagos 1:736 quotes that there is a custom in many sefardic communities not to pay the shadchan </ref> whether the shadchan was hired or volunteered.<ref>Biur HaGra Choshen Mishpat 185:13. There may be a violation of the mitzvah of bal talin if you fail to pay the shadchan on time if you hired the shadchan, as opposed to if the shadchan volunteered. </ref> One must pay a shadchan, even if it is a member of the family<ref>Pischei Teshuva Even HaEzer 50:16</ref>
# If the shadchan does not want to receive payment, there is no obligation to pay<ref>Pischei Teshuva Even HaEzer 50:17<ref>
# If the shadchan does not want to receive payment, there is no obligation to pay<ref>Pischei Teshuva Even HaEzer 50:17</ref>


==Who Should Pay?==
==Who Should Pay?==