Perfecting one's Middot

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People are naturally very unique when it comes to their personality and character traits. Some people are constantly angry, while others are calm and don't get angry ever or rarely. Some people are arrogant, while others are humble. [1]

The proper balance of Middot

  1. The correct and straight way in regards to character traits is to follow the middle path. For example, a person shouldn't be too stingy or too generous in giving away of his money, rather one should give according to one's ability. [2]
  2. Similarly, a person shouldn't desire physical items other than what a person needs to live. Nor should a person work too much in his business rather one should work to have enough funds for his worldly needs. [3]
  3. However, arrogance is a very bad character trait and should be avoided altogether. One should accustom oneself to have a humble spirit. Additionally, anger is a vey bad character trait and one should stay far away from it. Thus, one should accustom oneself to refrain from anger even over something which is deserving of getting angry. [4]
  4. A person should attempt to engage in being quiet except for speaking words of divrei torah or something that's necessary for his worldly needs. Even for one's worldly needs one shouldn't speak excessively. [5]

References

  1. Kitzur S"A 29:1
  2. Kitzur S"A 29:2
  3. Kitzur S"A 29:2
  4. Kitzur S"A 29:3
  5. Kitzur S"A 29:5