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The proper way to escort out the [[Shabbat]] is to have a festive meal after it is over just like we bring it in with the utmost respect.
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==General Halachot==
#A person should set his table on Saturday night even if one only plans on eating a [[Kezayit]] so as to respect the exiting of [[Shabbat]]. <ref>S”A 300:1 writes that a person should set his table for Malveh Malka on Saturday night. This is based on the Gemara [[Shabbat]] 119b. Tur 300:1 says that this is the proper way to escort the [[shabbat]] out just like we bring it in with proper respect. Mishna Brurah 300:1 explains that although it is important, [[melava malka]] is not quite as important as the three [[shabbat]] meals, meaning if you can't afford to eat [[melava malka]] unless you eliminate one of the [[shabbat]] meals you shouldn't do that. Mishna Brurah 300:2 explains that the reason is to give respect to the exiting of [[Shabbat]]. </ref> Even though many aren’t careful about it, a Yireh Shamayim (a G-d fearing person) should make an extra effort to keep it. <ref>Aruch HaShulchan 300:3, Shemirat [[Shabbat]] KeHilchata 63:1. The midrash kohelet rabba 12:5 says that in the future, a person will be resurrected using a bone located in one’s spine. The Kaf Hachayim 300:1-2 says that this bone called the luz is fed only with food eaten at a melave malka. Mishna Brurah 300:2 quotes the taz saying the same thing but calls the bone the nisko. In Shaar Hatziyun 300:7, he explains that since this bone didn't get pleasure from adam's sin, this bone was spared the curse of death. </ref>
#A person should set his table on Saturday night even if one only plans on eating a [[Kezayit]] so as to respect the exiting of [[Shabbat]].<ref>Shulchan Aruch O.C. 300:1 writes that a person should set his table for Malveh Malka on Saturday night. This is based on the Gemara [[Shabbat]] 119b. Tur 300:1 says that this is the proper way to escort the [[Shabbat]] out just like we bring it in with proper respect. Mishna Brurah 300:1 explains that although it is important, [[melava malka]] is not quite as important as the three [[shabbat]] meals, meaning if you can't afford to eat [[melava malka]] unless you eliminate one of the [[Shabbat]] meals you shouldn't do that. Mishna Brurah 300:2 explains that the reason is to give respect to the exiting of [[Shabbat]].</ref> Even though many aren’t careful about it, a Yireh Shamayim (a G-d fearing person) should make an extra effort to keep it.<ref>Aruch HaShulchan 300:3, Shemirat Shabbat KeHilchata 63:1. The Midrash Kohelet Rabba 12:5 says that in the future, a person will be resurrected using a bone located in one’s spine. The Kaf Hachayim 300:1-2 says that this bone called the luz is fed only with food eaten at a melave malka. Mishna Brurah 300:2 quotes the Taz saying the same thing but calls the bone the nisko. In Shaar Hatziyun 300:7, he explains that since this bone didn't get pleasure from Adam's sin, this bone was spared the curse of death. </ref>
#One should eat with specific intent that it should be for the meal of Melaveh Malka, preferably saying this expressly. See further in the topic on [[Having Kavana for Mitzvot]].<ref>Mishna Brurah 300:1 </ref>
#One should eat with specific intent that it should be for the meal of Melaveh Malka, preferably saying this expressly. See further in the topic on [[Having Kavana for Mitzvot]].<ref>Mishna Brurah 300:1 </ref>
#At the end of [[Birkat HaMazon]] for [[Melava Malka]], some authorities hold that one should say say "migdol yishuot malko" like on [[shabbat]] itself, instead of "magdil yishuot"<ref>Kaf Hachaim 189:11</ref>, while others say that one should say the regular "magdil yishuot" on [[Melava Malka]] just like during the week. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 300:4) </ref>
#At the end of [[Birkat HaMazon]] for [[Melava Malka]], some authorities hold that one should say say "migdol yishuot malko" like on [[shabbat]] itself, instead of "magdil yishuot"<ref>Kaf Hachaim 189:11</ref>, while others say that one should say the regular "magdil yishuot" on [[Melava Malka]] just like during the week. <ref>Yalkut Yosef (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 300:4) </ref>
#Some poskim allow eating meat leftovers on motzaei [[shabbat]] even during the [[nine days]] while some poskim say that it's prohibited. <ref>Shaare Teshuva 551:11 quotes the Birkei Yosef allowing one to eat leftover meat for melave malka but concludes himself that this is not the custom. See [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=950 Rabbi Mansour on Dailyhalacha.com] who quotes Rav Chayim Palachi in moed likol chai who says it is permissible and Chacham Bentzion Abba Shaul who says it is definitely preferable not to, especially if that is not that person's usual practice. Chelkat Yaakov 3:21 and Iggerot Moshe OC 4:21:4 both forbid it even for somebody who would usually eat it. [http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5762/devarim.html Rabbi Daniel Neustadt on Torah.org] agrees. </ref>
#Some poskim allow eating meat leftovers on motzaei [[shabbat]] even during the [[nine days]] while some poskim say that it's prohibited. See [[Nine_Days#Shabbat_and_Leftovers]] for the sources.


==Who is Obligated?==
==Who is Obligated?==


#Women are also obligated to eat [[Melava Malka]]. <ref>Pri Megadim A”A 300:1, Yechave Daat 4:25, Shemirat [[Shabbat]] KeHilchata 63:3. Magen Avraham 291:15 quotes the Avudarham saying that some women had the custom not to do chores on motzaei [[shabbat]]. The Gra in Maaseh Rav 150 says that he was also very strict on his wife. </ref>
#Women are also obligated to eat [[Melava Malka]].<ref>Pri Megadim A”A 300:1, Yechave Daat 4:25, Shemirat Shabbat KeHilchata 63:3. Magen Avraham 291:15 quotes the Avudarham saying that some women had the custom not to do chores on motzaei [[shabbat]]. The Gra in Maaseh Rav 150 says that he was also very strict on his wife. </ref>


==When should one perform Melava Malka?==
==When should one Perform Melava Malka?==
 
#Melva Malka should be fulfilled as soon after [[Shabbat]] as possible. If one isn’t hungry one may have it later but shouldn’t do an established activity before having Melveh Malka. However, certainly one shouldn’t delay it past [[Chatzot]] of the night. However, if one did delay past [[Chatzot]] one may still fulfill it until [[Olot HaShachar]]. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:2 and Shemirat Shabbat KeHilchata 63:5 write that Melveh Malka should be done right after [[Shabbat]] and shouldn’t do a established activity before Melvah Malka. However, they add, at least one should eat [[Melava Malka]] by [[Chatzot]] because the Shaare Teshuva 300:1 quotes the arizal that the holiness of [[shabbat]] only remains until [[chatzot]]. Nonetheless, Yalkut Yosef ([[Shabbat]] vol 1 pg 630) adds that if one didn’t do it before [[Chatzot]] one may still fulfill this mitzvah until [[Olot HaShachar]]. One of his proofs is from a story about the Gra in Tosefet Maaseh Rav (39). One time the Gra was sick on Saturday night and didn't eat [[Melava Malka]], when he got somewhat better it was still before Alot Hashachar and so he ate [[Melava Malka]]. Kaf Hachayim 300:14 says it should lechatchila be eaten within four halachic hours of [[shabbat]]. </ref>
#There’s no obligation for having Malveh Malka on Motzei [[Yom Tov]]. <ref>Shemirat [[Shabbat]] KeHilchata 63:4 rules that there's no obligation to eat Melveh Malka on [[Yom Tov]]. See also Sh”t Rivivot Efraim 3:292 who writes that the Chazon Ish would have a Malveh Malka on Motzei [[Yom Tov]]. </ref>
#Melva Malka should be fulfilled as soon after [[Shabbat]] as possible. If one isn’t hungry one may have it later but shouldn’t do an established activity before having Melveh Malka. However, certainly one shouldn’t delay it past [[Chatzot]] of the night. However, if one did delay past [[Chatzot]] one may still fulfill it until [[Olot HaShachar]]. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:2 and Shemirat [[Shabbat]] KeHilchata 63: 5 write that Melveh Malka should be done right after [[Shabbat]] and shouldn’t do a established activity before Melvah Malka. However, they add, at least one should eat [[Melava Malka]] by [[Chatzot]] because the Shaare Teshuva 300:1 quotes the arizal that the holiness of [[shabbat]] only remains until [[chatzot]]. Nonetheless, Yalkut Yosef ([[Shabbat]] vol 1 pg 630) adds that if one didn’t do it before [[Chatzot]] one may still fulfill this mitzvah until [[Olot HaShachar]]. One of his proofs is from a story about the Gra in Tosefet Maaseh Rav (39). One time the Gra was sick on Saturday night and didn't eat [[Melava Malka]], when he got somewhat better it was still before Alot Hashachar and so he ate [[Melava Malka]]. Kaf Hachayim 300:14 says it should lechatchila be eaten within four halachic hours of [[shabbat]]. </ref>
#If one extended his [[Seudat Shelishit]] until it got dark, some say that one is exempt from having Melveh Malka, and some argue. <ref>Eliyah Rabba 300:1 writes that he heard that if [[Seudat Shelishit]] until it got dark one is exempt from having Melveh Malka. However, Tehillat David 300, Kaf HaChaim 300:11 disagree with this. </ref>
#If one extended his [[Seudat Shelishit]] until it got dark, some say that one is exempt from having Melveh Malka, and some argue. <ref>Eliyah Rabba 300:1 writes that he heard that if [[Seudat Shelishit]] until it got dark one is exempt from having Melveh Malka. However, Tehillat David 300, Kaf HaChaim 300:11 disagree with this. </ref>
#There’s no obligation for having Malveh Malka on Motzei [[Yom Tov]].<ref>Shemirat Shabbat KeHilchata 63:4 rules that there's no obligation to eat Melveh Malka on [[Yom Tov]]. See also Sh”t Rivivot Efraim 3:292 who writes that the Chazon Ish would have a Malveh Malka on Motzei [[Yom Tov]]. </ref>


==What should one eat for Melava Malka?==
==What Should One Eat for Melava Malka?==
 
#One should try to eat bread for [[Melava Malka]], but if he cannot then cake is sufficient. If he cannot even eat cake he should at least have some fruits or vegetables. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:1. Yalkut Yosef ([[Shabbat]] vol 1, 300:1). The Gra in Biur Hagra 300:1 says that bread must be eaten at the seuda. In Maaseh Rav 150 it says that the Gra was extremely strict about this halacha. It tells a story about when Rav Chaim Volozhin came to visit him and hadn't ate [[melava malka]] because he wasn't feeling well and the Gra told him to eat. Rav Moshe Shternbuch in Teshuvot vihanhagot 2:166 explains that the reason the gra was so strict on this is because he felt it was something that was very neglected. </ref>
#One should try to eat bread for [[Melava Malka]], but if he cannot then cake is sufficient. If he cannot even eat cake he should at least have some fruits or vegetables. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:1. Yalkut Yosef ([[Shabbat]] vol 1, 300:1). The Gra in Biur Hagra 300:1 says that bread must be eaten at the seuda. In Maaseh Rav 150 it says that the Gra was extremely strict about this halacha. It tells a story about when Rav Chaim Volozhin came to visit him and hadn't ate [[melava malka]] because he wasn't feeling well and the Gra told him to eat. Rav Moshe Shternbuch in Teshuvot vihanhagot 2:166 explains that the reason the gra was so strict on this is because he felt it was something that was very neglected. </ref>
#One should wear nice [[Shabbat]] clothes during this meal. <ref>Kaf HaChaim 300:6, Shemirat [[Shabbat]] KeHilchata 63:2. Leket Yosher page 85 says that one shouldn't remove his [[shabbat]] clothes until he goes to sleep on motzaei [[shabbat]]. </ref>
#One should wear nice [[Shabbat]] clothes during this meal.<ref>Kaf HaChaim 300:6, Shemirat Shabbat KeHilchata 63:2. Leket Yosher page 85 says that one shouldn't remove his [[shabbat]] clothes until he goes to sleep on motzaei [[shabbat]]. </ref>
#Some have the custom to light candles and sing special zemirot on motzaei [[shabbat]] after [[Havdalah]]. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:3 </ref>
#Some have the custom to light candles and sing special zemirot on motzaei [[shabbat]] after [[Havdalah]]. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:3 </ref>
#One should spread a tablecloth on the table and set the table nicely. <ref>Mishna Brurah 300:1. Rav Moshe Shternbuch in Teshuvot vihanhagot 2:166 says that setting the table shows that we really want to extend [[shabbat]] and aren't happy that it is over. </ref>
#One should spread a tablecloth on the table and set the table nicely.<ref>Mishna Brurah 300:1. Rav Moshe Shternbuch in Teshuvot vihanhagot 2:166 says that setting the table shows that we really want to extend [[shabbat]] and aren't happy that it is over. </ref>
#It is beneficial to consume hot food and drink, and wash with hot water, as these provide ''refuot''. <ref>Gemara [https://www.sefaria.org/Shabbat.119b?lang=bi Shabbat] 119b See Rashi there for חמין and מלוגמא.</ref>
#It is beneficial to consume hot food and drink, and wash with hot water, as these provide ''refuot''. <ref>Gemara [https://www.sefaria.org/Shabbat.119b?lang=bi Shabbat] 119b See Rashi there for חמין and מלוגמא.</ref>


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