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==Who Should Say Kaddish==
==Who Should Say Kaddish==
# The midrashim<ref>Kol Bo (cited by Bet Yosef 376) cites a midrash where Rebbe went a person who was stuck outside the next world until his son would say Kaddish or read the Haftorah for his merit. The Gra 376:6 cites other sources which cite the midrash.</ref> speak of how a child saying Kaddish for a parent, father or mother, could save the parent from a harsh judgement in heaven. The Kabbalists explain that the child saying Kaddish also elevates the level of the parent in heaven.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 349) citing the Arizal (Shaar Hakavanot Drush Hakaddish 15b)</ref> Therefore, the minhag is to say Kaddish for a parent as well as get the Aliyah of Maftir and to pray as the Shaliach Tzibur especially for [[Arvit]]. <ref>Rama YD 376:4, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 27:1</reF>
# The midrashim<ref>Kol Bo (cited by Bet Yosef 376) cites a midrash where Rebbe went a person who was stuck outside the next world until his son would say Kaddish or read the Haftorah for his merit. The Gra 376:6 cites other sources which cite the midrash.</ref> speak of how a child saying Kaddish for a parent, father or mother, could save the parent from a harsh judgement in heaven. The Kabbalists explain that the child saying Kaddish also elevates the level of the parent in heaven.<ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 349) citing the Arizal (Shaar Hakavanot Drush Hakaddish 15b)</ref> Therefore, the minhag is to say Kaddish for a parent as well as get the Aliyah of Maftir and to pray as the Shaliach Tzibur especially for [[Arvit]]. <ref>Rama YD 376:4, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:1</reF>
# If a person’s parent passes away he should say kaddish for them even if the other parent is alive. If the mother passed away and the father doesn’t want his son to say kaddish for his mother while he’s alive, although it is best to convince him otherwise, the son should listen to his father. However, if a father passed away and the mother doesn’t want the son to say kaddish for his father while she’s alive he should try to convince her otherwise but if he can’t he doesn’t have to listen to her.<Ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 338)</ref>
# If a person’s parent passes away he should say kaddish for them even if the other parent is alive. If the mother passed away and the father doesn’t want his son to say kaddish for his mother while he’s alive, although it is best to convince him otherwise, the son should listen to his father. However, if a father passed away and the mother doesn’t want the son to say kaddish for his father while she’s alive he should try to convince her otherwise but if he can’t he doesn’t have to listen to her.<Ref>Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 338)</ref>
# Although we say Kaddish and [[prayers]] in the merit of our parents, the primary merit for parents is that a child follows in the just and proper way.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 27:22</ref>
# Although we say Kaddish and [[prayers]] in the merit of our parents, the primary merit for parents is that a child follows in the just and proper way.<ref>Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:22</ref>
# It is permissible to recite Kaddish in memory of a non-Jew as long as the one who you are saying it for was a moral individual. A convert should say Kaddish for his parents.<ref> Sh"t Yechave Daat 6:60, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 358) </ref>  
# It is permissible to recite Kaddish in memory of a non-Jew as long as the one who you are saying it for was a moral individual. A convert should say Kaddish for his parents.<ref> Sh"t Yechave Daat 6:60, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 358) </ref>  
# The Sephardic minhag is that anyone who wants may say Kaddish even if that means it will be a number of people reciting Kaddish together. <ref> Kaf HaChaim 132:16, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 334). The Chatam Sofer YD 2:345 records this as the Sephardic minhag as well.</ref> For a discussion on the Ashkenazic minhag see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2014/01/may-multiple-people-say-kaddish-simultaneously/ Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz]. Many Ashkenazim have adopted the Sephardic minhag.<ref>Chazon Ovadia citing Tzitz Eliezer 9:15:2 and Gesher Hachaim p. 333.</ref>
# The Sephardic minhag is that anyone who wants may say Kaddish even if that means it will be a number of people reciting Kaddish together. <ref> Kaf HaChaim 132:16, Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 1 p. 334). The Chatam Sofer YD 2:345 records this as the Sephardic minhag as well.</ref> For a discussion on the Ashkenazic minhag see [http://www.torahmusings.com/2014/01/may-multiple-people-say-kaddish-simultaneously/ Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz]. Many Ashkenazim have adopted the Sephardic minhag.<ref>Chazon Ovadia citing Tzitz Eliezer 9:15:2 and Gesher Hachaim p. 333.</ref>
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