Day of Wedding

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Shemira

  1. A bride and groom shouldn't go outside alone the week after their wedding.[1]
  2. Some have the practice for a bride and groom the week before their wedding not to go outside alone.[2]
  3. Some have the practice for a bride and groom the day of their wedding not to go outside alone.[3]

Fasting on Your Wedding Day

  1. Some have the custom for the bride and groom to fast on the day of their wedding. [4] However, most sephardim don't have this custom. [5]

Holding Hands

  1. Some hold that it is inappropriate for the bride and groom to hold hands before the chuppah. [6]

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Sources

  1. The Gemara (Brachot 54b) states that a bride and groom require a guard from dangerous demons. Rashi (s.v. chatan) explains that the reason that they are at risk is because the demon is jealous of them. The Rama E"H 64:1 codifies this as halacha that a bride and groom shouldn't go outside alone the week after their wedding. The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 149:!2 agrees. The Bikkurei Yacov 669:13 offers another reason for this halacha. He says that a bride and groom are compared to a king and queen. Since a king and queen don't go outside alone, a bride and groom shouldn't go outside alone.
  2. Nitai Gavriel (Nesuin v. 1, p. 55, 4:5) writes that some chasidim and Ethiopian communities have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone starting from the Shabbat before their wedding.
  3. Nitai Gavriel (v. 1, p. 55, 9:13) writes that some chasidim have the practice that a bride and groom don't go outside alone the day of their wedding based on a fear of the dangerous demons mentioned in Brachot 54b.
  4. Rama EH 61:1, Sh"t Maharam Mintz 109, Kitzur S"A 146:1, see TorahMusings for potential explanations of this practice, chabad.org
  5. Birkei Yosef OC 470:2, Sh"t Yechave Daat 4:61
  6. Rav Soloveitchik (quoted in M'peninei HaRav p. 272)