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===Shabbat===
===Shabbat===
# It is permitted to visit a mourner on [[Shabbat]]. However, one should not plan to visit a mourner specifically on [[Shabbat]]. <ref>Shulchan Aruch 287:1 writes that it's permitted to comfort a mourner on [[Shabbat]]. However, Mishna Brurah 287:1 points out that the Rabbis only permitted this with difficulty. Thus, says the Mishna Brurah, those who only comfort mourners on [[Shabbat]] are not acting correctly. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2230 Rabbi Mansour on Dailyhalacha.com] says therefore one shouldn't specifically plan to visit on [[Shabbat]]. Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:2 writes that the sephardic minhag is to go to the mourner's house for comforting on Shabbat and Yom Tov. </ref>
# It is permitted to visit a mourner on [[Shabbat]]. However, one should not plan to visit a mourner specifically on [[Shabbat]]. <ref>Shulchan Aruch 287:1 writes that it's permitted to comfort a mourner on [[Shabbat]]. However, Mishna Brurah 287:1 points out that the Rabbis only permitted this with difficulty. Thus, says the Mishna Brurah, those who only comfort mourners on [[Shabbat]] are not acting correctly. [http://www.dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=2230 Rabbi Mansour on Dailyhalacha.com] says therefore one shouldn't specifically plan to visit on [[Shabbat]]. Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:2 writes that the sephardic minhag is to go to the mourner's house for comforting on Shabbat and Yom Tov. Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 73) confirms this.</ref>
# If one comforts a mourner on [[Shabbat]] one should say "[[Shabbat]] Hiy MeLeNachem VeNechama Krova Lavo" and some are lenient to say HaMakom Yinachamecha. <Ref>Mishna Brurah 287:3 </ref>
# If one comforts a mourner on [[Shabbat]] one should say "[[Shabbat]] Hiy MeLeNachem VeNechama Krova Lavo" and some are lenient to say HaMakom Yinachamecha. <Ref>Mishna Brurah 287:3. Chazon Ovadia (Aveilut v. 3 p. 74) has a slightly longer version "[[Shabbat]] Hiy MeLeNachem VeNechama Krova Lavo Vlo Tosifu Ldava Od" based on the Maharshal. </ref>
 
===Yom Tov===
===Yom Tov===
# If someone's relative dies on Yom Tov or Chol Hamoed according to Shulchan Aruch the community should perform nichum aveilum on Yom Tov and Chol Hamoed.<ref>Shulchan Aruch OC 548:6, Shulchan Aruch YD 399:2</ref> The Ashkenazic minhag is not to go to go to the house of the mourner on Shabbat or Yom Tov but the minhag is to comfort the mourner on Chol Hamoed, Rosh Chodesh, Chanuka, and Purim.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:2</ref>
# If someone's relative dies on Yom Tov or Chol Hamoed according to Shulchan Aruch the community should perform nichum aveilum on Yom Tov and Chol Hamoed.<ref>Shulchan Aruch OC 548:6, Shulchan Aruch YD 399:2</ref> The Ashkenazic minhag is not to go to go to the house of the mourner on Shabbat or Yom Tov but the minhag is to comfort the mourner on Chol Hamoed, Rosh Chodesh, Chanuka, and Purim.<ref>Gesher Hachaim 1:20:5:2</ref>